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My SO and I had an epic blowout this morning because I didn't feel like going to his sister's.
I realize, i kind of don't have an excuse this year, but imho I have a pretty good reason to be bitter about this request from YEARS ago... And beside that, who wants to go anywhere at 8am Christmas morning?
My SO and I have been together since my daughter was 4. Since my ex-husband has never been much more then a bio-dad to her, My SO became more of a 'real' dad, especially since he's never had any kids of his own. Anyway, from our first Christmas together on, he'd expect me to get my/our daughter up, all bleary eyed, at the crack of dawn (like 6am) to go to his sister's house so we could watch HER kids open their gifts and Christmas stockings. I refused to do it, so he'd go alone and return usually AFTER lunchtime.
Hey, why should my (then very young) daughter have to wait for her Christmas to begin, in order to watch some other kids (of no blood relation) enjoy their's? Especially the whole F'n morning? I didn't then and don't now think that that was an unreasonable approach to take on behalf of my/our child.
I mean seriously, if this were a more traditional family situation, as in my SO being her real bio father from day one, would it be a normal expectation to go to someone else's house as opposed to staying home and watching our OWN kid enjoy the whole Santa thing? Really, who does that, and why should anyone expect them to???
I understand the idea of Christmas parties w/extended family members, but in MY extended family, we have it before or after THE morning. At least where young children are involved. If grandparents want to show up to watch their grandchildren enjoy Santa's gifts first thing in the morning, that is one thing... but why make some young child watch other children, when they should be joyously doing the same thing themselves in THEIR OWN HOME!!!
In my SO's defense, he's usually a very rational person, but seems to have a blind spot where his sister is concerned. He STILL thinks I was wrong about this, even now! WTF?
I've always been good about joining in on his other family functions, but I drew the line on this one a long time ago and don't regret it. Obviously as she grew older, it shouldn't have been as big of a deal, but hey, I still wanted to be home w/her to enjoy at the very least most of the day as a family, even if it kind of made me feel as if I was still a single mother w/out my SO.
My now 25 yr old daughter is not even here this Christmas. She's (ironically) out west in Tucson w/her bio-dad for her first Christmas w/him since the age of 2. Funny how he's suddenly interested in spending time w/her now :eyes:... Actually NOT knowing him (but that's a whole other story)
At any rate, I didn't feel like going to my SO's sister's house this year (although I usually do now that daughter is grown). My SO got mad, I brought up the past, and now, here we are again spending the day w/out each other.
Merry F'n Christmas is right. :grr:
:rant: ... sorry... :blush:
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