Is it better to be feared or respected?

[WillParkinson]

Personally I'm going with feared. You can always lose someone's respect. It isn't generally easy to have them stop being afraid of you.

[dawg]

1. I would never want to be feared.

I don't want them to see it coming. :evilgrin:

[NightWatcher]

2. yep, I prefer to be underestimated

[Forkboy]

3. Respected. Why would I want people to fear me?

[WillParkinson]

4. I'm thinking they'd be more likely to fear you...

Stick a Forkboy in him honey, he's done! :P

[Forkboy]

6. People seem pretty quick with ideas on where to stick us forks.

Isn't that between me and my sheep? :D

[WillParkinson]

8. Baaaaad boy....

Baaaaad.

A ventirloquist cowboy walked into town and saw a rancher sitting on his porch with his dog.

Cowboy: Hey, cool dog. Mind if I speak to him?

Rancher: This dog don't talk!

Cowboy: Hey dog, how's it going?

Dog: I'm Doing alright

Rancher: (Extreme look of shock)

Cowboy: Is this your owner? (pointing at rancher)

Dog: Yep.

Cowboy: How's he treat you?

Dog: Real good. He walks me twice a day, feeds me great food, and takes me to the
lake once a week to play.

Rancher: (Look of disbelief)

Cowboy: Mind if I talk to your horse?

Rancher: Horses don't talk!

Cowboy: Hey horse, how's it going?

Horse: Not bad.

Rancher: (An even wilder look of shock)

Cowboy: Is this your owner? (pointing at rancher)

Horse: Yep.

Cowboy: How's he treat you?

Horse: Pretty good, thanks for asking. He rides me regularly, brushes me down
often, and keeps me in the barn to protect me from the elements.

Rancher: (total look of amazement)

Cowboy: Mind if I talk to your SHEEP?

Rancher: (gesticulating wildly, and hardly able to talk)...... Them sheep ain't nothin but liars!

[Forkboy]

10. LMAO!!!!!

:rofl:

[stuntcat]

5. respected

I'm thinkin long-term :) respect goes farther than fear

[Skittles]

7. you'll get the best results if you are both feared and respected

[WillParkinson]

9. Well, yeah, but...

You're the only person who's mastered them both.

[Forkboy]

11. It's tough to respect people you fear though.

Outside of you, I can't think of anyone that does both to me. ;)

[seabeyond]

13. ah ha skittle, here you are, lol lol. in all your fearsomeness

there is not fear, just a comfortable sense of respect even in disagreement.

[seabeyond]

12. i have never had the desire to be feared, that is about control. respect, given. spank, teach

is it better to spank your child or to teach your child why it behooves him to make good choices.

that is basically what you are saying. your choice would be to parent thru fear. and it is least effective, a very lazy way of parenting. not to mention a lazy way to walk thru life and not effective.

[WillParkinson]

15. Actually I'm just kidding...

We were trying to get the dogs outside and Paul couldn't get them to go (I think they were laughing at the squeaky voice). I yelled and they ran out the door. I told him it's because they fear me and neither respect or fear him.

[seabeyond]

18. that is a hoot

glad you told me you were kidding. was surprised, especially after you laughing at hubby cause he couldnt talk.

i hear ya on the dog thing. i am the only one my dog does what i say....

[Riftaxe]

14. Oderint dum metuant

[DeadEyeDyck]

16. admired?

[Sky Masterson]

17. I want people to fear how much they respect me..

:D

[stuntcat]

20. haah that's me

You win I think! :roffles: :rofl: :freak: :hi: :scared:

[Sky Masterson]

25. :)

:hi:

[quakerboy]

19. yes?

this is the internet. you can have it all, with ease.

[rbnyc]

21. Respected.

If people are afraid of you, they will do the minimum they have to do to avoid your wrath, with resentment, and only until they can escape. If people respect you, they will follow you on a journey of growth and productivity and help you to improve your own environment.

Edit: typo

[bluedigger]

22. I don't think they are mutually incompatible.

I can respect someone and still fear their ability to influence my fortune. A truer comparison would be fear vs. love. See Machiavelli.

[Mopar151]

23. Respected is far better

Scared people are wayyy too erratic for my taste - and they have no qualms about playing the victim card.

[Dappleganger]

24. Worshiped.