I find this practice extremely difficult, but since I get these quote e-mails that I save, I thought I share.
However, the Dalai Lama also stresses on intent. If the intent is not to harm but to, as I tell myself, to help your opponent learn from the experience for their chance to rid their negative karma (greed etc) I think it would be perfectly fine to file suit either for the forced sale or partition.
The intent in this case is to focus on "for the good of all of us", including his siblings.
Just a thought.
http://www.snowlionpub.com> Dharma Quote of the Week 13. Transforming suffering into the path Even if someone tries to cut off your head
When you haven't done the slightest thing wrong,
Out of compassion take all his misdeeds
Upon yourself --
This is the practice of Bodhisattvas.
- from "The Thirty-seven Practices of Bodhisattvas" by Gyelsay Togme Sangpo Although we have done nothing to deserve it, someone may attack us, beat us, or perpetrate other forms of violence on us. Certainly it is tempting to get angry in such a situation, but our anger will do no good. In fact, this person is creating the cause for his own unfortunate rebirth by attacking us, and the karma he creates is even heavier if we hold any of the three sets of vows: pratimoksha, Bodhisattva, or tantric. Thus, we cultivate compassion, and wish to take the person's karma and resultant suffering on ourselves. For example, if a crazy person attacks a person who is sane, the latter will not only not fight back but try to help, by giving him medicine and wanting him to get well. The sane person sees that the crazy person does not know what he is doing. He is out of control. Similarly, when someone harms us, we should recognize that he too is out of control and is being led by his three poisonous attitudes. Similarly, we can remember that we are experiencing the ripening result of harmful actions we did in past lives, so why blame the other person? In addition, that person is causing our negative karma to be exhausted now, rather than later when the result could be much more difficult to bear. In this way, we will not be angry or retaliate, but will pray for and try to help the other. In "The Eight Verses of Thought Transformation," it says, "Whenever I meet a person of bad nature who is overwhelmed by negative energy and intense suffering, I will hold such a rare one dear, as if I had found a precious treasure." People like this suffer greatly because they think only of themselves, not of others, and thus they are worthy of compassion, the wish that they be free from suffering and its causes. Being patient when harmed by others does not mean that we take no action to prevent harm from occurring. Rather, patience frees our mind from the fog of anger and gives us the clarity and kindness to respond to a situation in a helpful way. Free of anger, we look for ways to resolve conflict other than seeking revenge. -- from Transforming Adversity into Joy and Courage: An Explanation of "The Thirty-seven Practices of Bodhisattvas" by Geshe Jampa Tegchok, edited by Thubten Chodron, published by Snow Lion Publications * * * * * *