So...

[Nuclear Unicorn]

...I guess I'm getting married this weekend.

We were planning on late September but my fiance comes home late night and says his supervisor is leaving in September. Well, the owner wants Lover Boy to be the new team supervisor. The only catch is things will get busy as we head into autumn as orders skyrocket. The owner knows we want to take 2 weeks for a honeymoon but says he needs Lover Boy all autumn.

This is a really big break for him. The hours will be worse but the working conditions will be much better, less dangerous and he gets a truck and a big pay bonus. He hasn't been there but maybe a year but the owner says the other guy on the team is too stupid to promote even though he's been there longer (he's a really nice guy but he is kind of...uncomplicated) and he doesn't want to hire someone knew because, "the asshole you know is better than the asshole you don't." That being said he really likes my fiance. He even offered us the keys to his cabin in the mountains because that is where we want to honeymoon.

But I asked Lover Boy if he wants to postpone until next spring.

Nope. He says we deserve better, we have our whole lives ahead of us, so what's wrong with an extra 8 months. If things aren't too rushed would I marry him this weekend?

Yeah. yeah I would.

Well, me being a hippie chick and him being laid back in his own right we think we can do this. It's going to be an outdoors wedding. Nothing fancy just family, friends and a preacher.

So this afternoon he's driving down to see me at work and we're getting our license.

I told my dad this morning and I always expect him to have some smart-ass remark. All he said is he is happy for me and he is, "so very, very, VERY proud" of me. I wanted to cry. Thanks daddy.

Lover Boy's parents are pretty much the same way. He just texted me to say his mom cleared her schedule to do whatever we ask. I wanted to make sure "help" didn't translate into "take control of" but he assures me she will do nothing without our express statement. I think I can trust her. It's very hard for me to relate to his mom because she's southern christian conservative but apparently she adores me. All he ever tells me is how she's always bragging about her son's fiance. Mostly her help will just be putting together a reception and that is probably little more than a cookout for 30 some odd people.

Anyway, I have a hectic next couple of days and then I may be gone for a couple of weeks...but I'm happy, proud and excited all at one big swirling time.

No, really, I'm happy. I don't think I've ever been happier.

[auntAgonist]

1. Congratulations!!!! enjoy your special day

[Nuclear Unicorn]

2. I love your username

and Thank-you.

[auntAgonist]

4. thanks!

I hope you have a wonderful joy filled life together.

:) :toast: :)

[MiddleFingerMom]

3. A huge leap...

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How cool and exciting and romantic.
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I think you're in for a bumpy, WONDERFUL ride.
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Congratulations!!!!!!!!
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[Call Me Wesley]

5. Congrats!

May your path together be in love, light and happiness. :hi:

[Nuclear Unicorn]

6. So now I have a marriage license.

If any of you have known me since I first came to DU this is no small matter.

Me, the arch-radical feminist that has denounced marriage as a tool of oppressive patriarchal regimes...

...now has a marriage license.

And I'm simply walking on clouds.

Lover Boy was surprised to hear the state has no waiting period from the time you get your license until you can actually get married.

He said something to the effect of--in many states you have to wait, just like when you go to buy a gun. But the wait time is usually the same which is ironic because you have better odds of dying while married then dying because of a gun.

I balled my fist and replied to his smart-assed-ness that odds were pretty good he could die unmarried right then and there.

The clerk asked us if we were sure we weren't already married.

Then Lover Boy gave me the usual kiss on the forehead to let me know he's just teasing and I gave him my usual play-punch to the stomach to let him know I knew.

BTW - when I got back to the office my boss gave me a hug and a check. He said he was sorry it couldn't be something more personal but he was thinking he had another month. He also gave me the rest of the week off plus 2 weeks for the honeymoon.

I am totally surrounded by the sweetest people.

[jobycom]

9. I think you win the "Feel Good Thread of the Day" award.

You've got me smiling for both of you. :)

[dawg]

7. Congratulations!

Really though, I should be congratulating your fiance. I think he's getting a really great young woman, and I wish you guys all the best.

[Nuclear Unicorn]

13. dawgie!

I'm so glad to see you.

How have you been?

Tell me all the details even/especially the dirty ones.

[jobycom]

8. Dang, that's beautifully romantic!!

Congrats, and enjoy ever second. :)

[femmocrat]

10. Congratulations!

Have a beautiful wedding day! Please post pictures if you can! Big :hug:!!!

[Nuclear Unicorn]

11. I don't know if any of you people have been married before but

holy crap weddings take a lot of planning, coordinating...

...and money!</naive>

We're doing it on the cheap too. Feeding 40 guests (was 30) ain't cheap. Fortunately Lover Boy's family got coin. I can't tell you how grateful I am for them. Soon-to-be mom-in-law was good to her word. She's keeping me from freaking out but she checks with me on every detail to make sure I'm cool with it.

I am soooo giving her a giant hug when I see her today.

Bad news. Lover Boy wanted an army buddy to be his best man. They've been through a lot (too much, in fact) together but his friend has to "go to the field" this weekend which from what I gather is the army's version of camping/playing war.

Good news. He asked if my gay boyfriend, who was to be my maid--er--slut of honor--would pull double duty as his best man. I think he's doing that just to get a reaction from his mom.

I called my friend from college to make some arrangements for Saturday night.

She's a dancer.

Anyway, Sunday is a day which will live in infamy. This is a whirlwind of giddiness, excitement, terror, panic, serene happiness and bewilderment.

Is this normal?

[redwitch]

12. very normal.

Congrats and have a great time and a very happy marriage!

[seabeyond]

14. yea for you. and lover boy, lol.

hubby and i went on a family trip, he asked me to marry on wednesday, and we went to justice on friday. i didnt want the hoopla. good for yawl. enjoy. have fun

and congrats on his advance. (married men tend to progress in career faster than single, see what you have accomplished already, lol)

i have thought about the dangers and physical wear and tear on him, that you had mention. so i am glad he is getting beyond that

enjoy... be happy, .... have fun

[Nuclear Unicorn]

15. it's crazy enough just planning dinner for 44 (yes, it grew again)

It's not like we need a chapel or I need a huge gown with flowing train and doves released into the air.

Just a modest ceremony and a cook-out and it still seems nuts.

Why do people torture themselves?

[seabeyond]

16. lol, i immediately caught the increase. so funny.

i am not good with nuts. some nuts. but not nuts in emotional.

it sounds like it is going to be wonderful.

i am glad mil is doing such a good job being a help and not a hindrance. THEN.... mountain cabin and peace and 2 weeks. nothing better than that.

[Nuclear Unicorn]

17. Oh thank god...he's started to turn away people asking to come

Friends of his dad, I think.

Politely telling him mom space is limited but a card expressing best wishes will be fine.

Did I mention I love him?

I love him!

[seabeyond]

18. ahhhhh. lol

coolest

everyone just wants to share in the happiness going on, the feel good.

[proteus_lives]

19. Congrats!

[Nuclear Unicorn]

20. too long, didn't read

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[peacefreak]

21. Best wishes!

Your wedding is going to be great. It's all about Lover Boy & you. Ask people to bring a dish. Everybody will be happy to pitch in. Here's to sweet memories in the making.

[rurallib]

22. something really special about the sort of spur of the moment type things

hope you get some great videos to remember this with.

[R. P. McMurphy]

23. Congratulations! I wish you two a long, wonderful life together. n/t

[Old Troop]

24. Congrats! It looks like you guys have your stuff together