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(I'm posting the entire article because I can't find it on-line. Otherwise, I'd have used the link and 4 paragraph format. I hope that this is acceptable.)
SELF DECEPTION AND UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS by Madeline Gerwick-Brodeur January 6, 2005
We’re finally edging past the period of high frustration, and now we’re into the period filled with attempting to do too much, with too little time and resources, while we have unrealistic expectations. Sound familiar?
On top of all this, we have a tendency to deceive ourselves in ways we haven’t considered. Are you faced with a tough personal or professional situation that you believe you’re "handling well?" If so, this could mean you’re not in touch with your feelings about it, because in this culture, "handling things well" usually means ignoring our feelings.
I bring this to your attention in case you have "miscreated" a negative event lately and wonder how that happened. We’re always creating with our feelings (we create more of whatever we feel), but since we often don’t know what they are, we aren’t always aware of what we’re creating and why.
As a recent example of this, I visited my elderly parents in KY for the holidays. In their 80s, ill health, and unable to do much, I decorated their house, put up the tree, baked, bought gifts, made a delicious Christmas dinner and in general had a very enjoyable time. Or so I thought.
My return trip home was a pure nightmare at every step of the way. I finally arrived home a day late, injured, and without any luggage. After three days of not being able to get my luggage back, I was in complete frustration and anger at the airlines. I finally called my business partner to help me pivot out of those feelings, so I could get my bags to return to me. (They were being blocked by my anger and frustration.)
After dealing successfully with that, we began to discuss our holidays. At that moment I suddenly began to cry, and I finally realized my true feelings about my holidays. Until then, I had not recognized my very deep sadness about the state of my parents’ deterioration. That’s when I finally realized how I had managed to create a nightmare for my return trip home with my repressed sadness.
This story is a great example of what happens when we’re unwilling or unable to tell ourselves the truth. It’s not that we intend to be out of integrity with ourselves. With Jupiter in Scorpio, we’re all getting to experience a lot of deep feelings, some of which we’re just unaware we have. With Mars and Jupiter square to Neptune, many of us would just as soon pretend we didn’t have them! That’s how we deceive ourselves and that’s how we miscreate negative events from repressed feelings.
Until late November, we will all be discovering some deep feelings of one sort or another, but especially now through March and again in September. Realize this is the "gold" that’s buried beneath the surface and treasure them.
Be willing to speak your truth at work (and home), especially regarding unrealistic or unspoken expectations or schedules. Check into your heart, guts, and muscles on a regular basis and be alert when they tighten up or don’t feel good. Your body knows when something is unrealistic, even if your mind doesn’t recognize it. If you can do these things, you really will handle these challenges well.
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