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Edited on Thu Jul-14-11 09:52 PM by pitohui
...this couldn't happen if you simply stopped answering your phone
i have my contacts set up so each person who calls me regularly has a photo and a ring tone specific to them that pops up, if the person is a time waster, i do not answer the call, i may or may not call back at the time of my own choosing
in the case of your mom using you as a free taxi service, i would make up some story about how since i lost my job, i have lost my gas card (or even i would claim my car is in the shop) and then i wouldn't answer the phone for several weeks to several months until she finds someone else to victimized
to be honest, what i REALLY did in your situation, was to refuse all calls forever from bums hitting me as a taxi service, but since it's your mom, you can't just shut her out forever, but you need to stop providing the free rides though
of course you're depressed, you'll never find another job or have a serious home business that makes money if you keep dropping everything to be an unpaid cab driver
as for your husband, same thing, let him sleep on the bus, call you for pickup, you don't answer, you don't answer, you don't answer, when he finds his own way home, apologize and say, oh my phone battery must have died, have that happen a few times and he'll figure it out or i'll say i just had a glass of wine while whipping up dinner, couldn't drive, so he has to find his own way (i'm little and no longer drink even after 1 glass of wine)
if you allow other people to disrespect your time OF COURSE you'll be depressed, you need to value yourself and cut off the damn phone to people who are abusing you
i distanced my mom once for a few months, not over taxi rides, she can't stand me driving, but it was just as damaging to my health and esteem, and once we were talking again, she was MUCH more respectful of my limits and my health, we never discussed the problem, discussion just leads to yelling and arguments, we simply quietly and silently came to an agreement that i have an equal right to respect as any other human being
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