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Edited on Mon Feb-13-06 05:17 AM by BlueIris
People who still vote Republican in this day and age have major issues. I have no idea why you continue to make excuses for his unacceptable beliefs, and I think you are unwise to feel safe with him in any social scenario. I really hope that nothing bad happens to you.
Some advice? Since you are clearly a person with an open mind who tries to see the best in others--watch out for the way that this tendency to be "open" and "fair" may have you overlooking negative and dangerous behaviors in this potential partner. My relationship with a Republican sympathizer (who wasn't even a voting Republican) started out seemingly wonderful and ended up in a life-shredding implosion of abuse and hatred that I haven't yet recovered from. Again, I would encourage you to find out just what "pro-choice" means as a concept in the eyes of your new S.O. Yeah, sure, he might not try to physically stop you from exercising your right to choose, but is he one of those creeps who thinks women who do so are worthless and not deserving of anyone's love or respect? That's what "pro-choice" meant for my ex, who was as stone-cold misogynist as they come, and successfully convinced me otherwise for more than one year (usually by making "all the right moves" after uncomfortable conversations). What does "pro-gay rights" mean to your S.O., really? For my ex, it meant affecting support for all non-heterosexuals and threatening violence against bigots in overcompensation for his own self-hatred at the way he repressed his gay identity. How does your new beau feel about the war, truly? People from other countries? The poor? Let's say he continues to give you answers you can live with, that don't make you think he's a total asshole. How do you reconcile that with his decision to support a party actively taking steps to obstruct privacy rights, the rights of gay citizens, kill innocents in Iraq and eliminate all means of governmental support for the poor (including seniors)? How does that not make him a liar and a hypocrite in your opinion?
My ex isn't your guy and my situation wasn't what you believe yours to be--but my story is very common. Ask around on this board about whether others (especially women) who have dated Republicans, think what you're doing is safe for you. Some of the explanations I can think of for why someone who claims to dislike what Republicans do would still consider himself a Republican...don't make that person a total asshole. But the reasons I can come up with? Don't make that individual a good person either. Best case scenario? He's a Patriarchal apologist who feels too scared to say "no" to the ideologies Daddy raised him with and stop supporting misogyny, bigotry, xenophobia and class warfare with Republican votes. At worst--you're not with a person who is emotionally or physically safe for you to be with.
Don't worry, after this, I won't post anything more to you about this matter. Adults have right to make their own mistakes. I only want to communicate one more thing, though: I'm vaguely psychic, especially when it comes to the lives and activities of people in this forum, whom I care about, despite our differences of opinion on many issues. I was just wondering earlier whether anything new had happened with you and this individual and praying that it hadn't. And look, here's your thread. I'm getting a bad feeling, here. Please be on the lookout for things that don't feel safe in this situation. Please take care of yourself.
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