I am so damn mad right now!

[Trocadero]

I always help my daughter with her homework. My husband never does. Earlier this week I was out and when I came home they were fully entrenched in her math homework. It was not going well. But given that he is her father I allowed them to continue. WELL IT TURNS OUT SHE FLUNKED HER MATH TEST.

GRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

She brought it home with a note from the teacher to review. After about 20 minutes of work with her, she now has the concept down perfectly. CRAP! FIRST TEST OF THE YEAR! It has really upset her and affected her confidence.

FROM NOW ON DADDY DOES NOT HELP WITH HOMEWORK.

Last year we got As on EVERY TEST. With no help from him.

He is an engineer. HE REFUSES TO TEACH HER AT HER LEVEL. I AM MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[seabeyond]

1. we got As on EVERY TEST... WE got A's. lol lol. isnt it HER

accomplishment.

i am just saying

hey... i have that job too and hubby has an engineer and master in statistics. now the kids are older, neither of us can do the math. i am hiring a tutor for the boys....

WE start monday.

[Trocadero]

3. well, it is her crying that the class knows she flunked

the teacher apparently talked with her about it in front of everyone

it's kind of hard to get her re-centered after that

[seabeyond]

6. what grade is she in? nt

[auntAgonist]

2. Maybe you could have your daughter AND her Father sit

with you and you all could help with her homework.

This shouldn't turn into a competition between you and your husband. You do need to talk as a couple about teaching methods though (?) but do it privately without your daughter in the room.

just my 2c.

aA

[suninvited]

4. just out of curiosity

did you mention to your daughter that this was her fathers fault?

[madinmaryland]

5. Whoa! He was helping her and now you are going to stop it?

It's a learning process for everyone. Don't kill his help now.

Just because he is an engineer does not mean he will not be able to reach her. It may take some time, but at least he is making the effort to help her.

(I'm an electrical engineer by degree)

[elleng]

7. Sorry.

I do recall recognizing that their father did not know how to explain/help our daughters understand what they were doing. I generally didn't let him try thereafter. (He frustrated them in the process, too.)

(Also, he wrapped gifts for them to take to their friend's parties instead of encouraging them to do so, with some slight instructions.)

Some people are just better teachers than others. Good luck 'implementing' your new understanding.

[marzipanni]

8. The only stupid question is the one you don't ask

and perhaps she feels a bit intimidated around her dad because he's talking over her head.
My son is 15 and he and his dad sometimes discuss Alg.2/trig. problems, but he also looks up explanations on the internet if he's not sure he understands.
I never got past geometry, so I'm out of the loop.

[littlewolf]

9. my dad was a computer programer ... he taught me to hate math ...

hard to explain ... he could not explain anything .... just "its wrong do it over.." .. anyway .... I still hate math ...
good luck with your daughter ... one test does not a year make ...
also the teacher should have talked to your daughter alone ....

[grasswire]

10. I don't get this.

Why are your daughter's teachers not able to explain concepts sufficiently for the students to understand? Apparently this has been going on for some time now.

Something's amiss.

[revolution breeze]

11. I understand completely!

Daughter is doing geography, learn the first five states alphabetically, the abbreviation, capital and location on the map. Test was Thursday, she can find Vermont, New Hampshire and Washington, but misses Arizona completely! Not an engineer, but an IT guru!