I'm in serious trouble.

[lildreamer316]

I have really gotten myself into a situation that is possibly extremly dangerous. Please, send any good vibes and prayers my way.
I have never in my life been so scared of a person.

[LaurenG]

1. I will pray and light

Hang in there.:hug:

[stellanoir]

2. You've got 'em dear

Consider no longer empowering whomever is tormenting you with fear.

Sending you lots of love and light and lots of protective vibes.

[I Have A Dream]

3. lildreamer, do whatever you have to do to be safe.

I will send you light and energy and will pray for you. I wish that I could do more.

:hug:

[Cleita]

4. Of course I will, but in the material world,

are you doing what you need to do to protect yourself? Do you have a cell phone to call 9-11. You don't have to subscribe to a cell phone service. 9-11 is activated for users even if they can't afford a service. In my area the battered women's shelter collects old cell phones and gives them to women who have stalkers and are otherwise in danger so they can call 911 if they are in danger.

Since you haven't given us any details, let me tell you my story. I was working as a bartender and I had one customer who did everything he could to flaunt the rules of the establishment especially when I had to tell him, things like bringing and open bottle of liquor into the bar (against the law), taking out a open container of liquor, like half a bottle of unfinished beer (against the law) and then I caught him dealing dope and warned him again. The owner 86'd him (meaning banished from the bar forever) because it could cause him to lose his license. He didn't turn him into the police then because he didn't agree with the drug laws in force at the time.

He came around and threatened to hurt me if I didn't serve him when the owner wasn't there. I called the police but he was gone when they got there. They advised me to get a restraining order, so I went to the bar owner's lawyer to get one and he told me that they weren't very effective, but he was able to find out that the guy was an ex-con for felony drug dealing. He told me that the next time he came around and threatened me, to tell him that I knew about his record and that I would call the police on him and testify in court if he ever came around me again. There were witnesses to the threats so if anyone finds me hurt or dead, the police would know whom to go after.

He left and I never saw him again. It looks like the lawyer had zeroed in on his Achilles heel, or vulnerablity and so must you with this person. Fortunately I was married and I think he thought twice about trying to break into my apartment, which he might have if I had been single.

However, I hope you can get this problem taken care of and you can't live in fear of this lowlife. He doesn't own you and you have to find a way to make yourself even more frightening to him than he is to you.

Good luck dear. :hug:

[NuttyFluffers]

5. good advice. the body is a vessel, it can get many things done.

it is great to have spiritual intervention, or etheric intervention, but you got a corporeal form, too. might as well use it.

like that amusing quip i read from chinese classics or something: student studies how to use a sacred stone to harness his chi and weave the lines of tao together so he can walk on water so that he can cross the nearby river. he spends 17 years of his life and finally masters the technique. he hurries to his teacher and tells him of his newfound skill. they go to the river and he shows it off. when he comes back the teacher cries and shakes his head and laments to his student "you poor thing! you wasted all those years of your life when you could have walked <1/2 a mile> and paid <$0.50> to old ferry boatman Li to get you across!"

the small physical actions can often have the easiest pay-off.

[Quakerfriend]

6. Please, hang on lildreamer and do try to stay safe. We

will all be sending you good vibes and visualizing you in a safe place.

These things can sometimes miraculously 'dissolve' as fast as they appear. Several years ago my sister was being stalked by a very scary man. He was calling in the middle of the night, dropping by during family parties and asking if he and his 'girlfriend' could take a shower at their place!! I am certain that he was also watching her house with binoculars all day long, at times.

She and her husband had just bought their dream house on several acres in the woods, and suddenly she was in fear for her life. Her kids were up at all hours of the night scared out of their wits.

I could not believe the advise I was giving her. It was just terrifying.

The police said they could not do anything until he did something to her- you know the story.

After several months, he completely stopped everything. He had been doing drugs and was very depressed (not that that's any excuse!). Shortly thereafter he moved out of the area.

And, my sisters life was restored to bliss.

Please, know that I am keeping you in my prayers!

;-)

[rumpel]

7. I will beam a protective shield

for you.

Can you report to authorities?


:grouphug:

[u4ic]

8. Please take care of yourself, lildreamer

Sending protective light your way...

[lildreamer316]

9. UPDATE:

He left yesterday without a fuss and without us having to get confrontational---thank goodness.
This was SUCH a lesson for me!!! It was quick and very very hard,but it is interesting that the SECOND I realized I was seeing the true person, I was able to immediately realize how I arrived at the situation, what I needed to learn, and to review the clues left for me. There were several lessons contained in this situation, but the biggest one was to let go and let my husband take control--since he was the person this guy was really after in the first place. See, this person is a very closeted gay man, and I believe he has literally driven himself crazy trying to keep this from everyone. He goes to the opposite extreme to "prove" he is not. I am sure many of you can understand my fear, because I was scared that once he had realized that we knew his secret,that he would react very severely--and he was definitely capable of that. It is EXTREMELY interesting that he looked, walked and acted like a vulture--very very sharp features, sunken eyes, and was invading our personal space in a bad way. What I was fascinated about was the extent of his well-made cover; to the extend that he is coherent in writing but not in person. His cover is VERY well done. knowing what I know NOW, I can go back and review his posts and correspondence and pick up very faint clues,but they are only there if you know what you are looking for. I was blaming myself very hard for not seeing it before I invited him into my house, but hubby pointed out that there was no way I could have known--he also had been talking to this man for months and had no clue.
The post someone here made about being nice---this was a perfect example of that. I keep trying not to believe that the the lesson here is not to be nice, because that does not resonate with my soul--but there must be some sort of thing here that I am not/was not seeing.
Thank you so much everyone for your support. I knew this was a critical spiritual point for me. I am glad we came through it fairly unscathed. Your energy help was definitely felt and appreciated,and probably helped in his quick and uneventful departure. Bless all of you.

[DemExpat]

10. Thank goodness it cleared up for you, lildreamer!

I keep trying not to believe that the the lesson here is not to be nice, because that does not resonate with my soul--but there must be some sort of thing here that I am not/was not seeing.

IMO a possible lesson (thinking of my past experiences and those of a dear girlfriend who has often gotten herself and her husband into pickles and stress by being very kind and offering open house to "strangers"} is to learn to discern between what people are asking or fishing for from you, and what motivates your desire to help out. In my experience this last part can have many levels.

It isn't learning not to be nice, but learning to know yourself and your motivations as well as developing your intuitions about others' motives.

What a relief!

:hug:

DemEx

[I Have A Dream]

11. I'm glad that your problem went away on its own, lildreamer.

Can't get any better than that!

:hug: