Say something nice about yourself.

[I Have A Dream]

If you were your friend, what would you like about 'you'? Why would you choose to have 'you' as a friend? What would you value?

This won't work if you're modest. Be brave. :hug:

:loveya:

[FirstLight]

1. OOOooooH! I can do this!!!

(I need to, jobsearching can be *such* a downer, right?)

I am funny, earnest, nurturing and honest.... i am super creative, from my own writing to foam crafts with the kids, and i love to PLAY!

my exuberance and ability to get others excited about things is a great gift, and there is noone else you would want in your corner!

When the chips are down, i will drive across the state to pick you up from the bus stop and be your shoulder to cry on, offering wisdom and love and making you laugh despite yourself. I understand sacrifice and suffering and have a deep well of compassion within my soul for people whom others would cast aside...

that's not a bad start! :P
thanks for starting this thread, it feels really good today to be here... :hug: :grouphug:

[I Have A Dream]

2. Brava, FirstLight!

This is perfect!!!

Don't you feel better? Don't you love the person that is 'you'? You're awesome, and what you said is absolutely true!!! I feel so fortunate to have you as a friend. :D

:loveya:

[OneGrassRoot]

5. Bravo indeed!!!!

:applause:

YES YOU ARE!!!

:hug:

:loveya:

[Myrina]

3. I seem to have a gift with dogs.

Last year, when I first started fostering rescue dogs, the ones that came to me had been at shelters for what seemed like ages, regularly passed over. Yet the first 4 in a row that came to stay with me were adopted within 2 or 3 weeks. The Rescue Director started telling people I had 'the magic touch' for these dogs and any dog would be lucky to come to my house because it meant his 'forever home' was just a few weeks away.

I took a break from fostering for a few months and yesterday saw a dog at a nearby shelter who was listed as 'urgent'. They are at capacity and have to start euthanizing. He'd been there his whole life - all 6 months of it - and nobody gave him a look. I sent in the foster application this morning and got a call around 10AM that I can pick him up tomorrow. Went shopping for a bed, leash, collar, toys etc at lunch and when I got back to my office, had a voicemail from the shelter that someone had just come in and applied to adopt him. :D

Apparently I still have that 'magic touch'.

[Sweet Freedom]

6. That's a cool gift! /nt

[OneGrassRoot]

7. Love this

Cool gift for sure! I'm grateful to those with this gift.

:loveya:

[FirstLight]

9. awww...

thank you for saving teh puppies! I want to be able to get a dog, but as a renter with an unstable life, it would be a struggle...and we *do* have 2 kittehs that would be very mad, lol

but whenever i even *think* of our shelter here (so very small and rural) i wish i could save them ALL!!!

[BanzaiBonnie]

12. Excellent

What a gift.

[I Have A Dream]

20. I love that about you, Myrina.

It's so wonderful to see how much you care. You are saving the lives of beautiful beings. :hug:

[JanusAscending]

26. God bless you!

You have my heart already! I haven't seen much of you around here, so welcome(if you are new to our group) This past year I had to surrender my fur baby for numerous reasons, and it still hurts. I am so thankful for people like you. It turned out that listening to my guides was perfect timing! I had been putting it off for so long. In a matter of months I ended up in the hospital for 4 days, and my poor boy would have been locked in his crate all that time, so it worked out for the best. There is never a moment each day that I don't think of him, and am grateful to "Small Paws" Bichon rescue for taking him to his foster home. He is my profile pic on face book...until I can get some new ones done of me (a skinnier me with a new hairdo and color!)
Oh and as to my gifts.........God gave me a loving heart, and as I get older and the filters are thinning, the gift of speaking truth to power! My best talent is my altruistic....never say die...attitude. :hi: :hug:

[I Have A Dream]

27. A sent a Facebook friend suggestion to you yesterday, JA. nt

[JanusAscending]

31. Saw it just before I came on here earlier!

I just went back to Face book and connected with her!! Thank you Dream! it's been a weird day in re to connecting with people! I don't know how many of you watch "The View", but Elton John was on this AM, with another guy (I'm embarrassed to say I forgot his name already) and they did a piano/song duet from their new album. I think the title was "Never too Old to be held" and I commented to my DIL on FB that it made me want to try "Dating for Seniors" on line!! I really would, but I can't afford it right now...'til I pay off my roofer, and save for a "piece of car"!!! LOL Then in this very post I find out that OGR is in a 5 yr. relationship from online dating!!!Synchronicity much????? LUV YA!!

[Myrina]

34. Hugs to you!

:hug: O8)

[I Have A Dream]

45. I love your wonderful spirit, JA.

:pals:

[japple]

28. Oh Myrina, that is wonderful--a beautiful, valuable gift. And

good on you for the work you do fostering the furry ones.

[Kookaburra]

32. That's the coolest!!!

Myrina, thank you for all you do for these precious creatures.

[Sweet Freedom]

4. Okay, I know the answers to this question

A couple years ago, I joined an online dating fiasco and it asked how my friends view me, so I asked two of my closest friends what they liked most about me.

I am a good listener, a good adviser, reliable, empathetic, generous and witty.

[OneGrassRoot]

8. What a great idea...

When I joined the "online dating fiasco" I didn't think to ask others their view of me. Still, it ended up pretty well, as I've been with my online dating fiasco for five years now.

:rofl:

I love your qualities and that your friends saw that in you and shared. I especially love that you asked.

:loveya:

[I Have A Dream]

10. Jump in, OGR...

:D

[OneGrassRoot]

11. I'm thinking!

I'm loving everyone else's so far and keep being distracted from trying to come up with an answer on my own.

:rofl:

[Sweet Freedom]

18. It was a good idea because I didn't

necessarily think about myself that way.

I forgot to mention, I am ridiculously patient. :)

Congrats on a successful "fiasco"!

[I Have A Dream]

21. I seem to recall that you're a Capricorn; right, Sweet Freedom?

These seem like very Capricornian traits. In reference to witty, do you tend to have a dry sense of humor?

I know that you'd make a wonderful friend. Your friends are lucky to have you in their lives! :)

:hug:

[Sweet Freedom]

46. Yep, I'm a cappy

1/2/19 cough*cough (69 :))

And I definitely have a very dry sense of humor. My guy friends especially like my humor.

Thank you for the lovely compliment. I know the same is true of you. You (and many others here) have always been here for me! :hug:

[MorningGlow]

13. Durrrrrr...derp

Great idea, Dream! I'll get back to you!

[I Have A Dream]

22. ...

:rofl:

[MorningGlow]

65. ROFL! Love the "tap tap" smiley!

Suddenly I feel compelled to come up with nice things about myself! :rofl:

Okay okay...lessee...

Well, first, like so many here, I'm an empath, so I can really understand what you're going through. I also have this "talent" (of sorts) of being somewhat of a mimic/mirror--I have a tendency to pick up other people's personality styles and be the same way while we're together. Makes for a real bonding experience! :crazy:

I'm not usually a worrywart, so I don't tend to freak out about stuff that isn't worth freaking out about, and that makes me able to talk friends off figurative ledges. (I've never had to talk anyone off a real ledge, so I don't know how good I'd be at that.) I can also analyze the hell out of anything, so if you bring me a problem, I can help you pick it apart and make sense out of it.

I've (finally) gotten rid of any tendency toward the dramatic in my life--I don't "do" catfights and salacious gossip and such, so a friendship with me would be pretty calm.

Oh yeah--and if all else fails, I'll make you laugh.

I'm a pretty good writer, but I'm not sure how that would figure into a friendship...but hey, if you need a killer cover letter for your resume, I can help!

Howzat? :shrug:

[OneGrassRoot]

14. Why would I choose to have me as a friend?

Good grief, I've ended up writing a novella and having a self-help session in the process! :rofl:

Okay, the reasons I would choose to have me as a friend are often reasons people are turned off by me or feel hurt by me, even though that's never my intention.


I'm compassionate and empathetic. Perhaps because I am extremely sensitive and empathetic, I've also developed very clear boundaries and limited patience. If I feel it's best for all concerned, I can fairly easily exercise compassionate detachment. I can remove someone from my life with no guilt or remorse, so long as I know I've done my best, including close biological family members. It's because of this that I'm often viewed as very cold, yet in all honesty it's a form of self-preservation.

I'm honest, often brutally honest, though not with the intention to hurt feelings and always being mindful of NOT hurting feelings and only offering opinions when they're asked for. Still, I think this quality either draws people to me, or repels them from me. I've been really surprised by how much I can really, really agitate people just by being me, not having a clue that I've agitated them. :shrug:

But because I am compassionate, empathetic and honest, I would choose to be my friend, even with the accompanying qualities others may dislike. ;)

On to the less complicated stuff...

I'm not sure why or what to call it, I just know that people tend to feel very comfortable, at ease and safe with me, right away. I've had complete strangers confide lifelong secrets and traumas. That makes me feel good, and I like that. :)

I'm SO not demanding; I'm easygoing, very low maintenance. To each his/her own so long as no one causes harm.

I'm loyal and dependable. (Hey, I was voted MOST loyal and dependable in high school. ;))

I like to give and receive hugs.



Thanks, IHAD! :loveya:



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[I Have A Dream]

23. I don't even have to do this myself because yours could almost be mine.

:scared:

:loveya:

[teenagebambam]

15. I am awesome.

I'm sure there's more but that's all I can come up with on short notice.

[Sweet Freedom]

17. You don't need any more--

"awesome" is all-encompassing! :)

[I Have A Dream]

19. Yes...

you are awesome, tabb. :applause:

[I Have A Dream]

16. What got me thinking about this was this quotation...

"It's not your job to like me; it's mine." ~ Byron Katie

In my opinion, one of the most important things that we can do is nurture a mature love for ourselves, and that includes recognizing and articulating the good things about ourselves.

Far too often, we only see (what we consider to be) the negatives about ourselves when we have so many more wonderful things about ourselves that we ignore. Allowing ourselves to focus on the positive things doesn't mean that we don't recognize those things that we'd like to change about ourselves. It just puts things into proper perspective.

Corporate advertising definitely doesn't want us to think this way. The subtle mind-control that they exert on us by causing us to focus almost exclusively on what we don't like about ourselves is extremely profitable for them and is extremely harmful to us.

[NJCher]

85. advertising

Corporate advertising definitely doesn't want us to think this way. The subtle mind-control that they exert on us by causing us to focus almost exclusively on what we don't like about ourselves is extremely profitable for them and is extremely harmful to us.


I teach a course called corporate advertising. I tell my students that television is the "24/7 feel bad" machine.

I will never forget the faces of the students in my graduate course. I said, "Ads are designed to make you feel bad about yourself. When you feel bad about yourself, you'll spend some money to alleviate that feeling. Whether it's $1.29 or $129,000, it works the same way."

Many of the students' faces were crestfallen. One said, "So that's how this works."

After spending decades in both advertising and as a teacher in higher ed, I don't listen to any TV or radio ads. I mute them all. I know how they work and it's safer this way.


Cher

[Kookaburra]

24. I have pretty blue eyes

Says absolutely nothing about my character, and I did nothing except inherit them from my dad, but there.

[I Have A Dream]

25. Awww...

I bet they're very kind and wise as well. :)

[Kookaburra]

30. You're so sweet IHAD.

Always a sincerely kind word and encouragement for everyone. I'd say that your best feature is your kind, sweet spirit.

[I Have A Dream]

42. Thanks, Kookaburra, for your kind words.

I just know that you could say so much more than just the fact that you have beautiful eyes, although beautiful eyes are wonderful. (They're the first thing I notice in people.) :)

:loveya:

[japple]

29. I don't bite and I'm housebroken.

Oh, did you mean human friends?

Well, I'm loyal, a good listener, kind, and generous. Also, I'm a good cook and love to feed people.

[JanusAscending]

33. You also have a very good sense of humor!!

which, along with being certifiably "SANE" would be one of my biggest qualities in a mate, if I could afford to do the on line "dating thingy"!! hee hee hee!!

[Myrina]

35. All fabulous traits, themselves ...

... combine them together in one person and you are amazing :D

[I Have A Dream]

44. Yes, I've noticed all of these things about you, japple.

(Except for the food part... and the biting and using the litter box part. I'm sure they're true though! :rofl:)

:hug:

[Kind of Blue]

36. Love it! It's so cool to have a Stuart Smalley moment :)

Okay. Okay. I'm passionate and compassionate and love to laugh. I really could go on with my conceited self with the loyalty, trustworthy, et cetera :rofl: but there is a zest for living and for all life that is indomitable. Well, may be not roaches :D - not that I have any. I just remember one apartment from long ago :D

[Kookaburra]

38. And fleas, don't forget fleas.

I truly believe it's okay to have not respect for roaches and fleas. I can even understand mosquitoes (even though they drive me nuts), because they feed the bats.

[I Have A Dream]

39. ...and bedbugs.

:scared:

[Kookaburra]

41. They are some nasty little bugs

Although, thank goodness I've never actually seen one in person.

[I Have A Dream]

43. Me neither, and I want to keep it that way.

I have had some very personal experience with fleas. For some reason, they skip over everyone else and go straight for me. (At least they used to when I had a dog.) I've found lately that mosquitoes don't like me nearly as much as they used to. I attribute it to being a vegetarian, although it probably has nothing to do with it. I don't know what else it could be though.

Anyway, I agree -- roaches, fleas, etc. Blech...

[Kind of Blue]

49. I know! They've come clear cross-country

and have infiltrated a local fire department that had to be evacuated, while we're going through brown-outs because of the deficit. All we need during fire season :grr:

[Kind of Blue]

48. I agree! Ugh, insufferable.

x(

[I Have A Dream]

47. Oh, Blue, you just made a HUGE mistake! lol

I didn't know who Stuart Smalley was, so I looked him up and found all of these wonderful quotations. My Facebook friends are going to be getting some new "inspirational" material! :rofl:

Seriously though, I absolutely adore your joie de vivre, and your light shines even on-line.

It's not conceited to know that :yourock: :headbang:!   (I always wanted to use that last one... :D)

[Kind of Blue]

50. Oh, Dear!

I'm laughing already thinking of Smalleyisms, like Stinkin' Thinkin.'
Or Stuart on the phone with his very upset overweight sister Jodie. "Okay, Jodie, I would never ordinarily say this, but is there any way you can get to a pound cake?" :rofl:

Dream, you have a way of bringing the BEST out of people without even trying, because you are a mirror reflecting the very best in us :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug::hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug::hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug::hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug::hug:

[I Have A Dream]

62. So many people just can't see their own beauty.

It's an amazingly lovely thing to see someone realize that they've been truly seen by someone. It actually makes me cry sometimes. :)

:loveya:

(Gotta go find my postings; fun, fun, fun...:D)

[OneGrassRoot]

63. +infinity on that comment re: IHAD!

:applause:

And I applaud and appreciate your joie de vivre, my sister, KoB!

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[glinda]

37. that I have integrity

[I Have A Dream]

40. I value integrity above all else, glinda.

Absolutely nothing is more important to me. I'm sure that you're a lovely person. :)

:hug:

[glinda]

51. why... thank you.

[murielm99]

52. I give more than I get.

I am willing to give a lot of time, empathy, and whatever it takes to a friend, or to anything I volunteer for. I guess that is called being selfless. I don't think I am selfless, really. But I do give back. I show up and I am reliable.

I work hard.

People think I am weird, but I don't see it. Maybe I am blind to my faults.

I have been very good at nurturing talent, in my brother and in my children. I have been good at teaching people to read.

Is any of that any good?

[I Have A Dream]

55. muriel, you ask if any of what you stated is any good.

Would you like someone like this? I know that I would.

In reference to being called weird, I bet most of us in this group have been called that many times. I take it as a compliment. :rofl: Who wants to be what mass consciousness considers to be normal?

I'd love to have you as a friend! :pals: I wish you had more people in your life who were able to see the jewel that you are. :)

[Celebration]

53. another low maintenance person here

no drama.......

let's see, I picked up the lunch tab after my best friend bounced a check,

I am a pretty good listener, but phone calls aren't my favorite.....I fix that by playing computer games while I talk on the phone if people want to go on and on!

I give pretty good advice, and generally don't try to give it unless asked. I'm rather intuitive with advice, in fact, and sometimes blurt out the exact right thing.

I might want to be my friend because I am always volunteering to do energetic treatments for my friends, including entity removals. Some love it, but could be I freak some people out. I think that is okay. That probably keeps my close friends small in number. :rofl: But the ones that I do have are better off for it.

I have a lot of general knowledge, jack of all trades, master of none, so I can hold my own in conversations on a lot of different subjects, unless someone asks me to prove something.

I'm pretty self contained and have no energy vampire characteristics. It isn't all about "me."

I am reliable, and generally come through with what I say I will do, (while at the same time procrastinating.)

I make pretty good caramel brownies???

I feel that I am a safe driver.

[I Have A Dream]

56. Oh, and you forgot that you're a WONDERFUL photographer...

with a true gift for catching the magic of the moment. :)

I truly love your description of yourself, Celebration. You know, accept and like yourself, which is lovely to see. :thumbsup:

:hug:

[laylah]

54. At this time in my life,

this "exercise" is a welcome challenge...thank you IHAD :hug:

I am empathetic, loyal, loving, caring, giving, intelligent, respectful, a good listener, sentimental, tender hearted, and have a terrific sense of humor.

Whew! That took some thinking :rofl:

Jenn

[I Have A Dream]

59. I can see all of these things in you, Jenn.

My hope for you is that you see these things more easily the next time you look for the good in yourself. They're so easy to see from this side. :)

One thing that you didn't mention that always touches me about you is that you're very sincere. That's wonderful to see. :hug:

[laylah]

61. Thank you...

:hug:

[get the red out]

57. I'm funny

I WILL make you laugh or fall over trying. And I LOVE animals.

[OneGrassRoot]

58. Yes, you ARE!

:rofl:

:loveya:

[I Have A Dream]

60. You ARE! :o)

You're also very, very real. What you see is what you get. I love that about you, gtro. :hug:

[Sanity Claws]

64. I'm a font of trivial knowledge

Do you need a partner for Trivial Pursuit? Pick me!

Do you need a friend to call to make sure you get that Million Dollar Prize? Call me!

Last week I won body lotion on an internet radio show because I knew about Elias Howe's dream that led to his inventing the sewing machine. Just the latest in trivial prizes I won for my trivial knowledge.

[FirstLight]

66. right on!

I read things and can;t retain those little nuggetts...so now i know who to call when i am on that game show! ;)

[Kind of Blue]

67. Mind like a steel trap. What an amazing gift!

:)

[I Have A Dream]

74. I'd love to be able to do that. My mind hasn't been able...

to remember details like that for a long time.

:)

[BlueIris]

68. I would do anything for a friend. nt

[I Have A Dream]

75. Yes, I've noticed that about you, BII.

That's a very nice trait to have. :)

[Ricochet21]

69. I'm not too short.

Or too tall. :rofl:

[Sanity Claws]

70. the Goldilocks height

You're just right!

[I Have A Dream]

76. Well, yes, indeed you are a very nice height, Rick.

:thumbsup:

(Although it's all good, where height is concerned.)

[Metta]

71. I'm a lucky man because I have a wife who loves me.

Such as I am. For the most part. By and large. As a rule. More often than not. Like that. :)

[murielm99]

72. You sound like my husband.

He always qualifies everything. And he is more worthwhile than he realizes.

[I Have A Dream]

73. Hi, muriel! Metta is my husband...

and that's sort of a joke that we have between ourselves. He was just joking with me, although nobody else would know that. :D

[Metta]

79. I am the world. I am the children.

:) :hi:

[I Have A Dream]

77. Pretty much...

:loveya:

:rofl:

[mysticalchick]

78. This is such a lovely thread to read

... it really is. IHAD, this is so like you to start something like this - you have such a gift for fostering community.

Here's mine:

Oh the occasion of the day after my 50th birthday, I say this:

I have a courageous spirit and don't hesitate to do what I'm called to do whatever that may be. Even if it scares me, even if I don't know why I'm doing it - if I'm guided to do it, I do.

Also, I'm sweetly dorky - one of my happy places is perusing LOLcat pictures. I'm really 12 at heart. :)

[I Have A Dream]

80. Thank you for your kind words, mc.

:hug:

I really respect you for doing what your higher self and those beings that work with you for your highest good instruct you to do. You make a difference in so many lives because of it.

I love your child-like exuberance. :D

[Myrina]

89. You are wonderful, Mystikal!

:grouphug:

[I Have A Dream]

81. I feel compelled...

to try to be the kind of person that I know will be the norm in the future. One of my favorite quotations is "Be the change you want to see in the world." by Mohatma Gandhi, and the Universe and my higher self expect this of me in every action I take.

I get no enjoyment from winning if someone else loses in the process. I love to help others to shine, and I love when a group finally gets to the point where its individuals no longer volley for attention or credit for themselves at the expense of others in the group but instead have made the internal adjustment which causes them to want everyone in the group to excel, shine, and succeed. They get to the point where they realize that when one person in the group succeeds, the whole group benefits.

The most joyful thing in my life is when I am given the honor of helping someone else to realize the amazing person that they are, and most people really are quite amazing if you look closely.

I also really resonate quite a bit with OneGrassRoot's earlier post.

[OneGrassRoot]

82. You do this beautifully, IHAD....

The most joyful thing in my life is when I am given the honor of helping someone else to realize the amazing person that they are, and most people really are quite amazing if you look closely.

And you do it often...probably every single day, from what I've seen.

:loveya:

[Celebration]

83. +1

Notice how IHAD lets everyone else comment then finally (modestly, despite what she said in the OP) weighs in?

Amazing thread. Thanks IHAD.

[Proud_Lefty]

84. She's amazing

I've never known anyone as giving, sweet and insightful as Dream. So glad she loves her husband, cause I love him too. Together, they make magic, good magic. Thanks, my friends, for being you.

:grouphug:

[I Have A Dream]

88. Awww, you know that we feel the same way, PL.

:loveya:

Thank you for having such a generous and loving spirit.

[I Have A Dream]

87. Not modesty, Celebration.

I greatly value the things that I mentioned, so it's something that I really like. :)

Thank you for your kind words. I love what people wrote also. What a wonderful group of kindred spirits we have here... :loveya:

[I Have A Dream]

86. Thank you, OGR.

:hug:

[Myrina]

90. Indeed she does.

:applause: :grouphug:

[I Have A Dream]

92. Thank you.

:hug:

[kimmerspixelated]

91. I don't know where to start! I'm a funny gal and I have an

infectious laugh, great legs(when shaved) HAHAHAHA...green eyes, and a voice like Joni Rondstadt!
I can also verify that I don't have fleas! :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[I Have A Dream]

93. That's a great start, kimmers!

:D

You are a lovely person! :hug:

[kimmerspixelated]

94. Hey, I blush, now!

Thanks! :blush: :loveya: