Is a supervisor supposed to share an employee's disciplinary counseling with another worker?

[rainbow4321]

I ask because of this:

Basically, a co worker was making rude, uncalled for loud comments to another co worker about the employee schedule, being that I was well within hearing distance (actually, I would have heard it had I been on the moon cuz she does this whole passive aggressive talk loud so people will hear kind of thing). I called over to her that so and so made the schedule if she had any questions about it. She ignored me and said to the person she had made the comments to "I was talking to YOU"---a signal to me that she didn't appreciate me offering the info.
I had gone up to the schedule and looked at it, she had read the thing wrong. I matter of factly, calmly told her so, and added a "no, it will be ok, it doesn't say what you thought it said". I had said it to her in front of several people so I am thinking she realized that her initial hissy fit, angry comments kinda made her look like a fool since they were made not because of a schedule problem but because she misread something and exploded.

she, I assume, complained that I had spoke up, and our boss go involved.

She and I have been civil to each other since, no real problems. But then today she approaches me and says "oh, just so you know what is coming, I just got called into the office and was written up for that thing that happened between us and (the boss) said that we were both in the wrong and that she would be talking to you, also".

(Sidenote: I got publically congratulated for something that I did well this week at work...)

She then said to me "guess this cancels out your congratulations".



Ok...problem I have is that it just seems really wrong to me that the boss would make a situation where I am finding out thru another employee about my upcoming disciplinary action before I even found out from my boss. So maybe boss was trying to make this worker "feel better" by telling her that I was going to "be talked to" also, but shouldn't employee disciplinary info privacy trump any "feel good"ing that she was trying to do?

I found out that I will be talking to my boss about the interaction between me and the other worker on Monday.
Any suggestions on how to word it to my boss that I don't appreciate my upcoming disciplinary "talk" being shared by her with other co workers and I really don't like finding out from a fellow employee before I hear it from my boss.

[datasuspect]

1. is your boss a babysitter?

sounds like they don't have enough to do.

[struggle4progress]

2. Aw, just tell your boss you were trying to defuse the situation, cuz you thought it was based

on a simple and easily-fixed misunderstanding. Keep your statement short, clean, factual, and non-accusatory. If necessary, you can add a word or two about how much you value office civility and smooth working relations

Don't complicate it with a bunch of extraneous crap about this or that stuff -- just don't go there