Oblivious people

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Have you ever noticed that some people talk about the SAME things over and over, like they just don't have any idea of things outside their own purview? Either that, or they're so stuck on a subject (often themselves) that they can't understand why anyone would want to talk about anything else?

I know some people who live in that kind of a world. One guy gets so monotonous that I wonder if he ever comes out into the real world anymore, because he's an artist and makes enough money not to bother with what many of us call "life." His world is sheltered from life becoming too difficult, like it is for the rest of us.

[Odin2005]

1. I know those kind of people.

"Oil spill? What oil spill?" :wtf:

[RandomThoughts]

2. I am like that.

Although I don't go out because I have no money, and am working on that.


However I am focused on the same issues, without waver, for a couple reasons, because I have nothing else to do, might as well post the same thoughts on topics until they get fixed or I learn why they could be wrong.

And since unless someone mails me a bunch of money, the only way I will have any cash is to first make the entire world better so that I can then make my situation better. Would not make sense to help oneself when other people are worse off, so to help oneself, the rest of the world has to get better.

So yea I am like that, I have food water and a roof, and some friends, nothing else, so just post over and over the same thoughts mostly.

Any other suggestions on what to do? I read most of the posts here, although I know they are not a cross section of society, not any other ideas been mentioned.

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3. I, too, find myself talking about some subjects over and over,

but there is a difference between talking about abuse of the government, and about dragons, how my editor has a deadline, and movies. Oh, and as I mentioned, about himself.

When you talk about the world, the serious topics encased in politics, and not just as a quick watercooler chat, you're aware of the world, and not just conceited and self-centered. When I was a lot younger, I engaged in similar subjects, but I grew up and grew away from that world. And this guy is 50 years old, so "growing up" obviously isn't something he knows anything about.

[RandomThoughts]

4. Could be same topic different form of language.

Also I decided that serious comments were not listened to, and the arguments that get you to bring the facts to debate a serious topic was mostly to stall and get you to waste time proving points that are already known, basically the discussions were disingenuous. And when they could not be argued against they were still ignored.


Also After you say the same thing for enough years, you start finding entertaining ways to say it. And someone might think it better to discuss a topic, but if that method has already been done, you approach things from some other direction.

Also saying the same thing is not only monotonous to the listener, so entertaining ways to say things sort of occur for a few reasons.

:shrug:

I really understand your comments, they could apply to me also.



I asked if you had a suggestion, but when I discussed abuse of corporate governance that did not have an effect, so why would that be better then any other style of talking? If it did not have an effect then why use that method to speak?

Are you suggesting I try something that I already did expecting different results? That would be insane.


I do post about myself, it is a side effect of this being the only conversations I have with people. (noted assumption)





Got the expected reply in another thread, there is really only one reply, but it is not made for reasons of secrecy usually.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x9464109

[sohndrsmith]

5. Sounds like his financial security, not his being an artist, that allows him to

be free of the concerns of everyday "life", no?

I'm an artist (don't have the money part down, though, wish I did) but I have to say I find it hard to square the person you describe as a workable mindset an artist - or any creatively involved person. By default, it seems to me (and is for me) that being an artist means exploring, questioning, experimenting and discovering - including finding out I'm wrong on any given concept or perspective... and being hungry for all of it.

This person (from your description - if I understand correctly) seems so self-involved that his repetitiveness is extremely annoying... and dull to everyone but him.

Why bother with him at all? Doesn't seem like you like him much - and based on my own experiences with people with similar personalities - they ain't'a gonna change. Ever. So you might want to accept the limitations of this friendship as they are or move on (or somewhere between the two)?

Any chance the guy has a alcohol or drug dependence? My mother-in-law was an alcoholic and she would get **extraordinarily** repetitive... Just a thought.

Seems like you're not really interested in dealing with this person anymore, and I don't blame you! Sounds like interactions with him are a drag. Of course I'm just going on one paragraph, so... : )

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7. I've known the man for almost thirty years

and we used to spend a good amount of time together, when we were both younger. Over time, his reputation has grown, and now he has his own groupies and "yes" men, as well as a wife who think she's better than everyone else.

I think it has definitely gone to his head.

I hadn't been in communication with him for about 8 years, and that's when most of the changes occurred. I have backed off again, but it still amazes me to see someone go off the cliff of normality and embrace such an oblivious standpoint.

[Curmudgeoness]

6. Are you talking about someone on DU? Me??? or is it in real life?

Just checking.

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8. lol! Nope, not you

Just someone I've known for more than half my life. Someone I have become disappointed in, since he used to be a very close friend.