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before ya flame me, at least read it all ok ;)
Gays are my Heroes By The Straight Story
It seems so many televangelists fall prey to sex and then lie about it.
But then, they are not the only ones ya know. Avg Joe and Jane six pack do it all the time to (ie preach about not cheating on someone and then go and do it).
I think it all plays into the fear of animal instinct and humans wanting to hold back the urges. You get married, or in a committed relationship, and you don't want to hurt the other person. Things were going along fine and then bam, one person decides sex is not something they want a lot with you (for whatever reason) and your level did not change. Or maybe you wanted to explore and they didn't.
And maybe, just maybe and I am making a damned big leap here, that is why some gay folks seem pretty damned content. They are more comfortable with their sexuality then others. Now WHY the hell would I make such a statement? Allow me to explain my exposure to things before you flame me :)
I have quite a few gay friends, whom I am very close to, and most of them (except 2 out of the six) have had sex with from 100 to 5000 different people. And they make no bones about it - real simple to em, they enjoy sex and are open about it. Note of course I have some straight friends as well with partners in the 100's, but only a few (3, in the male category).
Which makes me wonder if men, straight ones, have a harder time finding someone for some fun. But perhaps I digress (or do I, are men less emotional about sex and therefore more likely to do it for purely physical reasons? Obviously, there are exceptions to any rules here).
THEN we got the rw'ers. They want the sex, but boxed themselves in with lots of rules. Cant have sex with a man, can only have your one partner, no sex unless in a committed relationship, etc and so on.
This brings me to Haggard and others. You want something, you rail against it to others, but desire it yourself. You supress your own desires and tell others how evil it is. Then you go an do it, like it, but still rail against it to 'save' others from the fun you are having.
The Gay men I know are consistent, and don't have to walk around living a lie (thanks to the hard work of liberals mind you, and there is still a lot of progress to be made).
And yet, here comes people who condemn the many sex partners, etc - WELL FUCKING HELLO PEOPLE why the hell are you then against gay marriage???
So why this big freakin hangup when it comes to sex, especially with straight men (which is why I focused a little more on gay men)?
FULL DISCLOSURE about ME: I have had sex with two men in my life. And 3 women. One woman I was married to, one I was wanting to marry, and the other one is my wife, AutumnMist.
I will tell you this: Not much sex these days, and not because we don't both like it. Mainly her parkinson's and then my off and on depression. But I don't think about cheating on her - I love sex but I love her more.
I have done everything from bdsm to 'normal' sex. And I kept my desires bottled up in first marriage as wife would not even give me oral as she felt it was dirty (though she liked it when I did for her). And that to ME is the key. Bottling up and hiding our desires and living a lie.
Gay people are my heroes in some ways - they stood up for what they desired, instead of burying it to please a bunch of assholes.
You stared down a society of hatefilled people and along with your liberal friends you fought for your rights.
And let us not forget our female friends (whom I love dearly) who so often get called a slut or a whore for doing what comes natural to humans, sex. Damned sad such labels are there to demean the acts of willing people.
You want to live by god's rules as you interpret them, fine with me. Just stop trying to make others do it to.
APOLOGY: If I offend any of my fellow liberals it was not intentional. I know I left some things out here, and I am hoping in no way did I play into the 'gay stereotype' and sex (I damn well know they can be just as committed as any straight people, and maybe more so as they are more open about their lives).
I don't really care that Haggard had sex with a man, I do care that he and others like him live a lie and are just ticking time bombs who will eventually ruin their own lives and the lives of their children and spouses by hiding behind a message of hate.
You are who you are. Don't make others suffer because you won't be true to your heart and how god made you. Keep the lies going long enough and eventually you will hurt all those around you.
Be loud, be proud, be true.
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