The value of cussing

[I Have A Dream]

I thought that what's discussed in the video at the link below was a really interesting idea. (Thanks to Proud_Lefty for sending it to me.)

I'm not sure how long this particular video will be the featured video at this link, so if the poster posts another one, this particular video might have its own specific link rather than continuing to be featured here.)

http://www.youtube.com/jelaila9

I have to agree with Jelaila on this; there's nothing like cussing for me personally to get negative emotions out of my body. :D   (That being said, there are certain words that I consider vulgar which I never say. To me at least, they have a different energy than the others.)


I don't know anything at all about this woman, but it looks as though there are some other really interesting videos at the link as well.

[lisa58]

1. I believe it's the honest reaction to the pain that contributes to the endurance...

...any time you try to endure something for the sake of (fill in the blank) you're not being honest and then it gets complicated and harder to unravel when you eventually have to release it.

[get the red out]

2. I love that, thank you!

Any time I burn myself in the kitchen I am much better off if I just let loose a string of cussing than if I try to be a "good girl" and hold it all in. Your statement explains why this is helpful to me.

When I bottle up pain or emotion to look good, I become far sicker than if I let it out. I am really not fooling myself or the Universe anyway. We all have pain, better it not become something chronic and hidden.

[OneGrassRoot]

3. I couldn't agree more. :)

IHAD wrote: "...there's nothing like cussing for me personally to get negative emotions out of my body."

I should have NO negative emotions within this physical vessel; when I feel any negativity, I'll up the ante on my daily profanity.

:evilgrin:

[northernlights]

4. I happy to read this

I was afraid that cussing was sending negative thoughts out in to the world.

At what point are we sending negative energy out to the universe? At what point are we releasing it from our bodies?

My meltdown the other day was a case in point. I was pacing around and screaming at ghosts from my past. One ghost in particular, was a memory of particularly viscious abuse from when I was 6 that has refused to heal. Richochet brought it up -- that was when Saturn crossed my sun.

I have dealt with this particular incident in therapy, I have dealt with it through meditation. Ms. Beeyotch Lady last week kicked this memory back to life, and I used toltec recapitulation to breath "love" into the little girl who was receiving the abuse. And then after consultation with Rick, I meditated on how the incident change me, my perception of the world, my perception of myself.

And just when I thought this memory had reached healing, it resurfaced in my meltdown. Only this was a totally diffent -- this time I was in screaming rage. I was screaming cussing rage at my mother...and then I was the rage. I was the little girl and my mother and the rage itself for one particularly intense instant. I was the entire thing.

I was worried after my meltdown that I sent a lot of negativity out to the universe. I'm wondering now if instead I managed to burn up those incidents once and for all. Just burned the incidents themselves to a crisp, and sent their ashes into the universe?

[I Have A Dream]

5. Here's my take on this, northernlights.

I think that it would do more harm in your body than it would do out of your body. In your body, you have the ability to take action based upon the effects that the held emotion might have on you. (You have arms & legs and a will to easily act on this negativity in you if the negativity overwhelmed you.) Therefore, it's my opinion that it's much better out there than in you.

Secondly, I think that it all depends upon the intent that you had while you were doing it. If you were imagining yourself viciously beating your mother while you were doing it, maybe it would have a net negative effect. However, if that rage was allowing you to visualize yourself taking care of that little girl who was so horribly abused, I think that would add good energy into the world because real healing was occurring.

By the way, it's my understanding that the earth is very easily able to transmute negative energy into neutral energy and is very willing to do it. Therefore, if it helps, you can always visualize throwing your rage down through the center of the earth with whatever force you want. There would be no negative effects from having done so.

Again, this is just my take.

I'm so sorry that you were so horribly hurt in the past. You need to do everything that you can to heal that little girl and make her aware that she's an awesome being of light and love who deserves all that is good in the Universe!

:loveya:

[northernlights]

7. thank you IHAD

I was definitely defending the little girl. And then I simply *was* the energy; an incendiary burning rage. Very wierd moment....

I will try to remember that about the earth...sending the energy down into the earth. It can burn away to its heart content in the core, I guess ;)

:hug:

[I Have A Dream]

8. It sounds like a very healthy thing actually!

For too long, you were not allowed your voice. You've finally given yourself permission to no longer be the "good little girl" who has to cower in the corner. I think that rebelling against the way you were treated is absolutely required for you to move forward. They can't hurt you anymore. By the way, what happened to you was about them -- not you. You were an innocent victim. Don't ever forget that.

I think that what you just went through was an intense healing experience; it was not negative. You can't heal if you deny your feelings. Having feelings is never bad; it's what you do with them that matters. You stood up for the child that you were and still are inside. That's always a good thing. :)

[get the red out]

6. Negativity

I can't dwell much on how I might pour "negative energy" into the Universe. To me that is so frightening that I start obsessing on nothing but, and start wondering if I am such a bad person perhaps I should just die so I don't create any negativity and bad Karma, seriously, I obsess just too much for the concept. It is a vicious loop for me. When I focus on my negatives in fear of them they just get stronger. But that's just me and I'm more than slightly nuts.

For me (and I can only speak for what aids my own piece of mind), negativity requires intent all the way down to the soul level, actual intention to do wrong, not just anger or rage that needs to be released. I have to face that it is there whether I play good and deny it or not, it just gets worse and takes out its vengeance on me physically when I go into denial about it.

People like Dick Cheney, George Bush, greedy bankers, "religious" leaders that steel the money from their followers and promote hate, murderers, thieves, people who are intolerant and racist; those are the people adding real negativity to the world. IMO

The best I can do to keep from driving myself nuts is to try to focus on being the kind of person I want to be and try to deal with my inevitable anger as it comes along. We all get it, part of being human. We need to see it and give ourselves the opportunity to heal.

I hope I didn't offend anyone. I have to look at things a little unorthodoxly because I am not all there, LOL! :silly:

[conscious evolution]

9. negative is just as much a part

of reality as positive energy.
Sometimes we have to embrace it to see the light.

[BanzaiBonnie]

15. There is such a thing as righteous anger

[I Have A Dream]

16. Absolutely. nt

[Grateful for Hope]

10. Interesting, Dream.

My husband was the "king of cuss", and, when I married him, I had never uttered a cuss word. After being with him for a while, I started to emulate him, and, I found it to be very liberating.

Alas, with cussing not being PC, I can't do it at work, and, I can't do it around the grandbabies (BTW, I have a new little grandbaby -- born about a month early on June 19. Her name is Samantha Hope), so I have pretty much stopped it.

But, there are those times when I can't seem to help myself, LOL!

:hi:

[I Have A Dream]

11. Congratulations on your new granddaughter, Hope!

I agree that there's an appropriate time and place to use such words.

In appropriate situations though, sometimes cussing works like nothing else to quickly and easily let off steam to allow us to get back into balance. :D

:hi:

[Grateful for Hope]

12. You are so right, Dream!

Just wanted to speak of Samantha a little. She is 1/2 Asian and 1/2 Caucasian. Surprisingly, she looks just like my son (for now -- babies do change so much as they get older). But, her eyes are a mixture of both races -- it seems that my DDL's mother thinks that her eyes are my son's, and I see her eyes as being my DDL's. I think the reality is in the middle.

She is a tiny, beautiful little girl. She just now reached 7 lbs -- and, she is over a month old. Ironically, she probably takes after my family -- I am 4'11", my son Jody is 5'4", and, Connie, Samantha's Mom, is 5'4" -- much taller than myself and my daughters.

All I know is that this new little girl is amazing.

:loveya:

[I Have A Dream]

13. Have you seen her natal chart yet, Hope?

If not, I'd be happy to make it for you if you aren't able to do it yourself. If you'd like me to do it, please PM me the date, time, and location of birth. I think that I remember doing this for one of your other grandchildren -- or at least someone in the group did.

I'm sure that Samantha is awesome! :)

[Grateful for Hope]

18. Thank you, Dream!

I apologize that I didn't see this until now. Stella (bless her heart) did it for Isabelle -- who is now 22 mos (they grow so fast!).

I will get the exact time of birth from my son, and, I will PM with the info.

Thank you so much!!

:hug:

[OneGrassRoot]

17. Liberating....

that's how I've always described my potty mouth. :)

Samantha Hope...what a beauuuuuutiful name!!!

Congratulations to all! :hi:

[MagickMuffin]

14. Yep,

I've been cussing since a teenager :blush:

I find a lot of emotional tension released by doing so. And I don't discriminate on which words I use, as you might have witnessed on DU, again :blush:


I used to decide which cuss words stood for @#%@*%#@!

[Fire Walk With Me]

19. In California, we do not cuss.

We pretend that we have no negative energy at all, and deal harshly with anyone showing what we pretend to not have. See the recursive/nesting hypocrisy? :)

Seriously, people here freak when I'm emotionally honest. They =cannot= separate legitimate fuming from personal threat. They do not perceive the value of a good, therapeutic "FU!"

I suppose that they welcome stress...

(slaps forehead)

[I Have A Dream]

20. I really try not to direct it at anyone when I let myself go. However...

my poor husband is the exception sometimes even though I'm not proud of it. Luckily, he handles it pretty well. I'm a hypocrite though; I can give it but can't take it. The rare times when he's done the same to me, I haven't been understanding at all. :blush: This is something that I'm not proud of in reference to myself. :(

Sorry that you feel that you can't let yourself go, FWWM. Maybe in the privacy of your own room? :hug:

[Fire Walk With Me]

21. "Sorry that you feel that you can't let yourself go, FWWM."

Sadly, it's not only or specifically about extremes. Some folks cannot hear =anything= negative, and you have to let them go if you're working through such.

Still looking for "my" people...

I know how you feel, IHAD. I cannot "take it" either, one bit. Way too sensitive. Which led to massed pain, which led to resentment and a short fuse, which led to people who laugh at someone with such an easy short fuse...so give yourself room to vent/heal, always! Thankfully, with the new energy, it's far, far easier to let go without causing a scene. I hope that you experience it as well! (Hugs to Metta :D)

[get the red out]

22. Boy do I get what you said!

I have "fumed" over stuff to get it out and had people run from me. It is like they were afraid to see emotion. I literally had a friend running from me one time when I saw a man who had left his wife (who is a friend of mine) and their two little girls, walk into the room with some young thing on his arm. I fumed about what a louse he was and my friend almost jumped away from me because I was "judging" him and taking sides and such and was so un-spiritual in front of other people. I'm a rather direct, appalachian woman, no southern belle, and it is a heck of a lot better for me to fume to a female friend for five minutes over something like that then to end up angrily fuming in my head for the rest of the day. But you can scare people who believe in looking "spiritual" and stuffing it all when you show your human side. I have to work through this stuff because just putting on appearances won't get me anywhere.