Wedding Plans Underway In Calif. As Foes Rally Offensive (Replete with lies!)

[WillParkinson]

(San Francisco, California) Gay and lesbian couples around California are planning their nuptials following a refusal by the state's highest court to delay its decision legalizing same-sex marriage.

The California Supreme Court's announcement Wednesday (story) cleared the final hurdle for same-sex couples in the nation's most populous state to wed beginning June 17, when state officials have said counties must start issuing new gender-neutral marriage licenses.

Judy Appel, executive director of Our Family Coalition, a San Francisco-based group that advocates for same-sex couples with children, said she was thrilled by the court's refusal to stay the ruling.

"Today is a great day for not only for every lesbian and gay couple who wants to get married, but for every Californian who believes in fairness and equal opportunity for all," said Appel, a mother of two who plans to marry her partner of 16 years in coming months.

http://www.365gay.com/Newscon08/06/060508plans.htm

Sixteen years. Riiiiiight. Everyone knows gay people jump from partner to partner almost daily.

Congrats to Ms. Appel and her partner, soon to be her spouse.

I hope that I and my partner of 21 years have that same opportunity one day.

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

1. I hope you do, too

You know, marriage needs all the help it can get. Isn't the divorce rate something like 50%? We need couples who are truly committed to each other, who have stood by each other in good times and bad, to show us how marriage is supposed to work. The gay and lesbian couples who marry and show how marriage can work are only strengthening the institution, not destroying it.

[sui generis]

2. going on eleven!

and still :loveya: everyday to my sweetie.

You have to stop using the words "always" and "never". Getting around that means you have to say how stuff makes you feel.

You have to think about how stuff makes them feel.

You have to take care of each other in good times and in bad. You have to know when to talk and when to saying less is more, but above all be direct and honest and constructive no matter how tempting it is to be cathartic and upset. You're setting an example and practicing how you want to be treated too.

You have to try to make each other laugh, gasp with pleasure, hold your hand, share a cool secret only you two know, play and be adolescent goofballs, set examples for others as adults, actively support each others hobbies and interests, read to each other, cook for each other, support each other, laugh together, cry together, and tell each other every day how wonderful they are and that you love him or her. Flowers for no reason whatsoever, or just saying god you look extra handsome/beautiful today, and sometimes just saying hey I'm sorry that went down wrong, can I make it up to you, what can I do to make you feel better. Little things.

Go to cool places, date each other, and don't forget to tickle and let yourself be tickled, to hug and let yourself be hugged, to be generous and thoughtful and polite, even though you may think you understand each other, because the only thing worse than being rude to a stranger is to be rude to someone you love.

Kiss your partner first thing in the morning, and last thing before snuggling up for sleep. Nurture your relationship like any living thing with sweet nothings and with everything you've got.

It can't help but be wonderful.

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

3. and treat every day with them as a gift

for they truly are