I still have terrible nightmares about high school - and I'm 62! Anyone else

[old mark]

still traumatized by long past events that you found terrible to endure?

I hated every day of school, since late grade school - evidently I still do.

mark

[CBGLuthier]

1. Nightmares.No. Unpleasant memories that I refuse to dwell upon.Yes.

Author Stephen King once said he never trusted anyone who said their high school days were great. I agree with him. High School is when you find out just how much people suck.

[Dr Morbius]

2. Nightmares? No, but very unpleasant memories. (nt)

[JitterbugPerfume]

3. I hated elementary , Jr high and High school

I just didn't "fit in"

[Brickbat]

4. I have dreams where I'm back in high school and realize I know then what I know now. And I have this

wonderful feeling of power and of being untouchable. It's kinda nice.

[grilled onions]

5. Nightmares no....

however I think it was the worst years I ever had to deal with and it left a bitter aftertaste in my mouth for anything connected with the word school. Besides the waste of time curriculum which was designed only for the kids headed for college--no skills for those who just needed a job, the kids were hateful,the teachers either sought out their pets or were oblivious to the rest.No trade school classes so many of the "hungry" kids had to quit and many ended up in 'Nam(some came back in boxes). Many girls ended up married way before they would have if there had been classes for them to take. There were kids with talent be it music or singing or artist however if they did not have a certain grade they could not participate in any of these classes. Perhaps if they would have allowed them to shine in what they were good at they may have felt more worthy of themselves to do better in other subjects. All in all those years were a waste of time for many of us which is very sad because you are supposed to remember those as your best years.

[cwydro]

6. Mine are about college...

it is the end of a semester and I realize there is a math (always it's math!) class that I never attended...Then I can't find the building, then the classroom....god I am in a cold sweat just thinking about it lol!

I got my degree almost 20 years ago...:rofl:

[Patiod]

7. Most of my dreams are about college as well

Like yours, frequently about a math class that I forgot to attend.

I also spend a lot of dream time looking for housing or a roommate (maybe because my SO usually falls asleep on the sofa rather than coming to bed?)

[cwydro]

8. Lol...

no dreams about roommates lol (except the ones I LIKE to remember heh hey), but god, that forgotten class still haunts me...(and there never was one of course).

[Lil Missy]

11. I used to have a recurring dream that I missed a semester of classes.

[cwydro]

14. It is awful, isn't it?

I wake up and am so happy to be NOT there!

[Lil Missy]

20. A more frequent dream was that I still worked part time at this place from 35 years ago!

Sometimes I'd still wake up wondering if I had checked the schedule for my next work shift.

[ashling]

32. I have that same dream.

Sometimes it is science, but usually math.

:rofl:

[TheCentepedeShoes]

9. I have had dreams

about needing to return to HS to finish some credits
I argue "but I have a BA in history" (go ahead and laugh, I'm sure the folks in my dream did too)
Then I can't remember my class schedule and am always in the wrong room

[FloridaJudy]

24. Nope. Not a common dream at all.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X8TMWKQL82s

[Capn Sunshine]

41. If I have a dream about school

inevitably it's the "can'r remember my schedule and in the wrong room" one LOL.

Oh the variation is , it's finals day and I realize I have been cutting this class since the second week. That's the college one. Quite reflective of reality.

[HiFructosePronSyrup]

10. I still have dreams about football.

It's weird to play football for only four years of your life and then just stop.

Flag football isn't the same.

Watching football isn't the same.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

12. Going to my 40th reunion was very therapeutic for me

I went out of curiosity, and I sat in the parking lot for a while before I had the courage to go in, because I was on about the third from the bottom rung of the high school social ladder. All the kids who had been mean to me in high school had grown up (except for the several who were dead) and greeted me warmly.

We ended up all dancing to the oldies together.

My church is big on reconciliation, and at the end of the evening, I thought, "That's what reconciliation feels like."

Yes, I still remember the bad things that happened to me in high school. But they don't have any emotional effect on me anymore.

[KG]

13. finally stopped having that periodic dream of showing up for the first day of a new school year

[HillGal]

15. No, I loved High School. NT

NT

[struggle4progress]

16. I walked away one fine spring afternoon and never looked back

[TK421]

17. What particularly? I hated school as well, though I'm not sure it was for

the reasons you hated it ( I'll read your answer and probably post something long )

[old mark]

25. I really hate regimentation. I was a reader before I ever entered a school, and I read at a high

level in first grade, so that my teachers thought I was somehow cheating. It never got any better. I never even thought about college till senior year n high school, lasted about a year there. I did enjoy history, probably should have majored in it, but that's long past now.
Never been to a reunion, no plans to go to one.

Since I retired, these dreams seem to have a better outcome - I escape or just walk away from the stressful dream situation, find myself at home (whatever that is in my dream) before I wake up.

mark

[TK421]

39. I read your post...pretty much the same with me actually

but to this day I absolutely HATE uniforms..of any kind. I just make that association with Catholic grade school when it comes to having to wear a uniform for a job. I liked history and science, and I was ahead of the class in both as well as spelling ( I knocked out spelling bees like they were already out of style ) when shit like this happens, you do tend to get punished a bit for your capacity for learning a subject

High school? I would love to go back and beat the hell out of everyone who gave me shit

[Jade Fox]

18. Yes, I do too....

They usually involve realizing that I forgot to attend one of my classes and will fail it.

Weird.

[femmocrat]

19. No, I loved high school.

I do have those dreams about college though--- like showing up for the final after never attending any classes, etc.

[Alexander]

21. I had dreams I was stuck in high school at my current age until I graduated college.

It was always terribly embarrassing, because in the dream I would be 18, 19, 20, etc., and I still had some high school classes to take.

I dropped out of my high school senior year and got my GED, so maybe I subconsciously believed I wasn't finished yet.

Those nightmares disappeared once I got my college degree. And I don't have nightmares about college.

[UTUSN]

22. Yip, that's ME!1 ALL of it - childhood, high school, military, work, whatever. n/t

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

23. Hell, yes. Graduated in 1965 and still have the occasional nightmare.

The hallways of my high school are permanently etched on my brain. I remember with horrible clarity and accuracy the entire floor plan of that hellhole without even trying. The nightmares aren't anything especially unusual; they generally involve me suddenly in my underwear in the hallway outside the math classroom, or I can't find a classroom I'm supposed to be in, or I'm in the wrong classroom and the teacher won't let me out, or I'm trying to take a test using a pencil the size of a baseball bat, or the worst of all -- for some reason I'm back in high school and I have to do it all over again.

:scared:

I hated every minute of high school. I remember during the graduation ceremony a lot of the other girls were crying because it was all over, but I was just delighted because it was all over.

[old mark]

26. It amazes me that we have not come up with a kindlier way to educate our kids -

our neighbors kids are in high school and it seems even worse now than it was then - even MORE regimentation, strict regulations about nothing important, terrible courses and the whole mess.

Was it designed as some sort of trial to prepare us for a hard world as working adults? Still makes me uncomfortable thinking about it whatever it was supposed to do...

mark

[Drunken Irishman]

27. Yes!

It's the same damn dream, too! Senior year and final semester. Everything is fine when I realize there is a class I haven't attended AT ALL. It's like I totally erased it from my memory until the final days of school and then it pops back in. I'm always panicked and running around the halls trying to figure out what to do.

Then I wake up and realize it's just a dream.

[Skip Intro]

28. I miss high school. First two years were hell. Last two years were awesome.

Two different schools, though....

No nightmares.

It's over, you know?

[old mark]

29. Evidently, for some of us, it will never end.......

The evil that would not DIE!!!!!!!



:rofl:

mark

[Phentex]

30. Sometimes I worry what harm I may have caused...

I don't give my own experiences much thought. But when I read about the scars people have, I do hope *I* am not the cause of some bad memory for someone.

[hunter]

31. I quit high school early. High school was a horrible place for me.

I still have nightmares sometimes I'm being forced to complete high school, that it's the law, and the law has finally caught up with me.

"Look," I tell them, "I'm a college graduate! I'm married with kids! A mortgage!!!"

But it doesn't matter. They send me back to hell and I'm a freak.

[hedgehog]

33. Being a trained profesional, (I have a B.S in Mechanical

Engineering), I would suggest that the dream is actually about something that is worrisome in your current life. When one of our dogs started getting anxious around strangers as he aged (which meant he was more likely to bite someone) I used to dream that we'd bought a couple lion cubs and now were stuck with full grown lions!

Dreams are very strange and very powerful. I have had dreams about dead relatives, and have also spoken with dead relatives while dreaming. The first is just a typical dream. The second was scary as hell because I knew at the time that these relatives were dead and I shouldn't be able to talk to them!

[old mark]

37. Actually, I now have a degree in Social Work...went back to college in my 40's.

Found it very easy, mostly - still hated the authoritarianism though. Got out with a B average.


Thankfully retired now....maybe just reviewing my past?


mark

[tango-tee]

34. I didn't hate high school, but remember it as a time spent in mind-numbing boredom.

Grades were okay, no problems with classmates, etc. Got through HS without doing a great deal of studying, just sort of coasting along, bored out of my skull (with the exception of chemistry, which I loved). I always thought of myself as not being particularly bright and had the ho-hum grades to prove it. My parents thought I was lazy, and I suppose they were right. I just didn't see any reason to put any effort into something I only wanted to be done with ASAP.

Fast forward twenty years.

I decided to go to college in my late thirties for the hell of it. And it was as though someone had flipped a switch, one of those light-bulb moments in life. I was like a fish in water. Suddenly, I found that I loved learning - and then something else happened. I participated in an IQ test at the university, and the result put me well over the minimum requirement for Mensa membership.

That was one of the big "WTF?" moments of my life. I had always thought of myself as being a bit dense and then *that*?!

[JitterbugPerfume]

35. I was a very shy child

and it was often taken as stubbornness . I was very easily intiminated and Miss Edwards was very intimidating

[Odin2005]

36. I have PTSD from being bullied by both peers AND faculty.

:cry:

[MiddleFingerMom]

38. I have never really understood folks who seem to have gotten bogged down...

.
...in that time frame -- either like an Al Bundy reliving his "Glory Days" or
someone obsessively and vicariously experiencing their own bad times
over and over and over again.
.
I don't dwell on bad memories -- some take a while, but I tend to get over
most of them within a fairly reasonable amount of time. I reminisce fondly
about the good times, but I've done bigger and better things since then,
so I'm not stuck in a "Glory Days" mode, either.
.
I went back to my hometown (of about 50,000 people) for two years after
having been gone for ten.
.
Most of my high school peers had turned out to be pretty decent people.
Some of the "most likely to succeed" had not lived up to anywhere near
their expected potentials (but were doing alright); a few of the biggest
assholes turned out to be some of the nicest adults that I "re-met".
.
High school -- though TREMENDOUSLY influential and important to and in
my life at the time... has generally paled in comparison to some of both
the good times and the bad times that I've experienced since.
.

[iris27]

40. No high school dreams, but once every couple months I will have a college dream where I've failed to

attend one of my classes ALL semester somehow...and today is the final.