I don't know what to do. My wife is devastated.

[redirish28]

We have lived in an apartment for 8 years. Our next door neighbor is our Landlady and she and my wife have become friends over the years. My wife has always looked out for her. insisted I help her when she needed it.

The lady was a nurse until she hurt her back attending to a patient. She has been fighting for disability coverage ever since. We have see the woman. We know she is not faking it. We would put hands on a bible and swear to it.


We have arranged our schedules to take her to see doctor after doctor. We NEVER where interviewed by anyone about her claim we never Called anyone saying she is faking we never did anything but support her.


As I was taking my wife to work she storms out of the house screaming that she knows what we did and that we caused her to lose her disability. My wife is sick. She tried to tell Lady that we didn't do anything. She didn't even what Lady was talking about. The woman won't listen to us. My wife has been upset and crying all day.

I'm thinking we just move out before this woman does anything to us but we don't know what happened and why she is accusing us.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

1. The stress of being turned down for disability has probably unhinged your

neighbor temporarily. Perhaps someone told her that "neighbors testified against her."

Wait a few days and approach her carefully. Offer to go to her lawyer and testify to her back problems.

(I've heard that most disability applications are turned down the first time.)

[redirish28]

2. This is like her 7th or 8th application.

Will she be told who testify? Maybe when she sees we didn't say anything or where not interviewed but I fear she will become the landlady from HE!!

[Lydia Leftcoast]

3. 7th or 8th application?

No wonder she's acting out!

[applegrove]

7. Write her a note telling her that you never spoke to anyone but that you will on her behalf.

[kimi]

4. Ah, I'm sorry for your wife, and you

What an awful situation. Sounds like the lady is a little unhinged, frankly, if you all have done so much for her and she repays you with this tirade. Bottom line, you and your wife did nothing wrong, so you should not move. Disengage with the lady, let her deal with her own situation. It was never your responsibility to begin with, you and your wife were just being good people and good neighbors. Kudos to you both, now it's time to let it go, perhaps. Good luck, and take care.

[Redstone]

5. Oh, jeez, I cannot think of what to tell you. That's a horrible situation.

Redstone

[MrsBrady]

6. Makes me wonder...

from what I understand back pain can be freaking painful.

Although a different story altogether, my friend's husband had a back injury 3 years into their marriage. Now, 11 years after their marriage...he's a complete nut job. Which is really sad, because he was a nice guy.
There's another long story here, but between too many pain meds, the back pain itself, two botched back operations, and hating not being able to care for his family...he's not the man he used to be. She had to leave as he had finally progressed to becoming violent...as he had begun to push her around which he NEVER did up until the last few months. He thinks he's fine, except for the pain. But he is out of his mind. She didn't want to leave him as she knows he's sick, but she also knew she couldn't allow herself to be abused. It's a very sad situation.
When we were packing her up to leave him, she couldn't find her hand gun. We thought he had taken it. We were actually about to make her leave with us (because he had just left and we couldn't find the gun) when he showed back up. Very scary. My husband actually had to tackle him while we called the police. He was running out to his car threatening to kill himself because she was moving out. Luckily we found the gun after the police arrived. But he did have it hidden in a very creepy accessible way. He must be really in so much pain. I was unaware of what a serious injury could do to a person.


My point is is that your friend might be having some bad med reaction or may have become addicted to her pain meds if she has any...or the pain is getting to her....and also just the sheer BS that people have to put up with in "the land of the free" with this kind of problem....it all could be getting to her.

I'm so sorry about your friend. I hope things work out. Tell your wife not to be too hard on herself. It's hard not to take things personally when people are sick and do or say things they might not otherwise.

Blessings to you.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

8. Give her a day or so to calm down and try again ...

:hug: <---- for you

:hug: <---- for your wife

:hug: <---- for your landlady

Good luck