Bertha Venation
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Wed Mar-17-10 10:59 PM
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Outrageous, unprofessional, unacceptable behavior! |
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No one in my suite at work likes our supervisor. I have tried to be kind to her. Even though she intimidated the hell out of me and slammed the door shut on me in the name of vaunted policy, and has continued to show me just how incompetent a supervisor can be, I have tried to be kind. But I can't do it anymore. Moreover in the last few weeks I've had several conversations with my two suite mates (without divulging any of my own troubles) and I have come to find out that I'm not alone: no one likes her. And not just in our suite. NO ONE under her power (for that is how she treats us) likes her.
But today? Oh, my god.
Some of you will remember that I told of her very inappropriate way of moving fully into my very tiny space at my desk, taking over and leaning up against the desk to talk down to me as I sat in my chair. (That's how she delivered the "you're screwed, it's policy" bullshit speech back in September). That is what she does: she takes your space. I've never known a more insecure person in my life.
Today she took that invasion of space as far as it can possibly go, although not with me. It was my poor suite mate who was victimized.
I heard the supervisor coming from down the hall, so I chose that moment to visit the bathroom. (I don't want to be anywhere NEAR her.) When I got back, my suite mates were in a tizzy and one of them was close to tears. Seems the supervisor had left our suite just before I got back. The deeply upset co-worker said to me "did you hear what I just said to other co-worker?!" I was alarmed at her alarm. I said no, I didn't. "Supervisor just came in here and kissed me on the cheek!"
What the fuck . . . ? Kissed her! In the workplace! Mrs. V. said she's revised her opinion of my supervisor: she no longer thinks she's just incompetent, petty, and insecure. Now she thinks she's clinically nuts.
We all have the same tiny cubicles. The victimized co-worker blocks half the entry space to hers with boxes for the express purpose of trying to ward off the supervisor's intrusions. Didn't work today. Co-worker said she didn't even know supervisor was there until it was too late. Stealth bitch.
Co-worker vented and we commiserated for a few minutes, then co-worker went directly to supervisor's boss's boss's boss.
Can you believe this shit?! And I have to sit across the desk from this woman to receive my review next month. I hope she doesn't expect my respect, because what tiny bit I had went bye-bye this afternoon.
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Wed Mar-17-10 11:05 PM
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1. That is so bizarre and seems like it would be enough to get her fired. |
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Why would a supervisor kiss an employee like that? Hopefully she will not be doing your review next month! Good luck and keep us posted!
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Wed Mar-17-10 11:08 PM
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2. ...just...WOW....I'm glad the co-worker went to the bosses..that is |
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sexual harassment and should be written down and logged not only by the bosses, but Human Resources, AND the co-worker should write it up and get any witnesses to sign it.....bosses sometimes stick together and fire any one who complains...even legitmate complaintants are fired...have back up evidence for a lawsuit.
I would encourage your co-worker to make sure that a FORMAL complaint is put into the supervisors file...dont let the bosses talk your coworker out of placing a formal complaint in her file.
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Wed Mar-17-10 11:10 PM
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3. OMG! She IS nuts! And totally, completely inappropriate. |
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Bad enough she's a space invader, but KISSING THAT WOMAN ON THE CHEEK???? That screams harassment. I hope that supervisor gets booted right out the door.
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Wed Mar-17-10 11:34 PM
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4. as unpleasant as this sounds, and as revolting as it may be |
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you probably should stay around when supervisor visits, as should your co-workers. Crazy weird shit like this needs witnesses. just in case it escalates into anything. Keep records, write stuff down.
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Thu Mar-18-10 12:07 AM
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5. And video it on your phone. Holy smokes! |
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Thu Mar-18-10 02:15 PM
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11. Lifesbeautiful is right.. |
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This supervisor sounds seriously unhinged. You should probably try to keep an eye out for each other, bear witness, take notes, use your cameras, etc. I'm sorry you all have to go through this stuff.
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Thu Mar-18-10 12:12 AM
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6. Kiss her? Like in The Godfather before they kill you? |
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Edited on Thu Mar-18-10 12:12 AM by Lex
Or like sexual?
Way screwed up either way.
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Thu Mar-18-10 12:52 AM
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7. Why in the hell did she kiss your co-worker on the cheek? |
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What was the reason - if any - given for such behavior?
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Bertha Venation
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Thu Mar-18-10 10:07 AM
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Co-worker has no idea why the crazy, stupid bitch would do this, except maybe she wants to be fired.
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Thu Mar-18-10 10:56 AM
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9. Wow - so she just walked up to your co-worker and kissed her on the cheek? |
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Thu Mar-18-10 11:03 AM
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10. I once had a supervisor that |
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used to pat us on the head... like "good doggy", it was extremely offensive..
I hope she gets in ALOT of trouble for this transgression!!!!
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Thu Mar-18-10 02:44 PM
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12. Can't you report her to her superiors and/or human resources? |
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It sounds like the woman has created a hostile work environment.
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Bertha Venation
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:25 PM
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14. It is an extremely hostile work environment. |
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It's bad enough when you don't respect your supervisor, but it's really bad when you don't trust her and when you fear her.
My co-worker reported her about five minutes after the incident.
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:28 PM
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15. Legally, that could be battery. |
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At the very least, sexual harassment.
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