DEAR ABBY: I am a 43-year-old gay man who has always wanted to be a father. I informed my parents about my decision to adopt a boy who is 7.
My parents reacted as if I'd walked in and told them that I had murdered someone. My mother said she was disgusted and almost became physically ill. My father was less dramatic but no less displeased.
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(From "Dear Abby's" reply)
My advice is to talk frankly with both of your parents and make sure they understand that according to an article published by the American Academy of Pediatrics in 1994, ``Most child abuse appears to be committed by situational child abusers who present themselves as heterosexuals.'' (The italics are mine.) Also, ``Children raised in gay or lesbian households do not show any greater incidence of homosexuality or gender identity issues than other children.''
Further, according to the American Psychological Association, ``there is no evidence to suggest that lesbians or gay men are unfit to be parents or that psychosocial development among children of gay men and lesbians is compromised in any respect relevant to that among offspring of heterosexual parents. . . . Indeed, the evidence to date suggests that home environments provided by gay and lesbian parents are as likely as those provided by heterosexual parents to support and enable children's psychosocial growth.'' (Italics are mine.)
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