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suzbaby Donating Member (906 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 04:21 PM
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Advice needed for the terminally confrontation-phobic.
Our neighbor has the world's most annoying dog. Its piercing yap has interrupted our sleep on a near daily basis for the past few weeks; yet I don't have the cojones to walk over there and confront them. What should I do? Anonymous letter? Flaming bag of dog poo? Grow a spine, walk over there, and talk to them anyway?
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Moondog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 04:24 PM
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1. Live with it, or suck it up and tell them about it. n/t
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 04:25 PM
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2. Try talking to them in a non confrontational way
Just let them know the dog is disrupting sleep. If they get argumentative, walk away.

aA
kesha
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HopeHoops Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 04:33 PM
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3. Go outside in your pajamas, while it is barking, and bark back.
Use a nice deep Great Dane sort of bark and scare the fucking shit out of the little bastard.

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suzbaby Donating Member (906 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 04:34 PM
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4. I've been considering an airhorn...
but that would be cruel to our other neighbors as well. (j/k)
:P
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HopeHoops Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 04:41 PM
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5. Tuba.
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snagglepuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 04:56 PM
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6. I probably hate confrontation more than you however I was successful in
getting my nieghbor to remove her shoes while in her apartment above mine by slipping a very pleasant short note under her door. I said she probably didn't realize how noisy it was and requested that she remove her shoes then signed off as "Her Sleepy Nieghbor". Had I knocked on her door my discomfort would probably come off as aggression. Hard to know whether that approach would work in your situation. I think the key is make the interaction pleasant and than see whether they are receptive. Good luck.
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suzbaby Donating Member (906 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 05:00 PM
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7. Thanks, I considered the note route.
I end up doing that....don't know.
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snagglepuss Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 07:11 PM
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11. LOL Did your mother have twins? If you don't go that route than prepare
a short statement and say it when you bump into your nieghbor, something friendly as possible like "I was wondering if your dog is okay?" Nieghour replies no. You then say something "He's been barking so much recently but we didn't want to say anything. Have you noticed his barking?"

At that point you establish you seem concerned about the doggie's health and give the owner an out and avoiding any sense that you are telling them what to do with their dog.

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davsand Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 05:04 PM
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8. An open window and the William Tell Overture might be a possibility.
At maximum volume, of course, and only if you've asked them nicely not to leave the dog barking outside your windows.

I'd also consider "How Ya Like Me NOW?" by The Heavy or maybe "Now You're Messing With a Son Of a Bitch" by Nazreth, but I'm probably a pretty big bitch by most folk's standards.

I fucking HATE pet owners that put dogs outside--away from them--and then leave them to bark. It is mean to the dog and it is rude to the entire neighborhood. I once had a neighbor that did that every morning, plus every night at sundown he'd let that dog loose to poop in my front yard. I took the dog and the shit home one evening and they got nasty with me. (I swear to you--I was NOT mean that time.) I explained that I was worried about the dog being off leash and maybe getting hit by a car or stolen. She snarled at me and slammed the door in my face. I left the poop (still in a bag) on the front step for them.

After that I started calling their house when the dog would bark outside my bedroom window every morning. I'd ask them to please take that poor dog into the house because I was tired of hearing it bark. After the third or fourth day in a row they quit answering the phone and they left the dog out all day. That was when I started calling the city to file noise complaints.

If they really give a shit about how you feel they will not allow the dog to continue barking once you let them know it is a problem for you. If they could give shit about how I feel, then I'm gonna share the pain. Just my two cents.



Laura
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struggle4progress Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 06:13 PM
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10. The 1812 Overture has cannons
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 05:05 PM
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9. Isn't it amazing how the owners never notice the barking?
We finally got replacement windows.... can't hear a thing with them closed tight.

It was expensive, but worth every penny to tune out the obnoxious neighbors.
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rrneck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 07:30 PM
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12. Open one of the overhead cabinets in your kitchen.
Look closely for something on the counter beneath it. Raise your head quickly. If done properly the corner of the cabinet should strike the back of your head. That will put you in the proper mood to kick King Kong's ass.
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suzbaby Donating Member (906 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 08:38 PM
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13. LOL
:rofl:
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KurtNYC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 08:42 PM
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14. don't view it as confrontation
you have a problem that needs their help. ask nicely for something that is possible -- keep the dog inside until a certain hour of the morning. you will probably get it. most people hate being told what to do so try first to enlist them in the solution. lay out your problem and then be prepared to listen to their ideas (or lack of). have a solution in mind.
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EFerrari Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Apr-17-11 09:28 PM
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15. Know what you want and practice before you go over there.
:hi:
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