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Natural human sexuality and FRIENDSHIP,closeness ,un shameful proximity to others has been banned or distorted socially. Sex and love have become messed up and both suffer. For instance so many guys are scared to death to show affection to another guy other without the other assuming sex,same with women and men,and women and women..Every expression of affection it is assumed sex. This is NOT SO..
NON SEXUAL Touching,as an expression of kind emotion in the heart twords someone,love in the real sense is all but disappeared in this culture.Who has a friend they uninhibitedly just lie together with,snuggle next to,talking ,just to be close,to feel that skin to skin contact and sex never occurs?
Sex because friendship touch is verboten,has been sublimated into lust. When desire is denied,and abuse happens to children, their minds"crystallize" a moment,and their sex is further sublimated into fetishes,crass,and made into a power game.
It's tragic what cultural conditioning had done to us.
Friendship and simple affection has been tabooed and forced to be sexualized .Sex has lost it's capacity of love,yet people still crave the human touch and when they are too afraid to love like a Friend,they seek sex like an addict.. and when sex is denied them out of fear,taboo or repression by religion it gets perverted into power without love.
Our culture is SICK, It encourages us from childhood to repress affection and expressions of non sexual love. Republicans religious family values freaks they repress even more.. This repression of expressions of non sexual love,or the want of affection ,or skin contact into sex,..sex repressed turns into a person falling in love with photographs of other people having sex,while they neglect their partner,or a vicarious fetish of famous people'lives..or shoes,drugs, or feet..
A person can be healthy without sex on the brain all day, IF they have affection in their lives, skin to skin contact,friendships capable of expressing tenderness and love in their lives without shame or guilt or fear or sexual lust interfering with the non sexual intent to simply be close to another human being and share affection.
(Friends can hold cry with and hug without shame or sexual pressures interfering if they are aware of how love and sex have been distorted by our power mad,repressive,competitive, militaristic, controlling soul crushing culture.. it is threatening at first,but it becomes liberating feels safe,like nothing else, like a haven from this crazy world,from sex and from the social pressures, and it deepens the emotional depth and honesty in the friendship itself.)
Sexual lust has it's own "laws"..distinct from affection and Friend-love.But we have distorted both love and sex and we as a culture continually confuse them. Friendship and simple affection,that need for skin to skin touch that is with us from the days of babyhood(babies die without holding and touch adults can die from lack of love and connection to others too,what do you think suicide is ) Friendship and affection needs an outlet too.. and friendship affection it has been FORCED into sex in our culture.
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