Rising Phoenix
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:15 PM
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I'm stunted....my ability to trust is stunted, for many reasons. |
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Any advice on how to trust again?
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Deep13
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:20 PM
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1. I don't mean to sound flippant, but you have to find someone trustworthy. |
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Trust has to be earned. It's never the default position.
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:33 PM
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3. I have decided that the default position |
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should always be blithe cynicism.
It's cool to hang out and be friendly, but keep it topical until you know a person much, much better.
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Rising Phoenix
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:51 PM
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but even people I know and love, there is a little bit of me that says that isn't always enough. people can earn your trust only to stomp on it at their whim.
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:29 PM
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2. Right now that's how you feel |
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Edited on Fri Mar-19-10 02:30 PM by YankeyMCC
The problem is no matter if you trust or don't trust a person they will speak and act only based on who they are and their own decisions and feelings. Your trust or lack of trust wont change that.
Each experience teaches you something and still you have to go on meeting people and building relationships. All you can do is greet each person with as open a mind and heart as you can and respond as best you can. There's no escaping that.
So maybe don't worry about 'learning to trust again'. Just keep on living life in your own way.
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:41 PM
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4. Time... and time w/ people you DO trust |
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but I hear ya...
Just remember, letting go of what hurts you is liberating.
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Rising Phoenix
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Fri Mar-19-10 02:56 PM
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I think that any anger I have is residual for the most part, nothing out of control, no grudges. However it can make a person scared. I'm not angry, just a little scared. I trust three people, my sister, my brother and my nephew, Not really my friends, not even my therapist. I'm not ranting, just looking to move forward. I guess by admitting this, to myself, and to you, my friends I can't "see" is a good first step.
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