Horrible experience this evening

[MissMillie]

I was going shopping on my way home from work. As I pulled into the parking space, I was listening to the baseball game. I sat for just a minute and then a couple and their son came to their vehicle, parked next to mine. I turned the engine off, but waiting for them to get into their car before I got out of mine. Apparently the man had the same idea, and he said something to me, but my window was rolled up, so I didn't hear him. Then the woman started screaming that they were waiting for me to get out

So I rolled down my window and gently started to say that I was merely waiting for them, and she starts really screaming and cursing. "You f*ing b*tch! You gonna start with me now? You go to f*ing hell you fat f*ing bitch!"

I was stunned. I knew that if I went back at her in kind it would just escalate. So instead I said, "I don't know what has made you so angry, but I hope it goes away soon, and I hope you have a nice Easter."

I thought maybe if I responded w/ kindness she would realize that there was no need for the tirade she was on.

How did she respond?

"I hope you f* off and die you fat f*ing bitch!"

Again, I'm stunned, so I just sat in my car with the window up, and didn't even look at her. I just looked forward and shrugged my shoulders.

Then this woman walked over to my car and spit on my driver's side window.

No kidding.

Three things went through my head.

1) Her kid is going to grow up thinking that that's the way to treat people. Her kid will grow up to be a monster and she'll wonder why.

2) She driving! She's in a fit of anger over something and she's behind the wheel w/ two passengers. She's likely to kill someone.

3) I didn't deserve to have someone muck up my day like that. I was having a pretty good day, and those are pretty rare lately. Why couldn't I have parked next to someone who would smile and say "Happy Friday"?

The world sure is cold.

[PROGRESSIVE1]

1. Hopefully they will drive over a cliff!

[Cursive_Knives512]

2. Ew!

That is disgusting! I mean, it's one thing if the woman had a crappy day and is totally stressed out or pms-ing, and gives you a dirty look or something; but to act like that is totally unacceptable! I'm sorry you had to experience that, and I hope it doesn't ruin your day!

[Bronco69]

3. It seems like there are more and more of those

types around. I don't know what it is with people, but I'm getting pretty sick of them.

[benburch]

4. Sometimes

I wish I could resign from this species.

[fishnfla]

5. Forget about it

The lady is insane or on crack, obviously. Its not your problem, any more.

PS who won the baseball game?

[Kathy in Cambridge]

8. Sox lost

:-(

[madmax]

6. Geez Millie

What a bummer. Don't give it another thought. Obviously she's nuts.

Stay here in DU where it's warm and safe :hug:

[Kathy in Cambridge]

7. She may have forgotten her medication.

That's the only explanation for such obviously anti-social behavior.

I'm sorry about your experience! Most people aren't like that.

I would have gotten her license plate number and alerted the local police of a possible aggressive driver.

[MissMillie]

10. I actually did look for the plate number

but it was a FL plate so I thought it would be futile.

[Kathy in Cambridge]

19. A Florida plate sticks out in Mass

what kind of person verbally assaults a stranger? That is horrible! She will get her just desserts, people like that always do!

[Lorien]

51. Er, where in Florida

my friend has a stepmother down here who has done the kind of crap you described since she had a brain tumor removed in 1998. Seriously, she is THAT anti-social and horrid to total strangers over nothing on a routine basis! She's lost all her friends because of her abusive behavior and the doctor's haven't found anything that helps her yet.

I'm so sorry that you were put through that, MissMillie. :hug:

[MissMillie]

52. I'm not in FL

The car had FL plates

[Lorien]

59. D'oh! Shouldn't post so late at night

otherwise, I would have seen that. Well, I wonder if that offensive woman had a similar health issue? Her behavior was so outside the norm, I suppose it's possible.

Hope today is a better day, MissMillie!

[Rick Myers]

9. Thanks when you say "Have a nice day!"

Or maybe, "Jesus loves you... The rest of us think your an ASSHOLE!!!"

People do suck sometimes...

Hope you have a great weekend!!!

[Fridays Child]

11. Aren't you thankful that you're not her?

Just a thought. :)

[Tripper11]

12. Sorry to hear about this Millie...

I just got back from the store myself. As I was about to pull into a parking spot this lady rolls right in front of me and takes the spot. I honked my horn (knowing it didn't mean anything) and she just waved and walked away.

Humans can be such disappointing creatures sometimes.

[slinkerwink]

13. that's why I don't like hearing the word "bitch" in here

I'm sorry that happened to you. People like that woman can be so utterly stupid. I hope she gets what she deserves...

[opiate69]

29. I think we can all agree

that the term "bitch" definitely fits the pychotic shrew who was yelling at millie. One of these days,I'm going to get fed up and go buy an island, so these unstable knuckledraggers can just destroy themselves without getting any of their filth on me.

[Cursive_Knives512]

38. Can I come?

Pretty please? O8)

[bigwillq]

14. I think you handled the situation just perfectly

Kill him with kindness. Some people are so rude! But if that were me, I think the first time I would've said something like you did but after the second time and if they were still calling names I would've flipped. I sometimes have a short fuse!

[junker]

15. Ah, grasshopper. Universe merely teaching you

to appreciate the warmth you find in life, as it is not a given. And to learn to harden your hide to the frigid depths of Universe insult, not the heart. Your attacker was expressing and challenging you to a suffering battle. No-one wins those. Good choice. Those who will not be contended with, cannot be contended with.

It helps to know aikido though. In case Universe decides to shake your tree hard. In aikido you learn to roll. and roll. and roll. Then later to throw, which is not so hard, not as hard as learning to roll gracefully and successfully. Since most aggressive peoples are hard due to the nature of agression, when thrown, they don't roll so well and rarely trouble one with a request for a repeat throw.

[SarahB]

16. What a nut!

Sorry you had to deal with people like that. :(

[Prodemsouth]

17. Don't let them win. Their idiots- shurg them off as you did earlier. We

have all had to deal with these, at one time or another. Don't let it ruin your day or weekend- cast a spell on them you will feel better. and they will have rotten luck anyway which means it was scucessful.

[Tom_Foolery]

18. Mrs. Foolery and I are Sorry...

to hear about your upsetting experience. We run into idiots like that, too. We wish they'd all get rounded up and dumped on an island somewhere. She'll get hers in the end. Please try to have a GREAT weekend!!

[Mika]

20. She pulled a "Jeffrey Skilling" on you (Are you FBI?)

http://story.news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story&cid=519&ncid=519&e=1&u=/ap/20040409/ap_on_re_us/enron_skilling

:evilgrin:

[GOPisEvil]

21. I can't believe I have to share oxygen with subhumans like that.

It's sad you had to go through that. :-(

[Holly]

22. some people

are just plain mean! Best thing you can do is forget her. Give yourself a pat on the back for handling a horrible situation with grace.

Happy Easter:toast:

[amber dog democrat]

23. This was not about you.

But nothing is unthinkable with crazy people.

Nothing you can do for them either.

I would not want to be part of that family.

[cally]

24. You didn't deserve that

and just hope someone teaches her right from wrong. :hug:

And, Slinkerwink. I admire your passion and your cause. I agree with you, mostly. Sometimes you need to pick your battles. :loveya:

[Darwin2002]

25. buhs/cheney 04 sticker on the car with and american flag?

seems like the type

[LibertyorDeath]

26. Hey Millie the world is full of fuck ups

Take comfort in the fact that your not one and the shit stain of a human you encountered will more than likely die of a massive stress induced coronary.

Happy Easter to you and yours

[jonnyblitz]

27. to hell with her millie

and a happy friday to you!! :hug:

[Deja Q]

28. I blame society and those who control it...

Ever increasing frantic pace people have to go through and for less pay, an increasingly hostile when not fascist environment... people are going to get stressed.

The only answer is to change society to make it healthy for people again. And not make some fucking pill which will get some people to adapt, albeit with harmful long term side-effects.

[polmaven]

30. Millie, I would just like to say

thank you for your thoughtfulness. So many people will just ignore the other people getting in their cars and open the door causing a lot of trouble. It was nice of you to wait.

[MissMillie]

31. You all are so kind!

Thank you for the love!

[opiate69]

33. Usually when I'm confronted by this sort of thing..

I always remind myself "you can't really control other people.. you can only control how you react to them". I think you handled the situation admirably.

[Obamarama]

32. Proves my point....

People can be assumed to be stupid, ignorant pigs until they prove themselves otherwise.

[TreasonousBastard]

34. Not the world...

just some people in it.

Happens all the time that people go off on strangers for no reason. I don't know why, but it's their problem, not yours.

No one got hurt, so laugh about it tomorrow when you stop shaking.

[ldf]

35. an artist in harlem

there is an artist in harlem that, amongst other things, writes little life lessons on the sidewalks in chalk.

his name is de la vega. (maybe that is dela vega..?)

one little gem of wisdom that is short and to the point, and certainly fits your experience:

don't let idiots ruin your day

i know it is very hard to let things like what happened to you not affect you, but just remember, they ARE idiots. and everyone sees it and realizes it. that woman is probably hated by most, and she knows it, which makes her that much more angry. she hates herself, and projects it on others. you can be assured that she is an very unhappy person.

you deserve a :grouphug:

[salin]

36. Sometimes the only silver linings

are reflections such as... thank goodness I am not the child in that family. If she got so upset because you didn't get out of a parking space - just imagine how quickly and out of control she must get. Sorry that you had to deal with the chaos wake she created. But thank goodness that you only had to cross it temporarily and momentarily.

[carols]

37. This does seem to happen more and more as someone else pointed out

My husband and I were driving on the interstate and traffic was heavy. There was a construction zone coming up and the lanes narrowed. Long story short, we couldn't get over in time (along with a lot of other folks). People in the next lane were taking turns letting people in - then it was our turn and instead of stopping, some kid in an SUV gunned his engine, shouted obscenities and spit in the passenger window where I was sitting and squealed past us. I am sure he thought my husband and I were a couple of old farts and social Darwinism would prevail.

I think the hubby would have let it go except for the fact that this asshole spit on me. Not that he got out of the car or anything - however he did floor the Infinity and smoke the guy's ass. A new SUV may be a status-y sort of thing in some circles, but it just doesn't quite make the cut when it comes to acceleration. I believe we left him open-mouthed about 5 cars back. Last we saw he was just a pair of faint headlights on the horizon. It was a good day for the tribal elders...and a bad day for bad-mannered punks in SUVs.
Carp;

[ChavezSpeakstheTruth]

39. Who else was cursed and spat on on Good Friday?

Hmmmmm.........

[LWolf]

40. Let's do this again:

"Hey, MissMillie! Thank you for waiting for us. We'll be on our way in just a moment. Have a wonderful weekend. Happy Easter."

:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

41. ~huggggggggggggggs~

Sounds like you need some...

How awful for you! I can't imagine what makes people think they can just randomly abuse others. It's as if they choose to interpret every incident of minor inconvenience as a personal affront. It's scary when road rage occurs....on or off the road.

I'm sorry this happened, and I hope the rest of your weekend is much better.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

42. I’m so very sorry that you had to endure this MissMillie

Some people can be so heartless, cruel and vindictive sometimes and this woman sounds like an absolutely she absolutely fits the category. One day her mean and spiteful behaviour will have consequences for her and she’d better be prepared for reaping what she sows.

Don’t give her another thought MissMillie. Your thoughtfulness, kindness and intelligence –comprehensively demonstrated in this situation-makes you a far better person than she could ever amount to being. You acted in a way that provides a great testament to your character and your quiet dignity, patience and kindness in the face of adversity should be what you take away from the whole incident.


It's the Easter long weekend (or at least it is a long weekend in Australia and I presume it would be the same in the US). Think good thoughts, go home and unwind and relax, spend some time with your son and dwell on all the things in your life that give you happiness. Please don't give this whole incident another thought

But once again I am so, so, very sorry for what happened to you. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way

Tou are one of my favorite posters here on DU, MissMillie. Take care of yourself:)

[MissMillie]

54. You're so kind!

I didn't realize I was on anyone's "favorite" list!

It's not a long weekend here, but I will try to enjoy the two days I do have. Family coming for dinner tomorrow, so today I'll do a few chores and then try to get outside and enjoy the spring weather.

[SoCalDem]

43. You did the right thing.. I blow kisses to people who flip me off

It used to drive my sons carzy.. They would always say.."Mom, someday someone is going to shoot you "(we live in CA):eyes:

[Duncan Grant]

44. Oh, MissMillie! That was freakin' toxic.

Here's my remedy. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:


Best wishes!!!

[ironflange]

45. I had a similar, though puzzling, experience yesterday

I'm driving along a two lane highway, and come up behind a slowpoke. Traffic is coming against us, so I wait a couple of minutes (not tailgating) until the coast is clear. So I signal nicely, pull out to pass, and what do I see? The driver's middle finger stuck against the side window. :wtf: What did I do? People sure are weird, I'm glad I'm not affected by road rage.

[rumguy]

46. angry bush voters

expect more of this as the boy king implodes

[Rabrrrrrr]

47. Did you check for a fish on the trunk? Or a flag? Or an anti-abortion

bumpersticker?

I'd wager money that there's at least two of those, most likely at least something Christian.


That was pure, utter, totally and absolutely uncalled for abuse on her part. Absolutely had no reason whatsoever.

Sorry you had to go through it.

[leftofthedial]

48. Happy Friday, Miss Millie

<smile!>

There are some messed up people in this world of ours.

[Brewman_Jax]

49. Your restraint is admirable

That was very kind of you! :thumbsup:

[rasputin1952]

50. As an optimist...

There is always the chance that your nice reply will sink in, before she gets home, and she will realize that her behavior was an embarassment to everyone around...:)

I try to find the goddness in everyone; it can be difficult, but I like to think that maybe YOUR response to her tirade, will have a positive impact on HER in the near future.

O8)

[Skittles]

53. I would venture to say that woman could be mentally ill

her reaction was way beyond anger.

[The Zanti Regent]

55. I guess Pat Robertson didn't read her letter on the 700 club!

Sounds like the typical idiot that watches thst crap

[FlaGranny]

56. Had a similar thing happen

one time. Was driving down an unfamiliar road and a car was well behind me. I realized that it was a dead end, with just a housing development at the end, so I put on my turn signal and pulled over on the shoulder to let the car go by. Instead of going by, the driver also pulled over somewhat behind me. Obviously, she didn't know it was a dead end either. Anyway, I waited for a bit and she didn't move, so I made a U-turn to leave. She started up, raced up behind me and started blowing the horn, then roared past, shaking her fist and screaming. Couldn't hear what she was screaming because of the windows being up. My husband was with me and we just looked at each other, "What's up with her? She must be crazy."

You can't take things like that personally. There are just crazy people.

[grannylib]

57. Happy Saturday Miss Millie...I am so sorry to hear that happened to you

She must be a miserable person; bet she has as hard a time living with herself as others have living with her.
Hope you have a Happy Easter weekend...

[Missy Vixen]

58. Miss Millie, how awful

You didn't deserve this.

The woman in question might want to look into some anger management classes. As another poster noted, she'll get herself shot if she does this again to the wrong motorist.

Julie