MY BIRTHDAY SUCKED! Just need to whine a bit where no one will see or care...

[amyrose2712]

The lounge is a perfect place. I can say my piece and it will drop like a stone and be gone because I already feel guilty for feeling this way. I don't ask for much. No presents. No cards. Just a tiny bit of being extra nice or an acknowledgement from a friend that you do anything for without question. But, alas, not a peep. I suppose I should just be happy that I am healthy and my belly is full and my feet are warm. And I did get lots of FB Happy Bdays.(cheaters-hehehe just kidding. I only say that because I have a rainman-like talent for remembering bdays and with Facebook these days I no longer get the credit for remembering, hehe) Don't get me wrong. I'm very grateful for that but I can't help feel a little forgotten. I know it is stupid but I can only claim I am human and sometimes let my emotions take over. Thanks for letting me whine DU.

[RichGirl]

1. Does the...

..."poor me" routine make you feel good? If not, then stop. Ask yourself "why am I thinking things that make me feel bad"..."why am I making myself feel bad". When we feel bad we look to others to blame when it is our own doing/thinking. If you are kind to yourself then you never have to look to others for happiness.

Been there...trust me...it's so freeing to just love and accept people without judgement. But first you have to love yourself enough to be kind to yourself.

[amyrose2712]

4. HA! I don't really know. It is the first time I tried it.

I know it is my own thinking. I kinda alluded to that. Hence the reason I am whining little bit here and not to anyone involved. I actually very rarely think of such things. Basically I, for one of the first times, am allowing myself to express a little disappointment. Usually, if I feel disappointed about something, I will quickly try to look at things from a broader perspective. I rarely am concerned with how something will effect me. I think that this reaction is actually opposite of what you are saying. I don't look to other for my happiness. I am just a bit disappointed that my closest friend didn't so much as text me. Maybe I am being selfish, but believe me this is a rarity for me.

[RichGirl]

14. I understand...

I don't know how old you are...but I wish when I was younger and found myself crying on someones shoulder because someone hurt my feelings, that they would have slapped me and said "snap out of it". Instead...they add to it with lots of "you poor thing" etc. You want someone to confirm that you have a right to be hurt in the moment...but in the long run it creates a habit of misery that takes away your happiness. If you find a group of 50/60/70 year olds it's all about "ain't it awful". It's a habit of thought that gets harder to change the older you get.

[a kennedy]

2. happy belated birthday wishes......

:hug:

[amyrose2712]

8. Thanks. :)

[siligut]

3. Maybe people think you don't really care?

The people who get all the fuss are the people who ask for it. Not in words, but in other ways, but they make sure, their friends and family don't forget.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFh-rX_Sfhs

Panda gets a birthday cake: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pUwIypksfE&NR=1&feature=fvwp

[amyrose2712]

9. Awww! That panda is cute! Thanks! nt

[Demoiselle]

11. My husband used to have his birthday announced on the office P.A. system..

To say nothing of dropping little reminders for weeks beforehand.
At my age, I'm content to have my birthday forgotten.
But..Amyrose....you cheer up, please. You can always use this as leverage for future favors. Nothing like a little guilt to get friends in line.

[whistler162]

5. Sounds like a perfect birthday to me....

spent my 50th riding a train. A few FB happy birthday's but otherwise nice and quiet!

Just like I want it.

[amyrose2712]

6. Yea, I like it quiet too...

I guess I was just a bit down I didn't hear a peep from my closest girlfriend and the BF was a little jerkish. All good now, just needed to whine a bit.

[amyrose2712]

7. DUPE

[seabeyond]

10. happy bday to you... happy bday to you

happy bday dear amy

happy bday to you

....................

and many more

[amyrose2712]

23. TY, Sea. nt

[old mark]

12. Well, with an attitude like that, it's no wonder you got nothing....

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!

:party: :party: :party: :party: :party:
:toast: :toast: :toast: :toast: :toast:
:toast: :toast: :toast: :toast: :toast:
:beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer:
:beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer:
:beer: :beer: :beer: :beer: :beer:

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
:bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:

:puke: :hurts: :hangover: :nopity:
:grouphug: :yourock:

Have an entirely great year!!!!!


mark

(How old did you say you were?)

[amyrose2712]

13. Apparently, I am 5...

for letting such a thing bother me. I didn't say I got nottin'. I just didn't get the love from where I hoped. Not really a huge deal. Just hurt my wittle feelwings. WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! Thanks for the good cheer!

[old mark]

21. You write very well for 5....nt

[Call Me Wesley]

15. Happy belated Birthday!

:toast: Here's to a better one next time! :hi:

[amyrose2712]

24. Thanks. nt

[seaglass]

16. There is nothing wrong with hoping your birthday is acknowledged by those closest to you.

Geez.

My b-day was yesterday and not exactly a great day - still nursing a broken shoulder and have a bad cold...but I did get the call from my mom in the morning and a card from my husband and b-day wishes from my kids.

I would have felt very sad if I didn't get acknowledgment from my husband and kids - and I think you have every right to have a little anonymous whine as long as you don't wallow in it which does not sound like what you are doing!

Happy belated B-day!

[nyc 4 Biden]

29. happy birthday to you too SG!

:toast:

[seaglass]

35. Thanks nyc 4 biden - appreciate it! n/t

[amyrose2712]

31. Happy BDay fellow Cappy! nt

[seaglass]

34. Thanks amyrose! n/t

[Brickbat]

17. You are TOTALLY entitled to whine because no one remembered your birthday.

A few years ago I realized that Mr. Brickbat is never going to give me the birthday I want, for a variety of reasons, so I just give it to myself (I make my own cake, clear my schedule, and give myself the day off to do what I want), and try to honor what he DOES do. Ceremony has always been important to me and I feel hurt and annoyed when others don't honor it the way I do. I've gotten better as I get older, but there's just something about a birthday...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

[amyrose2712]

25. Thanks...

people remembered. And this thread did the trick. I'm all good now. Been in my onsie PJs all day what more can I ask!

[WinkyDink]

18. Happy Belated Birthday, amyrose2712 !

Trust me; I know how you feel.

[amyrose2712]

26. Thank you...

Sometimes his helps to commiserate. :toast:

[we can do it]

19. Poor You! (I Mean It) Mine Always Sucks, December Birthdays SUCK

no one remembers, or cares they are too busy eating cookies

[amyrose2712]

27. Thanks,

I understand that, but mine was YESTERDAY DARN IT! Nah, I'm all over it. My self-pity parties usually die out pretty fast.

[tabbycat31]

20. I totally know how you feel

First of all happy belated birthday.

Last year was my 30th birthday, which I was dreading to start out with. To make matters worse my parents did not acknowledge it at all (that hurt big time) and my political ambitions were crushed on my birthday (I was going to run for county committee and I was told to withdraw on my birthday). The FB wall posts saying happy birthday were the highlight of the day. I ended up buying myself a present that week (a Blackberry) but it was not the same.

TO be fair though 30 has been pretty good to me and I am much happier now than I was last year at this time. I found a job that I LOVE and am good at and I (think) I have found a wonderful man (now if only I can figure out whether we are friends with benefits or more). So I'll take an awesome year with a sucky birthday over a sucky year with an awesome birthday.

[amyrose2712]

22. Thanks! And, good for you(seriously)..

I am glad things are going well for you. Things are pretty good here to really. That's why just a little whine did the trick.

[nyc 4 Biden]

30. hey we're the same age!

sounds like a great year! keep yer head up fellow eighty-baby. (p.s.-if u want a quick way to tell if you're friends or more, tell him you're going on a date with another guy. if he doesnt get mad and demand a monogamous relationship, you're just "friends with benefits.")

[tabbycat31]

36. I don't want to lie to him though

I do think he likes me (he made the first moves on me) and he called me twice a week when I was 700 miles away for an extended period of time (I worked on a campaign in KY and I live in NJ).

For now it looks like I will have to break the ice and actually ask him the hard question (I spent Thursday night at his place and left him a note offering to take him to dinner for his birthday--- we've talked since and he did not bring the note up so I am wondering if he saw it). I have earmarked my grandmother's xmas money for a date (how sad is that).

I don't want to hijack this thread but if you have any advice on this PLEASE PM me.

[nyc 4 Biden]

28. happy birthday to you AR!

:pals:

[Phentex]

32. I don't think it's stupid...

at all. I think people forget what a simple act like a card or a phone call really means. It's nice to be remembered, not necessarily showered with gifts or a fuss like a party.

Happy Belated Birthday! I hope next year's is better.

:party:

[texanwitch]

33. It could be worse trust me.

My father died on my birthday last year so I picked another day.

I know how you feel.

I picked a day next month for my birthday, and will have nice day.

Happy late happy birthday, find something fun to do.

:dunce:

[applegrove]

37. Happy Birthday!!

[defendandprotect]

38. Aaah . . . Happy Birthday and hope you have a better new birthday year ...!!!

Fingers crossed for all of us!!