Refute this statement . . . if you can (serious)

[ashling]

Life sucks.

[unsavedtrash]

1. you have a picture of my cat.

[waynew706]

2. I do refute it actually... lol

I have one of them lying right beside me and licking me... Hey, what can I say she loves me.

[waynew706]

3. But on that note... He/She..

is beautiful as all pets are IMHO... I so wish people were as clear as animals... Oh to wish.....

[vicman]

4. Well...

what did you have in mind?

Can't be refuted with a blanket statement. Has to be answered individually, each and every time, each and every day, by the roughly 7 billion humans alive on the planet now.

"Today I'll merry merry be,
today I'll merry merry be...
'cause tomorrow I'll be sober.........."

[ashling]

6. "what did you have in mind?"

the alternative

[vicman]

7. Can you tell me

what my movie refernce was?

[fudge stripe cookays]

5. I'd agree right now.

I got diagnosed with MS on Monday. It doesn't get much suckier than that.

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[vicman]

9. What do you decide

to do from here on out is totally up to you. I work in health care, and I've seen responses to your dilemma from every direction. There is no one single correct answer. You have the lamentable task of taking this pile of crap you've been handed and deciding what to do with it. Inform yourself, learn what you have to face and make your decision accordingly. For my part, if you decide not to play and deal with it that way, or if you decide to go down fighting until your last breath, I will respect and support your decision any way I can, and I'll keep at it until life finally finds a way to take me out. What's important to me is what YOU want. I've seen good outcomes from both decisions. It's the most personal decision anyone can make. Good luck, friend. It does suck, and it's life...

[fudge stripe cookays]

11. Well, I'm fighting it as well as I know how considering...

how new I am to the whole situation.

Just always in the back of my mind now is the looming possibility that no matter what we do, we could always be one medical bill from living in our car if one of us loses a job.

Yes, it is life. Not much I can do about it really. I'm pretty pragmatic. Trying to keep a sense of humor, but wondering how long it will take before I can no longer work, drive, live without "Depends" in the weekly grocery budget, need transportation from "The Scooter Store..."

all items that run through my head unbidden when I REALLY don't want them there.

Thanks,
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[DisassemblingHisLies]

10. So, so sorry, FSC.

You have a right to be angry. Here's hoping for more stem cell research to find a cure for you. :)

[fudge stripe cookays]

14. Thanks Diss.

I don't hold out much hope in that direction for some time with the nutbar in the White House.

But I've already made some good friends in the Chronic Illness forum who've been providing guidance and support. Since they've been there, they know all the stuff I'm worried about.

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[PDittie]

12. I'm so sorry, cookay

If you need some cheering up, you know the number ... right?

[fudge stripe cookays]

13. I think I still got it on me somewhere....

Thanks sweetums.

I'm puffed up like Barney the Dinosaur right now from a bazillion steroids, but otherwise doing OK.

reprehensor wants to go see Star Wars tonight, which I know will cheer me up, since I haven't been out of the house since Monday. :thumbsdown:

Tell the lovely Mrs. Dittie I said hi!
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[crispini]

15. Awww. FSC! I didn't realize!

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

Let's definitely go get that cup of coffee when you get back to work. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

[fudge stripe cookays]

18. Thanks sweetie.

Hopefully I'll be back in tomorrow.

I've got another doc's appointment coming up soon, but I'll be damned if I can remember when it is!

The boss has been very cool, and I've already talked to HR about stuff. Hopefully I'm covered, and am not one medical bill away from us living in our car. Between you, me, and this keyboard, I'm scared shitless right now.

And I'm puffed up like Barry Bonds from all these steroids, so my Jenny Craig is really looking like a joke at this point. :eyes:

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[sendero]

19. I'm really...

... sad to hear that. Life doesn't suck, but that sure does.

[fudge stripe cookays]

21. Thanks sendero.

It's just a lot to get used to right now. I'd been healthy as a horse until March.

First an emergency ovarectomy, and now this! Wish I could have gotten a better warranty with this body, damn it all.

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[DisassemblingHisLies]

8. It's not life that sucks...

You're as happy as you want to be. Happiness is a choice.

Not an easy task these days, having a corporate-friendly, anti-democracy, pro-rich, anti-middle class, pro-killing tyrant in the WH stripping the U.S. of every ideal it's been known & respected for, but we can maintain a sense of hope that the dirty deeds will finally catch up with him & put an end to the madness.

[crispini]

16. I agree with Disassembling, FWIW.

Life is difficult, but happiness is a skill you can acquire, an attitude, a mental mindset. When I am in the groove, life is great -- when I'm not, life sucks. When really, it's not life that has changed-- it is my attitude.

Ashling, if you're really going through a rough spot, please, reach out to somebody and get some help. :hug:

[Lithos]

17. It's all attitude

I know the world can go to hell when my sinuses are bothering me. It's not the world that changed, just myself.

However, if you really are feeling down, you really need to find someone to chat with who is a bit more trained up in this. I don't know your particular situation, but you might consider seeking out your doctor or a minister if you are religious.



L-

[sendero]

20. It's all relative...

... life sucks sometimes and it is a sublime joy others.

The trick is, while life is sucking, to know that there will be joy again and to work at achieving it.

[fudge stripe cookays]

22. Good mindset.

I'm trying to remember that right now.

;-)
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[CitySky]

23. okay, i cannot compete with the wisdom of post #20.

or with the compassion of my fellow TX DUers, but i do want to share one thing from experience.

I keep journals. If you looked back for about a 6-year period you'd see frequent entries entitled, "Twelve Things I'm Grateful For."

Then under that, numbered 1-12, a sentence or so for each one. Not little generalities that I didn't really mean, but specific things, written out in detail. Each list fills a page or two.

You'd think from flipping through those journals that those were days when i was feeling nothing but happy-happy-joy-joy. The opposite is true. That was a mental exercise I forced on myself on the days I believed your hypothesis, to remember that I could ALWAYS find good things if I forced myself to look. Even when i thought "no-way-no-how can I make it to 12 today," I always did. Around #5 or #6 I'd realize that life wasn't ALL bad, but I disciplined myself to write out all 12 just to prove that I could.

The day of my sister's funeral, I didn't number the list or anything, but I filled about 5 big pages with things I was grateful for. People who came to the funeral. The woman whose hand I held, and who held mine back so tightly. Things my sister had been able to experience in her 33 years of life. By then the lists had become a habit. That was one piece of all the stuff that got me through those hard years.

It's been almost 2 years now since I've been "in the clear," so to speak. There is another side. You'll get here.

Peace.

[Why Syzygy]

24. Hang on long enough ..

and it becomes a bittersweet beautiful journey.

Some days are diamonds. Some days are coal.

Meke of it what you will.

p.s.

Pain sux :popcorn: