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11 Bravo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:29 AM
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Would gay marriage threaten your relationship?
If commited and loving gay couples are permitted to marry, and my wife starts wearing boots and flannel shirts, I start whistling show tunes, and my 9 and 13 year old sons begin fellating each other in our front yard, surely that doesn't say anything about MY family. Nope, it would have to be the fault of those damned gays. Aarrrghh!
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Nickster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:30 AM
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1. LoL, those gays sure are a nefarious bunch.:-)
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TheFarseer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:32 AM
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2. Yes
I would dump my girlfriend, urge my parents to divorce and take a vow of chastity. I mean, if gays can get married, what's the point anymore? :sarcasm:
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:33 AM
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3. From my experience, most gays don't want to be in relationships.
Edited on Thu May-25-06 11:33 AM by HypnoToad
Those who do have standards so ridiculously high that they are not relationship-worthy. The few who do get into them ultimately break up; again, they find out their partner isn't "good enough" so "toodles to them" to find someone else who, in short term, appears perfect... the cycle continues, as it does with heteros, except many gays just prefer living fancy free and there are many reasons for that.




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karlrschneider Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:35 AM
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6. You forgot the sarcasm tag.
:eyes:
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Name removed Donating Member (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:36 AM
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LostinVA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:41 AM
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11. Ugh -- what an appalling statement
Right out of the RW playbook. Seriously. I can't believe you wrote such a nasty thing -- everyone I know who's gay -- including me -- are in relationships, most long-term, and we would love to be able to make it "legal."

"Prefer living fancy free." No matter your orientation, this is really, really similar to what rabid homophobes have written and said.

Just ugh.
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ayeshahaqqiqa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:55 AM
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14. I have known homosexuals all my life
even back in the days when they were called "mentally ill" by the establishment (talking about the '50s here). Some have been partners for years; others go from partner to partner; others have stayed in a relationship for some years before breaking up. Hmmmm....sounds very much like a lot of heterosexuals I know.

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libnnc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:30 PM
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20. You're kidding, right?
I've been in a relationship going on 14 years now. All of my friends are in long-term relationships. I work for two women who have been together for over 8 years and have a very successful business.

Your "experience" is pretty whacked IMHO.
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Hard_Work Donating Member (283 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:36 PM
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22. U Serious?
Sometimes I can't tell jokes from reality, especially now I'm trying to break the coffee habit.

Anyway, I work with a gay guy who has been in the same relationship for 23 years. Faithfully. I know several gay couples who have been together for longer than my wife and me.
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im10ashus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:46 PM
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24. OMG!
Where in hell did you get this information? I can't believe that you, HypnoToad would be so short-sighted. It's like reading a line from the RW playbook.

Let me start here: My partner and I have been together for 9 years as of June 17th. I have 5 siblings. All were married. All are divorced. My relationship has lasted longer than any of their marriages. I have a LOT of gay friends too. All of them, save one, is in a relationship. And the only reason the one friend is NOT in a relationship is because he just broke up with someone after 4 years. After his boyfriend punched him. So you see how ludicrous your post is? You made a blanket statement that you apply to gays and lesbians. That's very democratic of you.

:rant:
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BeeBee Donating Member (480 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:47 PM
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25. I'm hoping that was supposed to be sarcasm.
My partner and I will be celebrating our 15 year anniversary in September.
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foreigncorrespondent Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 07:01 PM
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31. Oh boy!
Funny. I know more heterosexual people in this world that have set their standards so high that they will never be in another relationship again. The majority of queers I know, are either in solid long term relationships, or just to busy with life in general (work etc) to actually be in a relationship right now.
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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:34 AM
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4. And you'll be falling right into our eeville hands!!!
We're gonna take over your home and rearrange the furniture!

BWAH-HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
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Nickster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:36 AM
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7. Hey, that might not actually be a bad idea....hmmmmmm ;-)
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:38 PM
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23. If you'll cook a great meal too, come on over. n/t
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kenny blankenship Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:35 AM
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5. Yes. I'd live in terror
any one of a number of guys will pop the question. That would screw up a beautiful circle of trust.
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queenbdem87 Donating Member (233 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:40 AM
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9. I'm gay and I want to ruin your marriage....
Thats kinda what I do between pilates and the gay bar.
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msanthrope Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:41 AM
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10. I know that the day gay marriage becomes legal....
my husband is gonna cast off the oppression of the heterosexual lifestyle and decide that high heels and feather boas are what he's been missing......he's gonna leave me and his daughter, and fall into a life of sin and debauchery. Therefore, in order to keep my hetero marriage from collapsing, we must keep gay marriage illegal.

(Snark. I'm pretty sure he's straight. Really.)
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Saphire Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:42 AM
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12. ya know, my sister is lesbian and her 30 year "marraige" hasn't
hurt me yet. When is it going to affect my 15 year marraige????
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katty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:56 AM
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15. my sis as well, they're a great couple, close to my parents/family
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ayeshahaqqiqa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:51 AM
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13. none have so far
I have gay brothers and sisters in my Sufi Order, and they are are kind and helpful. If they wish to marry, they have my blessing, for it won't effect the relationship I have with my husband.
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Ron Green Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 11:58 AM
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16. Only if it were my own. n/t
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noonwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:00 PM
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17. As I don't have a current relationship....
Even if I did, I doubt gay marriage would affect it. My church is gay friendly and the clergy would perform gay marriages if the state allowed it. They do "commitment" ceremonies.

But those gays have been getting out of paying the marriage tax for too long! It has to end somewhere!

As a foster care worker, gay marriage would be a wonderful thing for a lot of kids. They would get the security of being adopted by both the parents in the situation instead of only one (that's how Michigan allows "gay adoptions"-they let one person adopt the child).
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xchrom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:27 PM
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18. if you want your marriage ruined by ''the gays'' -- you're gonna have
to make an appointment.

as is obvious by this thread -- we have a number of straights waiting to come FLYING out of their marriages when gay marriage becomes legal.

however the lgbtq central commitee has limited numbers of ''the gays'' to actually come by your house and do the deed.

please be patient and allow at leat four to six weeks for ''the gay'' to show up at your house and begin to teach your husband how to apply makeup and your wife how to wear combat boots.
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area51 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 07:11 PM
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32. "make an appt."
LOL.


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SunDrop23 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:28 PM
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19. Gay marriage is no more a threat than hetero marriage.
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Nickster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:49 PM
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26. Let me tell ya, hetero marriage is pretty darn scary! LoL n/t
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zalinda Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:35 PM
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21. Hey, that can't threaten my relationship
because no one wants a relationship with a woman pushing 60, so I don't have one.

zalinda
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LibertyLover Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:52 PM
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27. OOh I can answer that - pick me.
The answer is 42. Ooops, wrong answer. Uh, let me try again, um, hydrogen and oxygen. Oh, wrong again. How about, um, Julius Caesar. No? OK - here's my final answer: It will only improve it because when commited and loving gay couples are allowed to marry legally, my husband won't have to listen to me kvetch about what an injustice it is every time I come home from visiting friends of mine who are gay and would like to be legally married.
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Jed Dilligan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:52 PM
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28. Yes, absolutely
The day gay marriage is legalized we will have to go to so many of our friends' weddings that we might get bored to death.
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:52 PM
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29. But seriously folks,
the only people who can threaten a relationship or a marriage are the ones in it.
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One_Life_To_Give Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu May-25-06 12:58 PM
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30. Absolutly
It would unleash untold chaos!
Having to put together a Wedding for my SIL. When you can't use the same dresses as the commitment ceremony. And would need a different location, singer, menu. The horror, why would you put me thru this? :cry:




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