Anyone here dating/married to a conservative Republican?

[Bonn1997]

I thought this would be an interesting, fun topic. However, I'm also interested because I'm a single guy who recently moved to a highly conservative area where even most women are conservative.

[Gato Moteado]

1. i don't even want to be in the same room as a repuke.......

...so i surely would never date one.

[goclark]

Liberal Me married a Republican

Rigid and very smart otherwise.

Divorced now, :bounce:

[blue cat]

2. Really feel sorry for you

I learned that I just want a liberal man, not a conservative one.

[hisownpetard]

3. I don't care about height/weight/hair or no hair issues - but I will not date a Republican.

Period.

[blue cat]

4. where did u move to?

I always felt like I was settling when dating a conservative.

[Bonn1997]

9. Montgomery, Alabama

[pinstikfartherin]

40. Hi Neighbor!

I live about 30 minutes from Montgomery. I work in Montgomery, too.

[Bonn1997]

42. Cool! Are you a single young woman? ;-)

[pinstikfartherin]

50. Well, I'm a young woman..

.. but not single.. and he's a republican. I'd love to date a dem, but that's just not the way it worked out.

I do, however, have a young single woman friend...

It really is hard to find a good liberal around here, but don't lose hope.

[1Hippiechick]

60. You've got more to worry about than the women being conservative there. n/t

[Blu Dahlia]

5. Yes. He said he would have accepted the VP position if asked

Typical repub like arrogance combined with a tendency to be pro-war. It works as long as we avoid all discussions about war and politics.

[footinmouth]

6. I'm married to a Republican (37 years)

although I sure won't call him Conservative. He's fiscally conservative and socially liberal. The last Republican he voted for was pappy Bush. After that it's been Clinton, Clinton, Gore, Kerry & Obama. Yay for him. I didn't even have to work too hard to switch him over to the good guys. The religious right did that with little help from me. He's retaining his Republican affiliation so he can vote for Palin in the primaries. We don't see how they can possibly come up with a weaker candidate.

[Tinksrival]

7. I used to be...

He was military in the eighties. It took me ten years and I changed him, with help from the chimp in chief of course!

[tabbycat31]

8. i'm a single girl

and could not date/marry a conservative Republican. And I now live in a conservative area (the state is blue but region is not) That would be a deal breaker for me.

However my sister and soon to be BIL are corporatist Republicans (he worked on the Romney campaign). Christmas should be very interesting this year.

[ShortnFiery]

10. No way could I even maintain a long term friendship with a right wing GOPer.

It's difficult enough to be there for the, IMO, nut case libertarian right wingers in my extended family. No way in HELL would I wish to seek out :wtf: such DELUDED company.

Our country needs to "shift left" to even come back to CENTER. :shrug:

[YOY]

11. They suck in the sack. Sadly I have that experience. I've heard it repeated by others.

Nothing as horribly hideous as a woman who holds a political persuasion that includes thinking sex is dirty.

Now every liberal girl I've dated and the one I married...no complaints in the brains or the lurve depertment...RRROWL!!!

There are liberals in every part of the country. Find a nice one.

[dipsydoodle]

14. They suck in the sack ?

Well blow me.

[YOY]

15. What? You don't like having sex with people who actually enjoy having sex?

as opposed to thinking it a dirty act?

I knew a woman once who had the most fantastic bod and cute as can be face (whom I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot poll due to her creepy FReepy attitude) who when talking about sex seemed to act as though it was something dirty that she felt bad about doing afterwards. Ixnay on the ightbray as well.

Wouldn't touch that with a 200 foot pole.

[dipsydoodle]

18. You've lost me

I was just joking playing on the words you used.

[YOY]

21. Ah...sorry I thought you were attacking me for being sexist.

I am TOTALLY not the guy for that...but I am a guy.

[youthere]

68. I'm pretty sure that was a play on words..

suck, blow...

[grantcart]

23. lol since when are Democrats against sucking?

[NorthCarolina]

37. They're not, but to Republicans there is a proper time and place for that

and that time/place is between connecting flights in the airport mens room.

[ben_meyers]

12. Is interpolitical dating/marriage even legal?

I'm proposing a ban!

[dipsydoodle]

13. Nope - I gave them up for Lent

some years ago.

[Beacool]

16. Nope,

but I have a few friends who are conservative and voted for McCain. Our friendship is much more important to us than our political affiliation. They rolled their eyes when I would be trampling around campaigning for Hillary and they would even wish me luck and never shut me up when I went on and on about the campaign, so I did the same in return when they chose McCain. We agreed to disagree.

:D

[wyldwolf]

17. I have dated them, does that count?

[Doityourself]

19. Actually attempted to date a very sexy man...but it died a quick death because he was a rethug..and

we could never see eye to eye! I'm pretty moderate, but he was too extreme in his views!

Sigh..too bad because I wanted to sop him up with a homemade biscuit and maple syrup!!

[grantcart]

38. I like biscuits and maple syrup

[formercia]

20. No, but Bush Gang has been screwing me for decades without my consent.

and it hasn't been fun.

[kiranon]

46. Love your response. So true.

[formercia]

54. I want out of this abusive relationship.

May I have a restraining order, please?

[seabeyond]

22. i am a calif, married a texan nra card holding conservative white male that voted kerry and obama

after having never voted other than repug aall his life

actually not even nra card carrier anymore. got mad when they brought in heston

[kcwayne]

24. I married a Republican

My wife is from Indiana, and her parents are staunch Republicans, so she always voted for Republicans.

I shook my head in disbelief when she voted for Reagan, and then Bush, and then Bush II again.

This time, she voted for Obama.

It only took 30 years to get her to see the light.

[jillan]

25. Yes - I am married to a repuke.

We've been married 27 years.
It's interesting - we have alot of fun changing headlines in the paper - playing jokes on each other.
He rode around 1 week with an I (heart) Obama on the back of his car before he saw it. :P
And he's probably still wondering why he never got his McCain bumpersticker - hehehe.

But - we also have alot of heated discussions.


My advice to you - find yourself a nice liberal woman to date.
Being a dem or a repug is more than just politics.

[Bonn1997]

26. Thanks everyone

The website I use (match.com) actually tells you the other person's political views. Finding a liberal or even moderate lady probably would be ideal but I probably won't rule out conservatives just yet. Maybe I'll have to learn the hard way! I think I will rule out any women who chose the most extreme option ("ultra conservative") though. That just scares me!
I definitely agree with pirhana that being a Dem or Rep is a lot more than just politics. It reflects how you view the world and understand/interpret life experiences.
I don't know how Carville does it but I was curious if there were any other "Carvilles" out here.

[kwassa]

31. ask for "open-minded", that will rule out dogmatic persons of any persuasion

[mrreowwr_kittty]

27. Try democraticmatch.com.

There's bound to be a lonely lefty in your area. You'd be surprised. Also, hook up with your local Dem party. Even in the reddest areas there is some organization and I'm sure they'd love to see some fresh young blood. Become a PC and get to know your Dem neighbors. You might run across a singleton or someone with a cute Dem daughter. Join (or start) a Drinking Liberally group. Ya gotta make your opportunities! I've tried dating Republicans and it never works for me. I believe too strongly in what I believe and life is too short to spend it with a partner who doesn't share my values. Just my $.02.

[intheflow]

39. I'm on democraticmatch.com.

So far no luck with any locals, though several have contacted me from other states. (What's that about?) But I'm always hopeful when I get the email telling me a new person has moved to my area. :) And it doesn't just match hetero couples, but also has hookups for GLBTs.

[Bonn1997]

41. Just signed up. Looks like a great site!

[AspenRose]

28. Yes.

[Seeking Serenity]

29. Yep, for nigh on 20 years now.

Yes, we disagree on most policy positions (although he has long disagreed with the WO(some)D) and always end up cancelling out each other's votes, Fox News vs. KO, etc., but he's my snugglebug and I love him to death.

He's smart as a whip (smarter than I am), honest to a fault, and generally generous (more likely to buy food for the corner panhandlers than give them cash). And he's a Reaganite. He is antithetical to the stereotype of conservatives promulgated here.

So there.

[Seeking Serenity]

51. DH has voted Republican every 4 years since 1984 except for '92 and '96

when he voted for Harry Browne.

[indie_voter]

30. I'm in a mixed race marriage

I think that's easier than differing politics and/or religion.

We're both democrats, both non-theists, and are raising our kids that way. There are so many things we don't agree on (music, our taste in movies& tv, he's a foodie, I'm not, etc), but we agree on our fundamental world view, aka politics and religion.

Good luck with whatever you decide!

[kwassa]

33. Interracial is easier than interpolitical.

we're both Democrats, too, and she thought when she first met me "I hope he is not a Republican".

it would have been a deal-breaker. For me, too.

[Bonn1997]

49. Yeah, two-thirds of my serious past relationships have been interracial actually

Eighty out of 120 to be exact!

(JK, it's actually 2 out of 3)

[1Hippiechick]

61. And you moved to Montgomery, Alabama? Read post 60. n/t

[NikolaC]

75. That is true

I too am in an interracial marriage and we will have been happily married for four years in December. I married a Canadian from a very conservative family. He also viewed himself as a conservative, though not as far right as his family, until I got a hold of him :). The last time he voted, he voted NDP, lol. He was also jealous because he is not able to vote here in the states yet, but when he is able he will be a Dem.

Also, when I was about 20 I was in another interracial relationship with a staunch conservative Repub who could be an ignorant and insensitive jerk. He would never want to be seen in his area with me in public. I met his friends but he would not let me meet his family because they would not understand. I was a dumb kid who also viewed myself as a Repub at the time, but I had liberal ideas that I would share and be shot down for. We broke up a year later but continued a friendly relationship, God knows why :eyes:. After we broke up he found a mail order Russian bride whom he was able to bring home to his family and told me was not like his other relationships, he said she was "top drawer", still being an insensitive jerk. Thank God my tastes had improved since then.

Good luck to the OP in your search. Maybe you will find someone who would be open to changing their world view with exposure to you, your ideals and ideas.

[Alexander]

32. Not any more. I found Republicans are inherently dishonest people.

I did date Republicans.

I found them to be

1) Dishonest hypocrites in just about every aspect of life.

2) Uninformed, unintelligent and not really curious about the world.

So no, I don't anymore. I can't date lying idiots.

[TheCoxwain]

34. James Carville is married to Republican political pundit Mary Matalin

A marriage cannot get more politically diverse.

[calimary]

35. I honestly don't think I could. I couldn't handle that much rancor in the house.

Making a marriage work just anyway is challenging enough. We've put in 32 years. It ain't easy, and my guy is a pretty progressive thinker.

Sorry to hear of your plight. I have LOTS of single girlfriends of enlightened mind.

[Dappleganger]

36. Independent woman married a moderate republican...

Who promptly registered as an independent after the 2001 election shenanigans. He is far more conservative fiscally than myself, but we are fairly close in regards to social issues. We are both christians yet both firmly believe that politics and religion should never, ever mix. Yes, it does lead to some interesting discussions, but we respect one another and our kids are being raised to think for themselves.

If he was too far right it would have never worked, however--they are just too full of hate and themselves, IMO.

[GreenEyedLefty]

43. No, but he is a touch on the conservative side.

He voted for Reagan twice (gag) and Bush I (double gag) but as far as I know he's voted Dem since then.

He's also in favor of the death penalty and guns but I can live with that... well, I have for 11 years.

[arewenotdemo]

44. When I learned that my very "liberal" atheistic girlfriend was in the process of

starting up a relationship with a racist, Jesus-believing Repuke (physician), she wanted me to take her back.

I told her to go fuck a(nother) Democrat, and I might take her back someday.

But that I didn't want any stray atoms from that motherfucker anywhere near me.

[kiranon]

45. Good heavens NO! Wouldn't consider it. Never. No way.

[SweetAZ]

47. Yes...Living Together

You know, after my last relationship, I told myself Never Again! And who comes into my life? Another Republican.

I have never been happier with anyone. He mostly leans right, but is a moderate on several issues. He does have very rigid thought patterns, and doesn't like change...But he also listens to what I have to say, whether he agrees with it, or not, and knows that I am sincere and passionate about my views, and respects me for that. I've been working on him for a while now, playing videos and such while were on our respective computers in the same room (subliminal:::smiles:::). And I've opened discussions with him that have opened his eyes a bit. But he has always voted Republican, and will always vote Republican, I have no doubt.

[pinstikfartherin]

48. Welcome to Montgomery..

I live in Millbrook, which is right north of you. I work in Montgomery. Lived here all my life, unfortunately. I'm the only person in my family who voted for Obama. I've taken a lot of crap, but I couldn't be more proud.

My boyfriend is a conservative republican. We disagree on politics and religion, so we don't speak too often on either topic. He's far from a political junkie like me, and he really didn't pay too much attention or care to research anything he heard about either candidate in this election. He's hard headed when it comes to politics.

He believes that healthcare is a privilege not a right, is anti-choice, against gay marriage. He overall doesn't seem to care about all the rest of the people in this country and thinks our healthcare system is fine. He is the type that is not going to care until something happens to him or his. When it comes to citizens of our country he doesn't seem to worry unless it is effecting him.

HOWEVER

When it comes to those he loves, he is the most selfless. When he sees someone homeless on the street, he will give them his lunch and go without. When someone he comes across is in need, he helps best he can. He donates money to every cause they collect for at his job and many of those he comes across when shopping, etc. He is so compassionate when it is someone he loves or something he is face to face with. He just doesn't do the same any other time.

I do not understand him at all because if I didn't know his political beliefs, I would swear that he was on my side. It's like he doesn't think! But I love him to death and wouldn't change anything about him besides his political beliefs. We both agree on most anything else though.

Honestly, I think it's Rick & Bubba that have got into his head. (He is a huge fan!)

[1Hippiechick]

62. I'm going to guess that he was 'born and raised' in the deep south, and it is traditional to espouse

those RepubliKLAN viewpoints. However, it seems that when he comes face to face with the reality, his compassionate side wins over, if I am comprehending your post correctly. If he likes to volunteer for anything, ask him to consider the two of you joining the Red Cross and being a first responder, particularly helping displaced people due to house fires, hurricanes, etc. Just an idea--to build on his compassionate side.

[TheKentuckian]

52. I don't see how it works in a lot of cases

Except for being female nothing trumps a liberal minded woman. I can deal with a variety of races, religions (though I don't date atheists, agnostic I can work with no problem), body types, and family status but there is no being hot or smart enough to justify bedding a member of the Reich on an ongoing basis.

I'd guess to some degree that it would just depend on the distance from each other on the spectrum and/or each person's focus on politics.

Maybe, it is more about knowing where your lines in the sand are and avoid those that will plant their flags on the other side. I'm thinking that fiscal conservatives can be dealt with (if you don't mind campaigning for anything that isn't established on the budget) but the social conservatives are not the type of people I usually enjoy sharing air with, much less anything approaching romantic. I don't even like the apolitical women much any more, unless I determine they are effectively uninvolved liberals. Most of them really seem to be unmotivated potential freepers

In fact, if it wasn't for the social conservatives then I guess things would generally be more civil and we wouldn't be having this thread but I can't see how someone can has a completely different vision of the world and the people in it.

Good luck. Its tough enough out here without messing things up by thinking but some of us can't help ourselves.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

53. That's funny. Truly, that is.

Let's say liberalism is sort of a big thing for me. He would have to be sex incarnate otherwise.

[Skittles]

55. work on them, Bonn

kick their conservative ass - I love tormenting repukes in Texas

[camera obscura]

56. Dated a Libertarian guy once

Politics never really came up until a while after we first met... he didn't strike me as the creepy armchair Ayn Randite kind so I didn't pay it any mind. Wasn't a great relationship anyway though. Last I heard he was really involved in the Ron Paul movement.

[happychatter]

57. anything for money - NT

[Amimnoch]

58. Oh good topic, here's a really fucked up one for you to contemplate!

I'm gay, and progressive.

My ex, that I was together with for 10 years is a gay conservative.. to the point he even supported McCain/Palin! (how's THAT for messed up in the head???)

Luckily 3 years ago I finally left him on New years eve, and am now with a WONDERFUL man for the last 2 years.. interracial, gay, loving relationship with mutual progressive views.. happiest I've ever been in my life!

It was a bit Ironic, I left my ex of 10 years on New Years eve, and met my soul mate on New years eve one year later!

[youthere]

67. I've never been able to understand gay republicans...

it just seems like shooting yourself in the knee, but hey...to each his/her own I guess.

[Amimnoch]

72. For some, I think they actually believe they can "win" acceptance from the religious right.

In my ex's case, that was exactly his reasons for it.

He had (hell, he still has) this notion in his head that if he supports the repubs he will somehow be accepted by them. I think with people like him, it's an emotional need. Like in his case, his family was conservative.. when he came out to his father, well.. his father totally rejected him. I think his still being "conservative" and voting repug somehow is his way of trying to regain the acceptance of closed minded imbiciles like his father...

That's just my theory though.

[youthere]

79. That's really sad, in a way.

Always seeking approval from those you know will NEVER give it.

[fujiyama]

59. It's a matter of values and common interests

I think it may work if politics isn't a huge topic of conversation (that would be impossible for me because I'm a political junky and love to talk about it).

And I think most modern republicans/conservatives are narrow minded. It's difficult to even find republicans that will have a sane conversation or debate on the issues. I'm sorry, but I couldn't stand dating someone so ignorant that they believe Obama is socialist or Muslim, or whatever else. Ignorance isn't particularly attractive. I also couldn't deal with a religious fundamentalist.

But somehow it works for others.

I say, try it out for the hell of it. If you can have a conversation that doesn't turn into a heated argument, maybe it's worth pursuing. Maybe you'll realize you agree on more than you may have thought.

Good luck.

[AzDar]

63. Nope. They are lousy in bed.

:hi:

[WinkyDink]

64. That was always a deal-breaker for me.

[Hepburn]

65. Sort of....

...Fiscally pretty conservative CPA ~~ but he is extremely liberal as to social issues. So we do get along OK because of that. He voted for Asshole twice, but refused to vote for McCain. But...would not vote for Obama either. He at least now admits that I was 100% correct about Bush and Gov Ah-nold. So, there may be hope for him. The main problem? He is a 2nd Amendment nut and he truly believes that the Dems have the purpose at the core of their political souls of taking away his guns. I have tried to un-NRA program him with little or no success.

At least he is as angered over the passage of Prop 8 in our state as I am. And he is very supportive of women's issues like the freedom to choose.

So....IMO, depends on how the person is conservative or Republican and whether you can get along with him/her!

:hi:

[youthere]

66. My husband is more conservative than I am...but he votes solidly Dem..

although he calls himself an independent. He did vote Nader in 2000, but I've forgiven him. I could never be with a republican. That's a total deal breaker for me.

[olegramps]

69. I thought it was against the law, like incest.

[arewenotdemo]

82. lol

[grace0418]

70. My husband is from a very conservative family and probably would've

been fairly conservative if I hadn't intervened and converted him to the light. :) Now he's not quite as liberal as I am but he's light years away from his family.

[LatteLibertine]

71. Nope!

I might spring for a moderate and I wouldn't have enough in common with a conservative to have a meaningful relationship.

I find these sort of things out before I get attached. I wouldn't have a lasting romantic relationship with someone who was devoutly religious either.

[Lex]

73. No way, I'd want someone who shares my core beliefs about things like social justice

at the very least.

[Guy Whitey Corngood]

74. I think at one timeor another we've all been fucked by a republican. nt

[AzNick]

76. Used to but turned her around

Took a bit of work and patience, and also consitently making sense.

[tammywammy]

77. I've dated very conservative men

I chose the "we agree to disagree" approach and not let politics effect everything in my life. :)

[Seeking Serenity]

80. "not let politics effect everything in my life"

Me neither.

:hi:

[tammywammy]

78. .

[GreenPartyVoter]

81. I married a conservative evangelical. We generally don't discuss politics or religion

[johan helge]

83. I remember talking to a RW young man once

- he had some outrageous attitudes, but I liked him. Don't have the attitude that they are "bad" people, although, of course, a disproportionate number of Repub politicians seem to be "bad" indeed.