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needs of families in your group who have children with disabilities? I have asked that of some local people, and they immediately say "Yes", but then realize after a chat that they don't even come close.
I am the mother of a seriously disabled child (autism). He's smart, and manipulative, and not a good candidate to quietly participate in "sacraments". ;) He would be quite noisy and disruptive in a worship service. He is too big and possibly harmful to crying children in a nursery. So my husband and I have dropped out. He volunteered to stay home with the kids while I went to church, but I really don't feel like going alone. I cry too much and get mad.
One father I spoke with today did his religious duty and fathered five children, four of which appear to have serious autistic problems themselves. He and his wife attend Mass separately or not at all. The kids, he said, cannot be taken. I wonder if his priest or anyone has bothered to ask how they could help them. One person I spoke with in the local Catholic Diocese said they had programs for disabled children, but not for younger than teenage, and not for seriously communication-social impaired children. In other words, too bad. They didn't even ask me what would be helpful.
I've given up. My church knows my situation. They watched me attend alone off and on for several years, frequently staying behind to visit, cry on a shoulder or whatever. And no one ever calls. I get the weekly bulletin to pray for people with acute illnesses and other difficulties in their lives, but not my child. Other than that, the mail I get is for the annual pledge to support the church, which we cannot afford with our child's medical bills.
1 in 167 is getting diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder. The families of these children probably need help and respite if they are going to continue their participation in local religious activities. If you want these people as part of your ministry and congregation, then I tell you, we are out here. We are too proud to beg, but we might respond to an offer for assistance, such as professional respite, special classes for our children, etc, if asked. In the meantime, I am not taking my younger child, the one without autism, to Sunday School or church, either.
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