I'm hurting

[LiberalEsto]

My 21-year-old daughter just called, crying hysterically. Her boyfriend kicked her out for taking some of his ADHD medication in order to study. They were together for more than a year and were sharing an apartment in Blacksburg, VA. He goes to Tech, and she was going to a nearby community college.

She has packed up and is driving home - a five hour drive. I'm worried sick about her safety. I talked to her a while trying to calm her down, and begged her to eat something and stop along the way to get lunch, just so she'll drive better. I hope she makes it home safely.

I don't blame the boyfriend. He's a very nice kid and he is concerned about the way she messes around with the meds she was prescribed for anxiety disorder. She told me on the phone that she abruptly quit taking her Lexapro over a week ago because it made her gain weight. She and I agreed she needs to see someone for counseling. I'll want her to see the psychiatrist and evaluate her medications.

She said she feels like a "total fuck-up", can't finish a semester at college, can't keep a boyfriend.

Last summer she took an on-line test and thought she had anxiety disorder. A psychiatrist confirmed this and put her on medication, which seemed to be helping. She has been problematic for years - hot-tempered, drinking way too much, and dropping out of 3 colleges. This will be the 4th college. We borrowed heavily on our credit card to pay for tuition and textbooks this semester so I hope we can recover some of it.

As it happens, my husband is having severe problems at work today and may end up quitting on the spot. He handed in his 2 weeks notice on Friday. He's in a state himself.

I know the folks on this forum are the greatest, and would be very grateful for any good vibes you can send my way. Between my daughter's problems and my husband's, I am a wreck.

[lildreamer316]

1. Sending as much

light as possible.
I will be thinking about you today.

[LiberalEsto]

2. Thank you so much nt

[I Have A Dream]

3. I'm sorry that you always have to be the strong one, LiberalEsto.

Be gentle with yourself during this.

I'll be sending vibes your way and will keep you in my prayers.

I have a thread about Rescue Remedy. Maybe you need some also?

:hug:

[LiberalEsto]

4. Thanks

I may look into that later; right now we are totally broke.

[BlueIris]

5. Oh, man. Sending looooots of light to you. nt

[oceanspirit]

6. Wow you just explained my daughter

LiberalEsto, I have a daughter that is exactly the same as your's. She was diagnosed as Bipolar II. She refuses to accept it. She refuses medication. She's 26 years old, therefore I can't do anything about it. She's manic as hell, and is like a White Tornado coming into our home. She doesn't live with us, but she's always calling me crying, that she's so alone, she doesn't understand why she can't finish college, or keep a boyfriend, while all her friends are getting married and having kids already.

You're husband? Does he have a hot temper? Does he fly off the handle quickly? Does he think everyone around him (especially at work are idiots?) If so, then I do believe he has an anxiety disorder as well. When people have this disorder, they have low self esteem. They think everyone around them are idiots. Their the only ones who are right. I live with someone like that. Only lets add alcoholic as well to this mess.

I'm sending you tons of white light to help calm down the situation. I'm sure you're daughter will arrive home safely. She may need to be re-evaluated. If she keeps messing around with med's shes not doing herself any favors. See I"m Bipolar as well. I know about screwing around with meds. NOT GOOD. It will totally mess up the brain chemistry. Now I am no doctor, but I have been diagonised for over 8 years now, and have a pretty good handle on these types of disorders.

So I pray and wish you well with your husband and also your daughter. I feel everything will work out okay. Try and remain calm. Being calm around these off the wall people, can actually calm them down.

Try creating a calm environment at home for them. Low lighting, calming foods and drinks. Candles, and very low voices. See if it works. I bet it will at least calm down an explosive situation.

I hold you in my heart and pray for you and sending you white light your way.

Oceanspirit

[LiberalEsto]

12. Thank you

I'm so sorry about your daughter. Bipolar illness is horrible. The daughter of a close friend of mine suffers from it, along with an eating disorder. Even worse, the young woman is also divorced and raising a son with Aspergers. I've tried to talk with the young woman and provide a little guidance and reassurance, but until she can get the right medications for herself, and get stabilized, there isn't much I can do to help except be there for her.

My daughter arrived safely, and we had a talk about some of her issues -- She will start counseling as soon as we can find someone suitable who takes our health insurance. She also says she's willing to consider AA meetings. Later today she will call her psychiatrist and ask about switching some medications around.

She also talked with her boyfriend and is going back to Blacksburg tomorrow.

You're quite right about my husband -- he has OCD which is a form of anxiety disorder.


My grateful thanks to you and to everyone on this forum for your kind words and healing light.

[MorningGlow]

13. So glad your daughter is making progress, LE

Definitely heed OceanSpirit's advice--she knows more than the doctors about these kinds of things! I can't add any more than what she's already said.

Sending calming and healing light to you and your family. Be well. :hug:

[BlueIris]

7. Just wanted to add that your instinct to get your daughter (back) to an actual doctor is good.

A qualified psychiatrist can help her find the right med combo for her, and she would probably benefit from some behavioral (as well as other kinds of) therapy, too. Strategies that will help her deal with her low self-worth, fears of success, anger problems and chemical imbalances are all in order, I think.

And I hope you and your husband are able to get therapy, too. Helping her deal with her issues on top of your own is probably taking its toll.

[rumpel]

8. Light & love to your daughter

you and your husband.

May the problems resolve and create something better for all of you.

[Callie McAllie]

9. While you're doing so much to take care of them

be sure to take some time to take care of yourself, too. Situations like this are so very draining emotionally. Hope things will calm down for you soon.

[Celebration]

10. hopefully your daughter is home now

Once my daughter drove seven and a half hours straight home from school and then flew crying in my arms. It was some boyfriend deal. I tried to be sympathetic but I was really upset that she drove in that condition. Anyway, I hear ya on that one.

Fast forward--this is the daughter who has had so much benefit from energetic healing techniques. She has gone to couple who do combination reiki and counseling. She has taken reiki courses now and uses it all the time. She is not on any medication except for a tiny amount of thyroid medication. Thankfully, she has someone to prescribe that.

I'm sorry about your husband. Some jobs are probably intolerable, but it sure is a tough time to be looking for a new job.

I hope you feel some relief when your daughter arrives home.

Yes, I am sending healing energy your way. Please take time for yourself to do some fun things, and laugh.

[Brewman_Jax]

11. I'm sorry to hear

good thoughts to you from me and the cat.

[villager]

14. Many of us need those vibes, and here's an extra helping heading your way...!

;-)

[rosesaylavee]

15. My dear LE

I wish I could give you a hug in person... being strong for both your daughter and husband is such a tough position to be in. Sending much light and love your way.

:hug:

[midnight]

16. LiberalEsto this is alot of stuff to adjust to. I will be sending

your family some good energy to walk this path that seems to be opening up for the three of you.

[saracat]

17. Love and light to you all! I pray she is safe and that you will

all be safe and successful.