Did you ever reach a stage were you thought : "Let me leave this for another lifetime"

[UndertheOcean]

It will just disrupt and break the heart of your family, destroy it really

Life is so fucked up anyways you don't have it in you to fight this extra fight. Sacrifice your happiness to help others instead.

Been browsing through youtube videos of people who underwent hormone therapy , something I don't believe I am brave enough to do.

Leave it for another lifetime.

[Moloch]

1. You've made the right decision.

Its always important to be proud of who you are.

[UndertheOcean]

2. I did nothing

[rawtribe]

3. I believe you only get one shot....

You need to expand your definition of family and find the support you need.

Maybe you'll get lucky and your bio-family will come on board.


:hug:

[rawtribe]

4. A great movie that

touches on the theme of expanded family

http://youtube.com/watch?v=6ymoOqb7lYo

http://www.latterdaysmovie.com/

[closeupready]

5. With my particular situation, I was always encouraged to sort of "spread my wings" and

break away from home and get a life for myself. That doesn't sound so radical but when I compare my own life with others, who, for example, talk with their parents on a daily basis even at the age of 35, 40, 50, I'm amazed, because that would have been really odd for me. I mean, doesn't that sort of keep you in check whereas if you were more free, you'd make more beneficial decisions for yourself?

That is, my outlook is, you get "one life to live" - do what you need to in order to be happy now because you don't get to redo it. Yes, I did make decisions that my family would not have wanted me to make, but 1) it's my life; and 2) we still can set aside our differences and love each other. But I know in my heart that they will NEVER understand me or approve of the fact that I'm gay, so I just accept that, and smile and laugh and enjoy our time together when we do get together but I do live my life as it is best for me. Hard sometimes, but that's all I can do - and also, it gets easier over time as you realize that many people have made the same sort of peace with their families.

Hope that helps! Cheers! :hi:

[MikeE]

6. By being yourself you are helping others

I really believe that by being true to yourself and being happy, you are doing what you need to be doing. You may want to read some of the writings of Joseph Campbell. He was a brilliant man and studied myth across cultures. One of his famous statements is "Follow your bliss".

You are not breking the heart of anyone; it's their reaction to whatever is happening that is breaking their own heart. They are responsible for their own fellings and happiness, just as you are responsible for your own.