I've changed my mind. I'm sending it. Life would be boring without risks,

[Redstone]

and this is a risk I'm willing to take (though I don't want to leave the text up on DU - sorry for sounding mysterious to those who didn't read the original post).

I believe that the chance of it making her feel REALLY good about herself are better than the chance of it causing trouble.

I genuinely do appreciate your advice, even though (being the contrary son of a bitch that I am), I'm not going to take that advice.

Cover me, boys, I'm going in.

Would you be interested in seeing what the response is?

Redstone

[Moondog]

1. No.

Some things are best left unsaid.

[newcriminal]

2. Would you show this to your spouse?

[newcriminal]

6. Or a better question,

would your spouse be hurt if they read it?

[Redstone]

7. I would. I keep no secrets from her. Should I clear it with her first?

Redstone

[newcriminal]

10. I'm glad you don't.

I honestly would be very hurt if my husband sent that to another woman, but maybe I'm less secure than she is.

[Curmudgeoness]

3. Don't do it. Harder on her, harder on you. I am sure she knows

without this being said. Leave it unsaid.

[struggle4progress]

4. I can't tell you what to do. I myself might go lower key and less confessional myself,

something along the lines of

Thank you so much for calling. The hospital is boring beyond belief, and my arms look like a botched bit of abstract art with all the tubes sticking out. Your call really made my day. There's really just no substitute for old friends. Love,"

with some cheerful chitchat padding for length

[Chan790]

5. Some things don't need to be said...

and for that reason, like little conspiracies of the heart, shouldn't be.

I figure she knows everything you've said already, also that no good can come of you saying it.

[marzipanni]

8. Send it here instead

http://www.postsecret.com/

That letter might make her think of monkey business even though you aren't. ;)

[Redstone]

11. Interesting site. I'll go back there later.

Redstone

[Tom_Foolery]

9. Don't send it...

It's better to keep those worms in their can. By the way, I absolutely love Matraca Berg. She is a creative genius.

[Redstone]

15. If there was any justice in the music world, Matraca Berg would be

more famous than Shakira (to whom I am utterly addicted (because of her voice, not her hips)).

Redstone

[Bunny]

12. I'll go against the trend and say: Send it.

Maybe delete the very last sentence, that's a little ambiguous. But the next to last sentence "You've had a much larger, and more positive effect on my life than you'll ever know." is something that nearly everyone would love to hear at some point in their life.

[Redstone]

18. Yeah, maybe with a bit of editing it might work better. Thanks.

Redstone

[frogmarch]

13. No.

Leave well enough alone.

[MiddleFingerMom]

14. Very dumb idea. Dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb.

.
.
.
.
.
But you already know that or you would have just sent it
and not asked for outside opinions here.
.
.
.
Let that ghost R.I.P.
.
.
.

[Redstone]

19. Oh, the ghost is sleeping peacefully, never to awake again, trust me.

But thanks for your advice anyway.

Redstone

[Orrex]

16. Since I came in after the edit, here's my advice

Do whatever the manual says, but every 5,000 miles is probably often enough.


And if that doesn't work, then stick it in the freezer for an hour or so, and it'll come right off no problem.

[Redstone]

17. Not to mention that white vinegar and a little scrubbing will make

it go away.

Redstone

[newcriminal]

20. Why risk hurting your wife, to make her feel REALLY good?

Sorry, no good can come from this. Good luck anyway, my thoughts are with your wife.

[Redstone]

21. Thanks for the reply. I showed it to Mrs R and she said "I wish my ex-husband

(who, as I've said, she's still friendly with, and who I know and like) would send me something like that."

Is she a great woman, or what?

Redstone

[Chan790]

23. Clearly. n/t

[Chan790]

22. My thoughts are with all of them,

I have a few of these in my past, including my best friend and my closest female friend from college...good friends who used to be tempestuous lovers...both are in serious relationships, one is happily married. If either one of them sent me that message, I'd sever contact permanently. I'd be majorly creeped-out. I've sent this message to my ex-fiance before, she was creeped-out...we're no longer friends and neither are any our once-mutual friends.

I didn't say it earlier because I felt that the response was overwhelming and it didn't need to be said...sending that message crosses a line IMO, it's inappropriate. She's not going to feel good about this, it'll almost certainly make her uneasy, he's going to be hurt if she feels not-good (which she almost certainly will) about that message and I can't think sending it is anything but hurtful to his wife.

Best of luck, Red. I think this will end catastrophically but for your sakes I hope it does not.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

24. too late. shit.

sounds juicy. whatever it is.

[Orrex]

25. Don't send it unless it can be read to the tune of "Yellow Rose of Texas"

Gosh--I really wish I'd seen the original, unedited message.