My mom died yesterday

[yankeepants]

Even though she was 92, had dementia/Alzheimer's and had been living in a nursing home for 4 years and assisted living before that, for the first hour or two after she passed I felt so vulnerable. I felt like a lost child. It was a very strange and almost frightening feeling. I spent the rest of the day just being sad and useless.


As long as you have a parent you are still a child in the some sense. Safe passage Polly.

[kimi]

1. Oh, I am so sorry!

Of course you're still a child. We all always are, I think.

Ah, you must be hurting.

Hugs, sweetie. My heart goes out to you.

Take care.

:hug:

[yankeepants]

9. Yes. Hurting

and remembering.

Thanks for much needed hugs kimi

[Callalily]

2. Mothers certainly are special,

and you are right, no matter how old we find friendship, love, and comfort in our mothers.

RIP Polly!

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.”

Quote by Washington Irving

[yankeepants]

8. That is beautiful, thank you , Callalily

[NewJeffCT]

3. I'm sorry for your loss

May your mom rest in peace.

[yankeepants]

10. thank you Jeff

[xchrom]

4. may Peace be with you and yours at this time. nt

[yankeepants]

11. Thank you. Peace is a beautiful wish for us.

[laylah]

5. I am sorry for your

loss, yankeepants. :hug:

Jenn

[yankeepants]

12. Thanks Jenn, yankeepants

[JCMach1]

6. So sorry for the loss

[yankeepants]

13. I appreciate it, yankeepants

[a kennedy]

7. so sorry to hear about your mother.....

:hug:

[yankeepants]

14. She was an amazing woman

Child of the depression, WWII staff sargeant, mother of seven, foster mother of many disabled children, artist, bread baker, Nanny, world traveller, voracious reader, teacher of English as a second language to international college students, intrepid scrabble player, and spiritual leader of many.

She is missed. Thanks, yankeepants

[Brickbat]

17. What a loss. Not only for you, but for the world.

You're in my thoughts.

[WinkyDink]

15. {{{yankeepants}}} I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. Mine is 86; yes, I'm still her child.

[dembotoz]

16. I am so sorry. Mom's are supposed to be there forever.

mine just turned 90.
It sounds like your mom was quite the woman.
You both are in my prayers.

[Crystal Clarity]

18. So sorry for your loss.

The passing of a close family member is never easy, regardless of the circumstances. You have my deepest sympathy. :hug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

19. my condolences

:hug:

[Call Me Wesley]

20. Safe passage to your mom.

May she be free from suffering. Peace and comfort to you and yours, yankeepants.

[Bossy Monkey]

21. So sorry. Sympathies and condolences to you and all your family. Safe passage Polly. n/t

[hamsterjill]

22. Regardless of when you lose a parent, you still lose a parent!

My father passed away last September at the age of 95. He'd been in a nursing facility for about a year.

There were some people in my life who seemed to think that I was prepared for it, expecting it, and that I wasn't going to grieve his loss. Luckily, there were other friends who understood and allowed me the time I needed to heal.

While I revelled in the fact that he'd had a long and full life, and was grateful that we had him in our lives as long as we did - - - I still lost my father. It still hurt, it was still a grieving process, and there was still an empty chair at the Thanksgiving table.

So, my sympathies to you. I wish you peace and comfort. Take the time you need to grieve and heal, and to miss your mom. What you are feeling is a perfectly natural reaction. Don't try to minimize your loss based on your mom's age or condition. She was your mom, after all.

[rurallib]

37. May I concur. Makes no difference when you lose a parent

it is sure a huge chunk out of your life.

[mvd]

23. I'm very sorry. Sending my thoughts and condolences

:hug:

[Swede]

24. Sorry for your loss.

May she rest in peace.

[hedgehog]

25. I'm sorry for your trouble. It does get better.

[GreenPartyVoter]

26. I'm so sorry. *hugs* When I lost my parents, my mom in particular because she went first, I really

had that same vulnerability you are talking about. I was in my 30s yet still kept thinking, "But I'm not ready to not to have a mom!" Just the thought made me crumple up in tears.

I hope you can find some peace. For me, walking outside really helped. I always felt like she was in the sunset and the breeze. I feel much closer to her there than anywhere else. :hug:

[LaurenG]

27. I am so sorry for your loss. Losing your mom is really tough

and I felt exactly the same (my mom passed away last month). You really don't know what to say or do and can only feel deep sadness at their passing. :hug:

[monmouth]

28. Regardless of age, Mom is still Mom. My deepest sympathy...n/t

[foxfeet]

29. I'm so sorry. I wish peace and healing for you and your family.

:hug:

[DoBotherMe]

30. I am so sorry for your loss.

:hug: Dana ; )

[applegrove]

31. So sorry.

[pokerfan]

32. I am so sorry

Losing my father was rough because it was sudden -- a bolt out of the blue plus my Mom and I had each other for comfort. Losing my Mom was rougher because as you said, it means you're no longer a child. But after a long bout with cancer it was almost a relief in some sense.

Condolences.

[Tikki]

33. We're so sorry...her love will live on..

within you.


The Tikkis

[Amerigo Vespucci]

34. My condolences to you

My mom's been gone since 2002, my dad since 1993. People who have been through the loss know that nothing can be said except I hope that you will heal fully, in your own time, and that you have many pleasant memories of your mom to see you through the years.

Mike

[msanthrope]

35. I am very sorry for your loss, and I wish you and your mother peace. n/t

[Kat45]

36. I'm so sorry.

My mother died almost three years ago, so I understand what you're saying.

[JohnnyLib2]

38. I am sorry for your loss and salute your love for her.

Always in your heart...... :hug:

[Bertha Venation]

39. my sincere condolences, yankeepants

My grandmother died several years ago after similar progressions. In my grief, I suddenly realized I didn't know how to live in a world that doesn't have her in it. Still don't.

Safe passage, Polly

[one_voice]

40. Very sorry for your loss..

peace to you and yours during this difficult time. :hug:

[Forkboy]

41. I lost my mother this past summer.

She was 63 and very liberal. I hope I can be like her someday.

My sincere condolences to you.

[WildEyedLiberal]

42. I'm so sorry to hear about your mom

I am so blessed to have my mom, and it won't matter how old I am, I know losing her will be the worst day of my life. May your precious mom rest in peace :hug:

[Odin2005]

43. I'm so sorry!

:(

[bluesbassman]

44. Sorry for your loss yankeepants.

Safe passage to Polly, peace and comfort to you. :hug:

[cherokeeprogressive]

45. Safe passage, Polly.

To You, yankeepants...

My fondest wish is that The Great Spirit met your mother at the edge of the great field of grass, blowing in the gentle breeze, and took her hand so as to lead her to a better place.

Safe Passage, Polly.

[denbot]

46. You have my deepest sympathy.

Peace to you and yours.

[kaiden]

47. Hey, S-I-L.

Beautiful obit. Jack will send a donation to the SPCA in her name.

[woo me with science]

48. My heart goes out to you.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[texanwitch]

49. I am so sorry to hear about your Mom.

I lost both my parents last year, it does hurt.

Take time and find some peace.

No matter how prepared you are, one is never ready for the death of a parent.

Have a good journey Polly.

[Phentex]

50. I just saw this. I'm so sorry...

Hugs to you!

:hug:

[bigwillq]

51. I am very sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[GalleryGod]

52. Vaya con Dios, Polly.

O8)

[emilyg]

53. Many hugs for you - safe journey to Mom.

[murielm99]

54. I am so sorry.

Both of my parents are still living, but I know how hard it was for my husband when his parents passed.

I hope that soon you will be remembering the good times. Hugs.

[marzipanni]

55. You have my empathy

January 12 my mom would have been 96, but she died in June 2010. Sometimes I talk to her anyway, and tell her I miss her.
:hug:

[MilesColtrane]

56. yankeepants, I am sorry for your loss.

I lost my dad a few years back, and yes, the world does seem a little smaller and colder when a parent dies.

Try to remember that as long as you breathe, a part of her is still here.

It will always hurt, but eventually the good memories will prevail.

[Supply Side Jesus]

57. Have you in my thoughts

take care

[area51]

58. I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[timtom]

59. My 23 year-old-son died yesterday.

We are both of us grieving now. I'm only good for about five minutes of rational speech right now at any one time.

My prayers certainly extend to you.

[Politics_Guy25]

62. Tragic-my heartfelt condolences to you BOTH!!!!=

May god be with you at this terrible time.

[bdamomma]

60. my condolences to you and your family

:(

[GoCubsGo]

61. I am so sorry.

Hugs.