tinkerbell41
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Thu Dec-30-10 06:31 PM
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Advice: Meeting Old High School Friends |
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We lived within houses of each other. Close for a few years, then you know marriage, kids, jobs. A little nervous, why I don't know. 2 girls 2 guys platonic relationships, but they could have become something.
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Kat45
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Thu Dec-30-10 09:47 PM
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1. How many years ago did you graduate? |
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ie, how far in the past are we talking about? I've found a different dynamic depending on how close to high school it still is.
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tinkerbell41
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Fri Dec-31-10 12:56 AM
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2. Well let's see , 25 yrs |
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I just returned, it was fun. It seemed 25 yrs 2 husbands, 2 wives, 2 deceased parents, and 9 children oops 1 grandchild hasn't changed a thing. It was like 1985 all over again. And it was mullet free. Amazing how you start where you left off, the memories and inside jokes and knowing that these people KNOW you and you KNOW them, and you trust them with knowing you the way they do. We plan on meeting again in 2 weeks.
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Fri Dec-31-10 06:37 PM
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Met up with h.s. best friend recently, after having graduated in '62, and seeing her 20? years ago.
Was GREAT, and she's coming to my daughter's wedding in Sept!
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tinkerbell41
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Sat Jan-01-11 12:10 AM
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So when you meet, do you revert back? I mean as we age, we become different sort of. Last night I felt like me at 17 but it was good, comfortable even.
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Sat Jan-01-11 12:20 AM
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9. Didn't exactly revert back, but resumed and enhanced friendship. |
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Lots of similar experiences, and lots of experiences of interest to eachother.
Next day she met my daughter, which was a REAL thrill!
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tinkerbell41
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Sat Jan-01-11 12:29 AM
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Edited on Sat Jan-01-11 12:31 AM by tinkerbell41
Yes, bringing a whole lot more life experience to the table.
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Fri Dec-31-10 07:08 PM
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5. That's how it is with my old friends. |
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We don't get together often, but it's the same as it ever was - no adult roles to maintain or high school egos - we know each other too well to have any pretenses and genuinely like each other for ourselves. :pals:
Better stories to share now, too! :evilgrin:
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Fri Dec-31-10 06:59 PM
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4. Sorry, can't be much help... |
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...I don't have any old high school friends. I hated them all. ;)
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tinkerbell41
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Sat Jan-01-11 12:03 AM
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7. I hated High School too. |
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Thank god these were real friends, the kind that you never had to one up, or impress, or whatever.
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Fri Dec-31-10 07:28 PM
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I've revived a number of old friendships thru Facebook. There are some people on there I went to Kindergarten and Grade school with. It feels really good to reconnect with these childhood friends.
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tinkerbell41
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Sat Jan-01-11 12:26 AM
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Two of us have recently lost a parent, and one is currently experiencing her mom's final stages. And for some odd reason it was really comforting to be around them. I always ask strange, upfront personal questions, not to be an ass, or judging. I just want to know, how they dealt with it, what the experience was like etc.. I was amazed at the loss I felt and even more baffled why no one tells you how huge the loss is. No one ever talks about it. I have made a point to really look at someone and ask, are you okay? Do you want to tell me something you can't say to family?? When I spoke to my friend about my mom 3 yrs ago, the first thing I said was "I hated her" and laughed thru tears, and told her even though "we fought like cats and dogs" and "I wanted to claw her eyes out when I was a teen" the loss is unbearable, my best friend is gone. I couldn't have said it to anyone but her. We were best friends from 5th grade- College.
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Sat Jan-01-11 12:44 AM
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12. I've got a few HS friends and one elementary school friend I've reconnected with on FB |
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It's a weird scene.
It's weird to have people that you drifted away from and then drifted back towards.
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