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steven johnson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-28-10 12:42 AM
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Pursuit of Status and Affection Drives Bullies' Behavior
The evidence suggests that bullies are not motivated by low self-esteem, but actually higher opinion of themselves than normal children. And they intend to defend that belief.



Bullying is common in classrooms around the world: About 15 percent of children are victimized, leading to depression, anxiety, loneliness, and other negative outcomes. What's driving bullies to behave the way they do? According to a new large-scale Dutch study, most bullies are motivated by the pursuit of status and affection.

In their work, the researchers questioned almost 500 elementary-school children ages 9 to 12. Based on their findings, they conclude that bullies generally choose to gain status by dominating their victims. But at the same time, they try to reduce the chances that they'll end up on the outs with other classmates by choosing as victims children who are weak and not well-liked by others. In short, even bullies care a lot about others' affection and don't want to lose it.

Gender also plays a role. For example, the study finds that at this age, bullies only care about not losing affection from classmates of their own gender. So when boys bully boys, it doesn't matter whether girls approve or disapprove. The same holds for girls. Moreover, boys will bully only those girls that aren't well liked by other boys, regardless of what girls think about it, and girls will do the same in their bullying of boys.

"To understand the complex nature of acceptance and rejection, it's necessary to distinguish the gender of the bully, the gender of the target, and the gender of the classmates who accept and reject bullies and victims," according to René Veenstra, professor of sociology at the University of Groningen, who led the study.


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Warpy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-28-10 01:14 AM
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1. I've said that for years.
They all think they're bigger, better, smarter, and faster than everybody else, which is why giving one a bloody nose is so effective in keeping him off your back.

They pick on the rest of us because they feel entitled to.

Our job is to show them that they're not.
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Catshrink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-28-10 08:22 AM
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3. There's that entitlement thing...
do bullies grow up to be Republicans?
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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-28-10 11:00 PM
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5. Absolutely. Lack of empathy is necessary in today's republican party.


























































































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Posteritatis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-28-10 01:20 AM
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2. Duh. Claiming they have low self-esteem is sour-graping on the victims' part. (nt)
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tonysam Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-28-10 10:21 AM
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4. This applies to workplace bullies as well, especially school administrators
They're the WORST bosses in all of the economy to work for.
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Hannah Bell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-29-10 03:54 AM
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6. duh. people seeking to gain or hold power always kick those they perceive as weaker.
taking on the powerful is a risk, not to be attempted unless you find their weak spots.



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