Facebook: Sometimes you wonder what in the heck you could have possibly done...

[Writer]

to have someone de-friend you?

I had an old work contact, who was fairly high up, on my friends list. But for some reason, over the last week or two, she de-friended me. I can't think of what I could have possibly posted or said that would have encouraged her to de-friend me, but she did!

I'm a little sad, because this was someone who I wanted to keep in touch with. No longer, it seems. :shrug:

[Skittles]

1. why don't you just ask her why?

[jobycom]

2. Worry about it for a long time. Try to guess. Lose sleep.

Or ask and be done with it. :)

Could have been an accident, could have been a misunderstanding, could be something in your profile she doesn't like. I've defriended people just because they played so many games that my whole front page was full of their game updates--these weren't people I spoke to, anyway. And I'm always getting friend requests from people who say they dumped me by accident, or through a glitch, or because they didn't recognize my name at first.

And if she really doesn't want to be your friend, to hell with her. Her loss.

[GoCubsGo]

7. I just hide the ones who get annoying.

On of my "friends" still works a the lab where I got laid-off three years ago. She still has a job, yet spends much of her day logged into FB, where she bitches half the time about having to be at work. As one who is still struggling to find a permanent job, that is too much to take. So, her posts are hidden. If I really want to know what's going on with her, I can always visit her wall.

[Common Sense Party]

8. You have to click to HIDE the games. It's annoying as crap...

I have hidden Farmville, Mafia Wars, every stupid timewaster known to man. You don't hide the friend, you just hide the idiotic game.

[jobycom]

10. NOW I find this out.

:rofl:

[rcrush]

3. I de-friended someone because they kept joining stupid fan clubs

It got really annoying.

[Brickbat]

4. Sometimes Facebook will "drop" friendships as a glitch.

I've had a couple people re-friend me when I didn't know the connection had dropped. Send her a friend request with a message that says, "Whoops, you fell off my friend list!" and see what happens.

[LTR]

25. I had that happen

With someone who I see often. I added her, then realized that she had already once been on my friends list, but for some reason not anymore. She swears she had no idea what happened.

[Aristus]

5. One of my Facebook friends joined the group OBAMA: One Big-Assed Mistake, America!

I de-friended him. Who needs that shit?

[Common Sense Party]

9. Half my friends join stuff like that, or Sarah Palin fan clubs.

No skin off my nose. I believe people can believe and vote the way they want to.

[SoxFan]

11. OMGWTF! YOU SHOULD BE BANNED FROM DU!!1!

:sarcasm: :silly:

[LTR]

27. Yeah, I got a few of those

I don't defriend because of political views. Hey, we're all different.

Although I do have a few seemingly uninformed friends who post lots of AM radio/FOX News nonsense about the stimulus package, Obama, Al Gore, etc. I let it pass. I have a thick hide and don't get worked up over stupid shit.

I have, however, defriended a couple people (old classmates) that, for some reason, decided to insult me. That shit I don't need.

[Aristus]

30. What was weird is that this guy, a classmate of mine, is a pretty progressive guy.

He's as upset with the President as a lot of people on the left. But I was upset that he was joining the haters.

Weirder than that is the fact that old friends of mine that I rediscovered on FB who turned out to be repukes, I haven't de-friended......yet. Most of them are okay, despite their shitty politics.

And I have some friends who are VERY liberal, but are also Catholic, so they join FB "pro-life" groups. I can understand that, since in every other respect, we agree politically.

[sammytko]

29. I did the same thing!

she joined Glenn Becks group also, but the OBAMA thing was unacceptable. I did not de-friend, just hid all posts from her.

[GoCubsGo]

6. Did she de-friend you or disable her account?

If you have mutual friends, look at their friend lists to see if she's there. If not, odds are she disabled her account. I have a friend who comes and goes there. In fact, after being gone for a couple of months, she came back this past Friday. Between then and today, she disabled her account and then came back twice. I have no idea what is up with that, but I am just glad she's back--for now.

[Deep13]

12. LostinVA defriended me when she broke up with Haruka.

No explanation. Just gone. :-(

[Writer]

13. They broke up? n/t

[Deep13]

15. Yeah, about six months ago.

I was pretty surprised to hear it.

[XemaSab]

16. I thought they were married

:o

[lukasahero]

18. Oh shit - is that what happened?

:(

I was crushed (and since I was always more friendly with Lost, now I'm even more crushed!)

Thanks for the info.

Do you know if she's ok?

[Deep13]

31. I really don't.

Since she's off the list, I only hear from Haruka now. Too bad.

[Kali]

32. she is still a DUer - she just posted in the lounge last week

it was in Dr Strange's WTFery post reply #17

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=9261857


Sorry to hear they broke up.

[demtenjeep]

14. how do you know if someone defriends you

does something flash or blink?

[Writer]

17. I noticed that my count was down by one...

so out of curiosity, I did a search for a few names, and this person's name was no longer on my friend's list.

It was coincidental.

[NightWatcher]

19. had you been bragging about finding a lost cow in your Farmville farm?

why the hell people think others would care what level Mafia they joined or cow they found or whatever is amazing to me

[lukasahero]

20. Lots of people play the games with other people

My sister and I both play "Cafe World" and allow the posts from the app that will offer each other stuff. (She can click on some of my posts to increase her points and vice versa.)

That said, we have an agreement that once we've picked up the item, we "like" the post so the other person can delete it. That way we get the best of both - we play the game together and help each other out but don't hog our other friends home pages with post after post about stuff they couldn't care less about...

[Writer]

21. I don't play Farmville, or any other Facebook games.

I don't have the time or the interest.

[LTR]

28. The application does it sometimes

I play Mafia Wars, as does about 10% of my friends list. I post that stuff mostly for them, so they can grab the loot. After a few hours, I delete those posts, as they are no longer necessary.

You can block certain applications (i.e. Farmville, which I have no interest in) from posting on your wall, which minimizes the clutter greatly. You can also 'ignore' certain friends who have a habit of posting idiotic nonsense.

[bigwillq]

22. I had people de-friend me. No biggie.

If I really cared about keeping in touch with them, I am sure I can do it through other channels. Is there another way for you to contact this person?

[Writer]

23. I've had people defriend me before, too... but this person was someone with whom...

I truly wanted to maintain contact. And for the life of me, I wonder why she would have defriended me.

[bigwillq]

24. Do you have other ways to contact this person?

:shrug:

[Duer 157099]

26. I keep getting invites to join but so far I have resisted

Knowing that someone can "de-friend" me is enough incentive to keep me away from Facebook forever.

[donheld]

33. I've been defriended and I've defriended.

I grew up as a bible beater and went to a bible beating college. On facebook, I was found by some of my old church/school mates. I'm a openly gay man and many take issue with that. I don't mind the ones who don't get preachy. All some wanted to do was preach to me. They had to go. I'm now an agnostic some defriended me over that. I also during the 2008 campaign added Hussein as my middle name. Some defriended me over that. I'm much better without them.