Which relationship is better? (GWOT/Iraq analogy)

[The Witch]

This occurred to me last night.

Say you have two friends who are both dating total creeps in your opinion. You don't have any evidence per se... they just rub you the wrong way.

Finally, you say to one of your friends that you think the guy is wrong for her.
Her response is to burst into tears: "How dare you say that!? You jerk! Whose side are you on anyway!? Do you hate me or something?"

Undeterred, you say the same to your other friend. She responds differently: "I'm sorry you feel that way, thanks for sharing your concerns. I really think you're mistaken, though, and I don't think that anything you say is going to change my mind on that."

Which relationship is stronger?

And which attitude toward dissent makes for a more convincing argument that the war on terror/war in Iraq is going well?

If we were truly winning this war, no amount of dissent or rhetoric would change that fact.

[aclog]

1. I would prefer the first response

because its coming from a very emotionally invested position and now that you've planted the seed of doubt, she will probably be more conscious of it, which was your intention all along

The second is...condescending isn't the exact right term, but its a start