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Sun Jan-03-10 09:28 PM
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Shit, fuck. 2010 is already starting to suck. |
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I have been given very short notice that I need to vacate where I am staying by this Friday (January 8). The new place where I will be moving will not be ready for 2-3 weeks. Since I cannot bear the thought of parting with my dachshund, that means I am going to have to go back to NC and stay with my husband, who I barely even like anymore. x(
This also screws up our separation time, since this is considered re-habitation.
I keep telling myself things will get better. They will someday, right??
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Sun Jan-03-10 09:34 PM
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1. My dear Pool Hall Ace... |
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Try to see it for what it is: a TEMPORARY setback...
Is there no place else you could go?
How about a pet-friendly motel?
I'm so sorry...
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Sun Jan-03-10 09:52 PM
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2. a pet-friendly motel would be great |
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if I had the pet-friendly money to pay for it.
In the mean time, I am scrambling to see what I can come up with.
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Sun Jan-03-10 10:11 PM
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3. absolutely no other choices for |
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a temporary stay? I wish you luck in finding an alternative, cause that sucks.
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Sun Jan-03-10 10:14 PM
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Sun Jan-03-10 10:16 PM
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5. you have my best wishes |
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in finding an alternative.
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Sun Jan-03-10 10:48 PM
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6. Are you renting a room from someone? If not, you might |
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want to check if that's even legal to give such short notice.
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Mon Jan-04-10 09:29 AM
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9. I'm paying utilities only. |
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They are friends of mine who have been away for awhile. Never mind that I dusted and vacuumed the whole house and cleaned the bathrooms from top to bottom, they were "horrified" that my "stuff" was all over the house.
For example, a friend gave me a beautiful vase, which I placed on the dining room table. My car keys and sunglasses were on the entry way table. There were coasters on the coffee table instead of on the end tables where they belong. They didn't even like my Crabtree & Evelyn hand soap and lotion by the bathroom sink. All of that was stowed under the sink. I guess no one is expected to wash their hands after using the bathroom. I find this petty, but then again, I'm not the homeowner here.
I started out living there with my husband, then when he started to threaten me, I told him he had to leave. Recently, one of his friends dropped off two large contractor bags of my belongings from our home. I've been going through them, sorting out papers that I need, burning and destroying the others.
In the original agreement with my husband, we were told we could stay until they came back for the holidays. After my husband was gone, I asked if I could stay during the holidays, and was told I could. Now they are saying that I should have been out by Christmas. This goes to show what an oral agreement is worth.
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Mon Jan-04-10 07:15 AM
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7. I wouldn't be parted from my fur baby for nothin', but I hope you can find a better |
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Mon Jan-04-10 08:46 AM
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8. I love my dachshund more then my husband....... |
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It will get better, just try to live through it, and IT WILL GET BETTER. :hug:
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Mon Jan-04-10 12:43 PM
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10. I do have to keep in mind that it will get better. |
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Mon Jan-04-10 03:48 PM
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11. I cannot believe what somebody just suggested. |
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An 85-year-old man just suggested that I have my dog put to sleep because he is 12-years-old!! :wow:
Um, no. My dog is running around happily, looking at me with that "let's play ball!" look.
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Mon Jan-04-10 10:49 PM
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19. Didja tell Mr 85 how ironic that suggestion was? |
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I woulda liked to see that.
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Mon Jan-04-10 11:04 PM
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20. At first, I was speechless! But then, I got angry and replied, |
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"Perhaps someone should have *you* euthanized." He got very snarly and sodded off.
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Mon Jan-04-10 11:06 PM
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21. Aaahhh, yes...that makes my day! |
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Mon Jan-04-10 04:40 PM
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I sort of have the opposite problem. And a bunch of other weird, dumb, and bad stuff. Plus, a friend of my father's passed away suddenly yesterday.
This year is only 1% over... I hope it doesn't get 100 times worse. Or 2^100 time worse.
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Mon Jan-04-10 11:16 PM
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22. Aww, I'm sorry about your friend's dad. |
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Here's to us digging out of the bad stuff! :pals:
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Mon Jan-04-10 08:07 PM
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I surely hope things will better for you, this is so sad. Sending hugs and vibes that something presents itself soon. :hug: :loveya: :hug:
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Mon Jan-04-10 09:16 PM
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14. It is not considered re-habitation |
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unless you cohabitate. If you cannot afford to live apart, there are some people that get divorced that never separate. At least seventeen years ago you could in Illinois. I wouldn't recommend doing that because...well because of what happened to me.
I knew things were bad, but didn't know what to do about it because my husband would not leave or admit he wanted a divorce. Then I found divorce papers hidden in his underwear drawer. I was shocked because he had said nothing to me about it. His plan was not to say anything until the divorce was going to became final. Remember we were living in the same house as "husband and wife" and he could get to the mail before I did. I talked him out of it, tried to make things better but when it didn't improve, made my own plan and kicked him out and got the divorce. I was not going to be used by him anymore and let him have control over me for that year while he waited for the divorce to go through. :puke:
So, if it is only for a few weeks and you can work it out that you are living separate although under the same roof for this short time, it might be feasible.
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Mon Jan-04-10 09:27 PM
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Mon Jan-04-10 09:54 PM
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17. Sorry this is happening to you. As for the re-habitation with the ex - |
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I lived in MD for my first two divorces and you can live under the same roof without it affecting the separation time. You may just have to do an affidavit stating that marital relations were not resumed.
Hang in there and good luck to you!
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Mon Jan-04-10 10:40 PM
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18. Oh good! I want out of this marriage |
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Sad to say, just looking at my husband is a reminder of the biggest mistake of my life. I'll gladly sign an affidavit. :D
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