My 9-yr-old just asked me if he could have a past life regression

[Quakerfriend]

done!

He is a deeply sensitive and loving boy. He is especially sensitive to all things in the natural world. At age four, he cried when discovering a dead butterfly in the yard.

He has been deeply saddened because I had a pear tree cut down in our yard several days ago. And, he has cried off and on for two days, at one point proclaiming, " I wanted it to die naturally when it got old. How would you feel if I just cut you down?"

I feel so badly because the tree guys accidentally cut the pear tree down. And, I am trying to help him heal from this apparent trauma. I have told him how proud I am of him that he so loves nature. That he must be a very wise, old soul... And, hence the request to have a past life regression done!

Should I go with it?? I would love to hear your feedback.

[DemExpat]

1. My take on this, Quakerfriend....

which of course has to do with my experiences and of those of raising my 2 children - they were young kids like your son about 12-14 years ago too, so the times were also slightly different.

I would be of the opinion that although I would certainly not try to harden a very sensitive child to compassion and love of nature/life, my foremost aim as a guide/parent would be to help him to be a strong spirit here on earth at this time, and would, if presented with such a question, honestly tell my child that I thought it would be better to be older before experimenting with these things. To discover himself to the full in this life and then looking further if so inclined.

I am colored perhaps by my experiences with (mostly soft) drugs in my late teens/early 20s which had a very detrimental effect on me, (my mental health), and subsequent reading on this subject in Anthroposophic books/articles explained in that view that taking mind-expanding drugs in youth was like having spiritual doors opened that were more appropriate for people at more experienced ages of life. I can't remember exactly what the article said, but its words resonated very strongly with me and put my own experiences in a perspective that I could "do" something with.

I also discouraged my children from delving into drugs at a young age based on my experiences and ideas on it.

Children IMO need to experience present life and "now" as fully as possible to be "wholly" strong to develop further in more adult phases of life. Just my intuition about it.

What do you think?

DemEx

[Quakerfriend]

2. Thank you so much for telling me of your experiences Dem

Expat. I value what you are saying.

I agree, that "it would be better to be older..." I was just so caught off guard by his question.

Having tried past life regression myself, I tend to agree with you. Having done this when I was 28 I realize that the emotional pain I felt from the life I went back to should not be something that a child should ever experience.

Thank you so much for your insight. I realize that I so appreciate my child's depth and wisdom that I somehow want him to 'remember'. But, it is really not necessary or wise at such a young age.

You're great, thx!

[FreedomAngel82]

3. I agree

I would wait until he was a bit older. Maybe as a sweet sixteen birthday present or something. :) He might think it's unfair but tell him what the other poster said about the now and he'll know someday.

[okasha]

4. Yes, but . . ..

Twelve is, under most circumstances, a bit young for this kind of exploration, and under almost all circumstances too young for the kind of emotional impact it may have. Don't be surprised, though, if your son's past life memories begin to surface spontaneously now or in the near future, and be prepared to answer questions and offer guidance. For as long as I can remember remembering anything, I've had memories that didn't belong to my present life. By the time I was twelve I'd become convinced that I was adopted and my parents were lying to me about it. It was rather painful for a while, and I was almost twenty before I realized what those memories must be--and that I was in fact my parents' child. Keep lines of communication on the subject open; having memories you can't account for ain't no fun at all.

[cassiepriam]

5. I agree with the others

Is he asking for this or is it your thought?

I think your son is too young for hypnotic regression of any kind for a number of reasons.

(I can so relate to him, my daughter got a butterfly farm and I was devastated to keep them in captivity and had to release them after a few weeks. I then saw one of them and it came to me in the yard a week or so after release. I about cried. Also when trees get cut down in the neighborhood I am in a funk for days, tree trimmers are akin to murderers in my book.)

Perhaps you could do some symbolic ritual with the dead tree to help him calm down and move on. Also bring some of the wood in from the yard and make an arrangement for him to enjoy in his room. And then plant a new one when he is ready. Also talk to him about the cycle of life etc.

What sign is your son? Do you have his natal chart handy? You can get some past life info from his natal chart but I hesitate to do that for a child for a number of reasons. Basically karmic history can be rough for adults to hear, not particularly pretty.

Actually according to karmic theory he should have some good recall on his own right now. His pineal gland has yet to be shut down by the heavy vibrations of our world. But according to scientific research we know that children are quite suggestible so be careful about planting things in his head. You are so good with him, my parents just ignored me and gave me negative messages about my sensitivity.

I will say a prayer for your son tonight in my healing meditations. What is his first name?

[Nancy Waterman]

6. I think it would be possible to do now

but you would have to consult with the practitioner. You might want to even do it yourself.
I am a past life regression practitioner, and I regressed one of my sons, but very briefly and quickly when he was around 9.
We didn't look for anything tragic or painful. He had, at the time, a very strong interest in carpentry and building things. We used to talk about how he had a very strong urge to create in his hands. I had him lay on the bed and feel himself building things the way he likes to, and then I said go back to an earlier time when you felt the same way. He saw himself as a blacksmith, mostly he described it and I labeled it. He wasn't able to stay very long in that recpetive mode though. I think most kids would not, certainly most boys would not.

If are going to pay someone, you would probably want to wait til he could last for a while. On the other hand, this same son would never do such a thing now (he is 17) and probably would not be very susceptible or interested for quite some time, if ever. They are more psychic and open when they are little. My other son used to see spirits, but not anymore at all.

[Me.]

7. Just My Opinion Mind You

But I think he should be older. What if it opens doors he is unable to handle emotionally? Did he say why he wants the regression?

[davsand]

8. Is there something specific he's seeking?

I have to wonder about it. Is it possible he's had some memories breaking thru already--but hasn't realized yet what they were? Is it possible he's asking you to help him because he's trying to make sense of something he's seen?

I know that, for me, the past life memories began once I started to learn about the idea of reincarnation. It was kind of like a switch had been turned on, really.

Before the memories began to break thru, I had tried at one point to have a regression done by a hypnotist. We never managed to get together, and shortly after that, the memories started to come thru in dreams. I WANTED to know, but had not been able to find any help.

I have to wonder, rather than let him do any kind of intense regression, if maybe you two could try some meditation together before bedtime. Kind of ease into it--ya know? If he's unable to meditate too effectively (and many kids are not!) then I'd say that any kind of non-prompted regression right now would probably be spontaneous and something he CAN deal with.

I'm not an expert--just the mom of a pretty precocious daughter. She's been "seeing things" for quite a few years, now. I know I did as a kid, too--but my parents dismissed it as imagination. Luckily they didn't scare hell of me by screaming "GHOSTS!" but in many ways that denial was not good either. I had to learn all over again how to see.

I have to wonder if maybe this regression request is a similar sort of thing going on with your kid...

Sorry--I hope I didn't confuse the issue here.


Laura

[Punkingal]

9. I am a past-life regressionist...

And I think it would be okay for him to have a regression, if it is with a good regressionist. You can be careful where you take someone, so it doesn't have to be a traumatic experience. And if he is an old soul, this may be something he needs, since he asked for it.