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kimi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 03:30 AM Original message |
Would like opinions on this - personal family stuff |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 03:36 AM Response to Original message |
1. Wow |
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ChoralScholar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 03:54 AM Response to Original message |
2. There's no way to know |
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struggle4progress (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 04:00 AM Response to Original message |
3. As a purely abstract matter, I think I'd try to make the call: I'd figure |
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kimi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 04:47 AM Response to Reply #3 |
7. I'm really trying to find a reason to make the call |
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RT Atlanta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 12:23 PM Response to Reply #3 |
49. I agree with this reasoning too |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 04:34 AM Response to Original message |
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kimi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 04:42 AM Response to Reply #4 |
5. "vengeful twit"? |
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Riftaxe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 04:47 AM Response to Reply #5 |
6. It's not an arguement about your humanity |
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kimi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 04:51 AM Response to Reply #6 |
8. "Increment of humanity" |
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snagglepuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 05:03 AM Response to Reply #5 |
10. What a vile thing to say to you. (DUs ignore function is a godsend.) |
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snagglepuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 05:05 AM Response to Reply #4 |
11. What insufferable insensitivity. Welcome to ignore. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 06:13 AM Response to Reply #4 |
14. ya. people do have choices. ugly, or not. nt |
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Brickbat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:08 AM Response to Reply #4 |
17. Actually, in an abusive family, "acknowledging existence" can cost a person quite a bit. Hearing a |
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AngryOldDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:29 AM Response to Reply #17 |
21. +1. |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 04:54 AM Response to Original message |
9. I'm curious |
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Ineeda (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 05:20 AM Response to Original message |
12. Hope this helps you... |
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Brickbat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:09 AM Response to Reply #12 |
18. I think this is good advice. |
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gimama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 08:14 PM Response to Reply #12 |
68. excellent advice here.. |
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blogslut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 05:35 AM Response to Original message |
13. I think you already know what you're going to do |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 06:18 AM Response to Original message |
15. i don't know kimi. |
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MrsBrady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 06:22 AM Response to Original message |
16. my life circumstances are different than yours |
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Grey (933 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 10:40 AM Response to Reply #16 |
27. I totally agree with MrsBrady, |
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gimama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 08:30 PM Response to Reply #16 |
69. YOUR #3 strategy saved my Life |
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Phentex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:17 AM Response to Original message |
19. I would not go nor would I call... |
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AngryOldDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:27 AM Response to Original message |
20. I empathize completely. |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:39 AM Response to Original message |
22. If there is to be any attempt at reconciliation, or even acknowledgement, it has to come from your |
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NV Whino (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 09:53 AM Response to Original message |
23. My 2 pennies |
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Kali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 10:10 AM Response to Original message |
24. didn't read replies yet but my gut |
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Dyedinthewoolliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 10:13 AM Response to Original message |
25. You may not agree |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 10:50 AM Response to Reply #25 |
28. I disagree. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 12:41 PM Response to Reply #28 |
36. that is what would be hard, and fake, which i dont do. say you care, and you dont |
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Dyedinthewoolliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 01:59 PM Response to Reply #28 |
39. There is a spiritual principle |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 08:56 PM Response to Reply #39 |
50. No, there isn't , particularly if you can't explain it. |
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Dyedinthewoolliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 12:50 PM Response to Reply #50 |
60. I didn't say that. |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 01:09 PM Response to Reply #60 |
61. That *is* stepping back into abuse. |
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Dyedinthewoolliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 04:06 PM Response to Reply #61 |
62. Judge not |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 05:05 PM Response to Reply #62 |
63. Well, thanks for the lecture on judging, but honestly, it's pretty condescending. |
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Dyedinthewoolliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 05:27 PM Response to Reply #63 |
64. How is what I said a lecture? |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 09:52 PM Response to Reply #64 |
74. Not contacting her father is not punishment or vengence. |
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Dyedinthewoolliberal (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 10:43 PM Response to Reply #74 |
75. Thank you for judging me |
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kwassa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 11:07 PM Response to Reply #75 |
76. you miss the point. |
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distantearlywarning (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 07:56 PM Response to Reply #28 |
66. +1 |
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AngryOldDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 12:40 PM Response to Reply #25 |
35. I disagree also. |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 09:44 PM Response to Reply #25 |
73. Since he just had a heart attack... |
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Dogtown (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 10:19 AM Response to Original message |
26. Walk away. |
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madmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 10:59 AM Response to Original message |
29. I have to say I agree with Mrs Brady. He was NOT your father in the real sense of the meaning, so |
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grasswire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 11:28 AM Response to Original message |
30. he objected to you having children? |
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rug (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 12:02 PM Response to Original message |
31. What's the worst that will happen if you do call? |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 12:04 PM Response to Original message |
32. You don't owe him BUPKUS. But think about this... |
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Arugula Latte (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 12:27 PM Response to Original message |
33. It sounds like you don't want to call him. I would go with your gut. |
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hedgehog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 12:37 PM Response to Original message |
34. I'm so sweet I give people diabetes if they're in the same room with me, |
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ismnotwasm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 12:46 PM Response to Original message |
37. That's very personal and individual |
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rurallib (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 01:02 PM Response to Original message |
38. I would not contact him. |
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Lars39 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 02:05 PM Response to Original message |
40. Your well meaning SIL doesn't know the depth of your feelings. |
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Arkansas Granny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 02:15 PM Response to Original message |
41. If you haven't spoken to him in 25 years, I don't think you will regret it |
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RedCloud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 02:35 PM Response to Original message |
42. I would go. Just show him you are the better and now stronger person. |
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kimi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:18 PM Response to Original message |
43. Thanks, everyone. |
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stuntcat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:24 PM Response to Original message |
44. "that sounds awful", no I don't think it's awful. |
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surrealAmerican (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 07:56 PM Response to Original message |
45. Is there something you might want to put in writing and send to him? |
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BlancheSplanchnik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Apr-11-11 08:03 PM Response to Original message |
46. well, my experience, for what it's worth.... |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 12:03 AM Response to Original message |
47. Go with your instinct. You don't owe him a damn thing. |
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burrfoot (801 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 12:27 AM Response to Original message |
48. Write him. |
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Generic Brad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 09:04 PM Response to Original message |
51. You have no regrets |
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Old Troop (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 09:14 PM Response to Original message |
52. Dear Kimi |
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Bertha Venation (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 10:15 PM Response to Original message |
53. I can only say what I would do in your shoes. |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 10:17 PM Response to Original message |
54. He does not deserve you calling him. |
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kimi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Apr-12-11 11:30 PM Response to Original message |
55. Again, thanks, everyone, for your support. |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 01:52 AM Response to Original message |
56. I have a serious illness, and I say don't call. I really empathize with you. This is very tough... |
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Duppers (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 02:02 AM Response to Original message |
57. been there. don't call. |
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csziggy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 02:03 AM Response to Original message |
58. Will it harm your relationship with the rest of your family if you don't call |
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deutsey (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 09:21 AM Response to Original message |
59. I've only seen my biological dad a couple times since he left my mom and me |
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Demoiselle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 05:28 PM Response to Original message |
65. Dear Kimi...I am so sorry... |
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Tikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 08:06 PM Response to Original message |
67. You will not regret it..... |
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nolabear (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 09:03 PM Response to Original message |
70. Kimi, maybe it would be easier to think of this as between you and your other family members. |
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Flaxbee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 09:26 PM Response to Original message |
71. OK. My dad died in December. I had always been in touch with him |
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Dappleganger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Wed Apr-13-11 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
72. Hope this helps... |
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