Ok Where do your adult children sleep when visiting home with their GF/BF, does it really matter,

[buzzard]

I am speaking about University students here?

[freshwest]

1. When I visited my BF's house, he slept in his old room and I took the living room couch.

Out of deference to his mother and father and the younger siblings.

[XemaSab]

2. My BF took the spare room

while I slept in "my" room.

Mostly because the deets of my sex life are total overshare with my mom.

[freshwest]

3. Ya, never discussed sex with my fam. And it's *their* house. Kama sutra at my place, LOL.

[nomorenomore08]

4. Case by case. Depends on what everybody's comfortable with.

Parents' belief systems - from very liberal to very conservative, and everywhere in between - the size and layout of the house, younger siblings and other relatives present (if any). So, sorry, I guess I don't have much of an answer for you...

[Chan790]

5. Well...

The first time I brought a girlfriend home to visit, my mother tried to make us sleep in separate rooms but I went and got a hotel room and spent virtually no time with my family over that Christmas break. Ever since, the topic has never come up once and my various girlfriends have slept wherever they wanted to...my parents have a very very large house (6000sq.ft. 6BR,4BA) and only one "child" (my 25 year old unemployable nimrod brother) still living at home so there are more beds than they could ever hope to fill with guests.

[hobbit709]

6. My mother always offered both of us the spare bedroom.

But then it never bothered her as to what consenting adults did.

[Zephie]

7. When I was engaged and we stayed with my hubby's parents they had me sleep on the floor

Despite the fact I'd been living with him for 2 months at that point. Floors in Idaho in the middle of winter are not pleasant, and they had an aversion to using their heater. :(

[Marrah_G]

8. I allow my son's GF to spend the night

Her parent's know. They are both in college. He is also in the Air National Guard. They sleep in his room. My fiance and I have a sound machine in our room so whatever they do in there is up to them. If they want to have sex or drink I want them to do it safely. So far neither drink by their own choice and protection is being used by both. They are both responsible young adults and I see no value in making them hide. Neither want children for quite some time.

[HopeHoops]

9. My adult daughter (20) and her boyfriend sleep in her room.

[Lyric]

10. Once I was an adult, I slept where (and with whomever) I wanted.

And if Mom hadn't liked it, I'd have just slept somewhere else.

:shrug:

[bif]

11. My daughter's boyfriend sleeps in her bedroom.

Even though I'm a dad, I just went with it. We'd put a mattress on the floor and just didn't ask questions. Hey, she's 23 now. We jokingly call it a "sleepover". They've been doing it since she was a junior in college.

[nolabear]

12. My in-laws have a bedroom we always called "The Chastity Room".

It's the only one on the same floor as their room, across the hall. All girlfriends slept there, both my generation and now our sons'. There was some masterful sneaking up and down those stairs back then, and there still is.

The only times we've had girlfriends sleep here they were long term partners who lived with the sons anyway, so what the hey.

[Old Troop]

13. It never mattered to me.

[alphafemale]

14. When my daughter and her boyfriend visited for the holidays not only did I let them sleep together

I let them use our super shower in the master bath with the shower head at each end.

[Redstone]

15. Wherever they want to. My mother, being a Catholic, was worried

(even though at the time she was dying from melanomia) about me and Mrs R (though we weren't married just yet) sleeping together at my brother's house when we made the 250-mile trip (which we did every week for several months) to visit her in the hospital.

My advice, if you'd like it: Let them do whatever THEY think is proper. That will spare you tons of aggravation.

Redstone

[kimi]

16. University-age kids?

Usually have it pretty together regarding protection and such. By their own choice, when my boys have brought their GFs home with them on vacation from college, they sleep in separate bedrooms, but it's not a big deal to me. I've got no illusions about what happens when my bedroom door closes at night, and don't consider it my business anyway.