guys... i am suppose to have the answer RIGHT NOW. what do you do when so physically angry

[seabeyond]

when so so so angry.

that is it.

i said, son had first love. she was kissing the guys in back of bus, sons friends. here it is 11 at night and he is so so mad. his friend told him after they got off the bus. she was purposely doing it to get son mad.

what do guys do with this anger.

[Kali]

1. dig holes/ditches, chop wood, break rocks

or punch walls, get in fights

if it is physical it needs a physical outlet, especially with guys

[seabeyond]

2. all i have is clean up room, lol. it is almost 12. cant send him out running or digging

ditches. i figure we will have an all night spring cleaning.

sigh...

so hard.

i dont do anger well. oh, well, my own is fine. but not others. at least hubby is out of town. he does it way less than i. not at all.

[Kali]

5. scrubbing walls/floors might do it

poor kid, I feel for him
my youngest got dumped by his first this summer, he is the silent type so it was hard to tell

it's life

[Chan790]

15. Got any phonebooks you need to get rid of.

Have him rip em up so they take up less space in trash...or recycling. Crush cans too.

[seabeyond]

17. that would be a good one. we recycle, but i think this year i will keep them around

this is what i was askin. this would have helped. he wanted to destroy something.

now.... we are looking at cars, and i have been very gentle with him today. he is doing better.

thanks though. i like your suggestion. i have another son that will probably go thru this

[begin_within]

3. Make it look like an accident.

[seabeyond]

4. he really does not need to hear that. he says, his only concern is the repercussions....

i dont think he gets the nastiness of people.

i dont get it.

[Obamanaut]

6. Good lesson for boy. Now knows hurt. Maybe will remember, and not

hurt others. All better in morning.

[seabeyond]

8. one of the tough things is he doesnt hurt others and why he "doesnt get" the need to

hurt another. so i had not really thought about your pespective. but reading this and thinking, i agree with you.

[dawg]

7. She's doing him a favor.

Showing him what kind of girl she really is. Mean. Spiteful.

The girl he loved was mostly a creation of his own sweet imagination.

Funny how that works. :(

[seabeyond]

9. i said so many of the things yawl talked about on the other thread. it was so helpful

and i am glad i read so many different perspectives. they came in handy last night. ended up being a late nighter. until 2 before everyone calmed down. today.... both kids missed school and we are going out to play. even promised to get oldest a car.... lol. anything to make the hurt better.

ah ha

reality, he was already getting a "cheap" car that he will payback on. we just have not had the time.

yes. i absolutely agree. this really allows (and i have learned a lot that i would not do in my mellow, it is what it is kinda way) him to kinda hate her a little more. sounds so rough. not the way i am.

but though it was very hard last night, it is making today a little easier.

thanks dawg

:hug:

[riderinthestorm]

10. Really sorry to hear this seabeyond. First love is so painful.

He needs to keep busy, preferably with hard play/work. Otherwise the anger and emotion just seethes. Do you have any big yard projects you've been putting off? (too bad you don't live near me, I could keep him busy AND tired!)

Glad you made it through the worst of the crisis last night. Hope today is better. :hug:

[seabeyond]

11. now, we are analyzing. lol. this kid analyzes EVERYthing. the coaches tell him

just run, quit thinking. not gonna happen. it is interesting where he goes with it. he is a fuzzy brain. i haven't had him tested, we accept and find tools so he can deal with it. but, he sees that in many ways, with many people he is like a 30 yr old. but with love, this stuff, he is an innocent, unsure, inept, ... 13 yr old. he is an amazing kid.

and ya.... we have an acre to clean out. good idea. halloween decorations to put up. and a college tx tech game to go to, lol.

[grasswire]

12. I just hope he gets rid of the anger before he takes the new car out

I've seen the results of an angry driver.

[seabeyond]

18. so true.

he doesnt often get angry. but we will need to have a conversation about this. thanks for a reminder.

[Shagbark Hickory]

13. I don't get mad.

I get even.

Muhahahahahahaaaa :evilgrin:

[seabeyond]

19. lol. that is ALL he wants. just wants to get even

i am totally the other way. i dont care and walk away. as far as i am concerned the other wins, if you start that battle.

[PRETZEL]

14. Wasn't part of the anger that she was kissing his friends?

So, on the one hand, he was dumped by her which is bad enough,

Add to that, she and his friends rubbing it in his face,

remember from the other thread the added difficulty of the closeness of their interaction on their everyday life. Seems like he got a double dose of one of the hardest things teenagers go through. Knowing who you real friends are and the fleeting nature of what other people think about anothers feelings.

He'll be a much better person learning this, just like dawg said.

[seabeyond]

20. you got it exactly. those are exactly what the issues are. nt

[MilesColtrane]

16. sorry

can't understand your argot

[seabeyond]

21. that is cool. you dont have to understand. thanks... nt

[Hassin Bin Sober]

22. Hit a pillow:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x5wQeBLQ194


long version:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zEE7xzwogMc

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