http://www.nytimes.com/2006/05/29/us/29grief.html?ei=5065&en=adac66bb3f852d5f&ex=1149566400&partner=MYWAY&pagewanted=printMay 29, 2006
After Loss of a Parent to War, a Shared Grieving
By LIZETTE ALVAREZ
ARLINGTON, Va., May 28 — Jacob Hobbs, 10, did not mince words about the death of his father.
"He was in a Humvee, driving at night on patrol, and a homemade bomb blew up on him so bad it killed his brain," Jacob said of his father, Staff Sgt. Brian Hobbs, 31, of the Army. "But he wasn't scratched up that much. And that's how he died."
Sitting across from Jacob in a circle at a grief camp over Memorial Day weekend, Taylor Downing, a 10-year-old with wavy red hair and a mouthful of braces, offered up her own detailed description. "My dad died four days after my birthday, on Oct. 28, 2004," Taylor said quietly of Specialist Stephen Paul Downing II. "He got shot by a sniper. It came in through here," she added, pointing to the front of her head, "and went out there," shifting her finger to the back of her head.
"Before he left," Taylor said, "he sat me on his knee and he told me why he had to go: because people in Iraq didn't have what we did. They didn't have enough money. They couldn't go to school. And they didn't have homes."
An estimated 1,600 children have lost a parent, almost all of them fathers, to the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq.