Funeral etiquette question........

[CrownPrinceBandar]

One of my best friends lost his grandmother over the weekend and the funeral is on Thu eve. I'd like to attend, but it is over an hour away from here and I have a big exam on Fri AM. Would it be a faux-pas to forgo the funeral so I can study more for the exam?

[Call Me Wesley]

1. Study.

Unless you were a very, very good friend with your best friend's grandmother. If not, I don't see any reason to attend the funeral.

[CrownPrinceBandar]

5. Thanks CMW.........

Study is what I'll do.

Oh BTW, I like your Mr. Hulot avatar.

[Redstone]

2. No. A friend's parent, a faux pas. Grandparent, no. Though a handwritten note would

be a really good idea.

Redstone

[mcollins]

3. agreed. a note is a nice touch to show concern for the loss. nt

[jesus_of_suburbia]

4. I agree.

Just make sure your friend gets the note no more than a day after the funeral.

[CrownPrinceBandar]

6. Thanks for the good advice.......

I just got off the phone w/ my friend and he was disappointed but understanding. I like the note idea and will get on that.

[HopeHoops]

7. Studies generally come first unless it is close family (including grandparents, aunts, uncles).

Explain in advance and send a sympathy card. Good luck on the test!

[Oceansaway]

8. i send online condolences

thru the funeral homes web sight if they have one....

[Courtesy Flush]

9. I was shocked when a friend drove in for my mom's funeral

And that was my mother. I'd never expect friends to drive long distances for my grandparent.

[Old Troop]

10. Send a card or, better, a hand-written note of sympathy.