As I said, I’m not really active in politics, but finding out about this floored me. I worked so hard securing a good paying job to be able to be the head of household only to find out that even though my state (MA) allows gay marriage, I still can’t have my partner move here to be with me because immigration is under federal jurisdiction and DOMA
is the law of the land...
The sad part is that
I could get asylum!! I won’t need to because we can just get married in her country and I can immigrate there, but it’s an option if I needed it. *sigh*
Now here’s the real conundrum (yes, I did quite a bit of research into this if you can’t tell), someone from another country, persecuted for being gay, can get asylum and come HERE but I can’t bring my fiancé here legally because she’s in a LGBT friendly country!
I already wrote to the representatives on the Judiciary Committees in the House and Senate about this, and part of what I had to say is as follows, feel free to quote me if anyone wants to use this to also write the representatives (I wrote to both Democrats and Republicans alike since one never knows whose mind they can change). Further note that emails are generally filtered through staffers (some bounce back) so actual letters mailed to the representatives are a better bet to actually reaching them:
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Imagine having to leave your homeland because your own country wouldn’t grant you the freedom to live with the one you loved.
I definitely would expect this from a country that isn’t up to par on civil rights – but America? The land of the Free and the home of the Brave? Where my forefathers wrote in the Declaration of Independence that ‘We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.’
Sir, my own pursuit of happiness just smashed head on into a brick wall. I have to be an exile from my country, the one where in the harbor of New York stands a lady with a book and torch. Written upon the plaque at her base are the words: "Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me. I lift my lamp beside the golden door."
The golden door is closed to the one I love, so I have to walk out of it and to a foreign shore.
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My situation in particular isn’t as poignant as others I have read about since I can get married and move... but it shouldn’t have to be that way. The simple truth is there are people in my position and one’s who are worse off. It’s just not right. *sigh*
Some other good reading about others in the same situation (have a hankie ready!):
http://www.immigrationequalityla.org/haxall/page.html?=&cid=518____________________________________________________________________
And some other good info:
A preliminary study of the 2000 census by demographer Gary Gates at the Williams Project on gay studies at the UCLA, found that 6 percent of the 594,391 same-sex unmarried partners that were counted included one citizen and one noncitizen. That would indicate more than 35,000 same-sex bi-national couples living in the United States at the time of the census.
http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?file=/c/a/2005/06/22/MNGJ7DC9821.DTLWho knows, maybe eventually enough people will understand and the law will finally change – and my partner and I can finally live in Florida like we wanted to.
^^;; and thanks for listening! Sorry to thread jack!
Happy 4th of July too!