Thanks for the drama when I need it the least. Seriously, advice needed

[HEyHEY]

My wedding is in a couple weeks. For the legal wedding we are going to my fiancee's small village in Central China. It'll just be my parents, my fiancee, me and my two friends Jon (Best man) and Danni (Great friend of mine).

So, Jon and Danni have been in an escalating conflict basically cause they are both stubborn and won't apologize. So, it came to an even worse climax last night when Jon didn't invite her to my stag. His concern was other guys would think it was weird to have a woman there. I understand that concern, but that's not how I roll. My stag will not have hookers, strippers or any of that shit, I was very clear with Jon on this. I said I'd be happy with a night at the pub. So, it's no big deal if Danni comes at all. And she was helping him PLAN the fucking thing. So, he didn't invite her, she's pissed as hell and her feelings are a bit hurt.

So now, weeks from my wedding I have this drama. I can't choose one over the other, especially to come to the village. Should I just tell both of them to stay home and bring someone else?

[JeffersonChick]

1. I hate it when people pull this shit

It is YOUR YOUR YOUR wedding!!!!!! Why can't people grow the hell up?

Same stuff happened to me with my bridal party. I was originally going to have 7 friends for my bridesmaids (yeah, well, I was young). Paula said she wouldn't be in it if Kim was in. Meanwhile, Kim said she wouldn't be in it if Paula was in it. So guess what? I threw out FOUR of them, and pared it down to 3.

Honestly, if it were me I'd tell them:

"This is my wedding. One of the most, if not THE most, important day of my life. If the two of you cannot put aside your petty selfish little concerns for one evening so that I may enjoy it and have peace of mind without having to worry about being kindergarten referee, then you may consider yourselves excused from wedding party duty."

Well, it's what I'd say to Jon at least. Doesn't sound like Danni is at fault.

Good luck, let us know how it goes.

[HEyHEY]

2. Yeah, though Danni has been hard on Jon lately. This was out of line

[JeffersonChick]

3. Definitely out of line

But hopefully, given the opportunity, he'll concede and fix it.

Tell him, "Don't pull a Scott Walker on me."

LOL!

[struggle4progress]

4. On the basis if your very short three paragraph description, and knowing nothing

about either one of them, I would conjecture that they are obviously madly in love but don't recognize it themselves. So it's your simple duty to point that out to them

Tell em to rent a room :)

[HEyHEY]

5. Haha

Good idea.

[struggle4progress]

6. My romantic ideas have been heavily influenced by that famous film scene

where Myrna Loy chases William Powell down the stairs while discharging her gun

[elleng]

7. Wedding related drama not unusual,

in fact, the unusual would be if there were NO drama! Daughter's wedding coming in Sept, she just 'fired' one of her bridesmaids 'cause she's been 'out of line,' and apparently so for quite some time. AND daughter's younger sister, supposed to be maid of honor, giving daughter problems re: ordering dress.

Sorry, but that's life!

[MilesColtrane]

8. In Jon's defense, without knowing a damn thing about him,...

it is called a "stag party" for a reason.

Not that there will be epic debauchery that would repulse a woman, but that it is the final opportunity for good old "male bonding" while you are a still bachelor, and that there's nothing wrong with making it solely about that.

[Very_Boring_Name]

9. I agree 100%

[HEyHEY]

10. Yeah, my issue is more that he didn't call her and talk about it he just ignored her

[tigereye]

11. wedding drama is always when you need it the least!

:rofl:

Tell em both to shape up and be considerate, it's about you, not them. :shrug:

[seabeyond]

12. hugs... on your perspective of a stag

i find so insulting to say man needs a lot of naked and fuckin before marrying, lol.

and i am sorry that these two are messing with your wedding.who knows where they will be in the weeks to the wedding, but tell them both to act like adults. it is yours and soon to be wifes day

[HEyHEY]

15. That's one of the reasons I want her there

If she's there they'll behave. I've told you stories about the men in this city before. I really don't want them in charge of me for a night.

[seabeyond]

16. good point. and i hear ya

also, probably why jon doesnt want her there, now that you bring it up.

ya

[HEyHEY]

17. I WISH it were that simple

This is a feud that's been developing for a long time. Here's the cliff notes. Jon and Danni were friends when Jon arrived. Now, Jon was a friend of mine from home that never had much of a life, no education, was working security at a bingo hall for a living. He did, however, have some experience as a radio host on co-op. So, we fudged the fuck out of his resume and I vouched for him and got him a job here. The guy had a shit upbringing and never had a real opportunity in life, so I thought this could be one for him and hence the efforts to bring him over. That said, he is lazy and immature for his age.

Danni is a younger, very smart, highly educated and driven woman. Because of this she just doesn't seem to be able to understand people like Jon. She's a bit too young to understand that if a person isn't really causing you any issues and are okay to be around otherwise... just overlook whatever it is about them that annoys you.

So, Jon is also notorious at running his mouth. He doesn't lie or anything, but he's delusional. And it annoys Danni to no end. Instead of ignoring it she calls him on it, good or bad, I don't know. So, one night when Jon was talking to a girl he has a crush on Danni, who was fed up with him at the moment came up and asked the girl, "Look, are you ever gonna sleep with him?" The answer was "we're just friends" and a whole bunch of awkwardness and Jon felt humilated. Danni thought she was doing him a favour as well cause she knows the girl and knows she's the type that would just use Jon if she knew he had a thing for her, but her strategy was a bit poorly planned.

So, now Jon is pissed about that, and wants an apology, but Danni won't say sorry. So he went and acted like a child and pulled this shit. ALl these two fuckheads need to do is respect each other, make some admissions of guilt and move the fuck on. Instead it's turned into playground shit

[seabeyond]

18. that is funny...

lol. thanks for the story. hm.

well, the best of luck to yawl.

[rug]

13. Dump Jon and invite Orrex.

[seabeyond]

14. lol

there are times, when reading a post, not expecting a laugh, and getting it anyway. funny