POLL: Can you imagine being in LOVE with a Republican?

[RiverStone]

I had a fun talk with friends the other day about what qualities REALLY matter when considering our ideal romantic/life partner for a long term relationship (LTR). For myself anyway, sharing the same liberal leaning political beliefs has been one of those "non-negotiable" musts. So many values that I'm passionate about are the antithesis of what Republicans believe. In short, I have never been and can't imagine ever being in a LTR with a Repug woman. Now we're talking about love here, not just a few dates. And yes, my girlfriend is VERY BLUE.

Of course, not all agreed and a few suggested that LOVE could transcend politics. Who can presume anything about the mysterious ways of love? Though, a majority felt that even getting beyond the initial dating stage would be unlikely if he/she self identified as a rethug.

:kick: :loveya: :kick:

QUESTION: Can you imagine yourself in a long term relationship with a Republican?

[Ninga]

1. Never gonna do it. Its a values thing. n/t

[EvolveOrConvolve]

2. My wife is a diehard Dem

but some of my best friends are Republicans. We get along well, and have great political conversations.

I will admit, though: a liberal women is far sexier than a conservative woman.

[evilgenius602]

3. Mmmmmmm, Jean Schmidt......

[dchill]

8. Yeah, she trips my trigger...

then, having been tripped, it falls down. :)

[evilgenius602]

13. or better yet Katherine Harris...

This almost begs a second thread. Who would be the most physicallly revolting republican to be in a relationship with?

[dchill]

17. Mean Jean or Cruella...

Sorry - I can't get there from here.
:)

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

4. Absolutely.

I can't say I've ever actually tried this, and given my current situation, it looks like I never will. However, politics should always come second to personal relationships. There is NO good reason you can't be friends or lovers with someone that doesn't agree with you. Anyone that says "no" needs to look at those values they're citing and give them a big reality check.

[EvolveOrConvolve]

10. Agreed

Someone who puts politics over interpersonal relationships is a partisan. Look what Republican partisanship gave us: Tom Delay and K Street, Jack Abramoff, the Terry Schiavo bullshit. The list could go on and on, but when someone puts party politics over common sense they've got a problem.

[dchill]

15. Don't NOT knock it...

until you've tried it. Republicans are too authoritarian, selfish, and easily swayed by fear for my taste.

:)

[omega minimo]

16. What about living by "those values they're citing" and resulting in/compatibility?

:hi:

[DemocraticBassPlayer]

25. Agreed

Agreed,,,I am in this so called "Red-Blue" relationship...and it's fabulous...our mutual relationship "transends" all else

And besides,,,,,she is hott...I mean real hott

[porphyrian]

5. It couldn't happen - too many core beliefs in the way. - n/t

[GreenPartyVoter]

6. Hubby and I were barely 15 when we got together and I was still ascairt of Hell

things have changed since then and we have grown further apart on religious and political issues. But we have a long history together. I mean it might be easier to be married to someone who is more alike to me, but it's a moot point since i have no plans to leave my guy.

Question: How do Dem/Geen marriages work out? Has to be some friction there I bet.

[etherealtruth]

7. A republican ...

Yes ... I was married to one. I've dated more than a few (I have no idea why, but I attract them).

An extreme right winger, a neocon, a religiously insane repub ---------- NO

[badgerpup]

9. Other...

Was once, but it wasn't the politics that ended it. :shrug:

Probably contributed though...Republicans FOR THE MOST PART do tend to have a very rigid mindset that doesn't allow for any other viewpoint.

Qualifier because there are some born-again Democrats here who USED to be Republican :hi::toast:

[AlienGirl]

11. They wouldn't be Republican for long...(I've catalyzed tougher changes!)

[yella_dawg]

12. Tried it. Didn't work.

When it came out that she was a raging bigot (race, religion, etc.)I choked and just couldn't get over it. There was more to the breakup, but the bigot thing really got to me.

[XOKCowboy]

26. Same Here. Some Repug beliefs just can't be tolerated...

Even if it's not blatant racism it's the racism of some of their policies. After a few times of trying to get her to back up her "talking points" with facts and her getting defensive it just got intolerable. We tried just not mentioning politics but that's not possible for me.

[cadmium]

14. I voted no but

I can picture a younger version of myself thinking that I could convert a good-hearted Republican woman. At this point if someone is still admits to being a Republican something is wrong with them

[Bok_Tukalo]

18. The more interesting question

... is can you choose who you fall in love with.

I don't think you can.

[Lone_Star_Dem]

19. Not my thing really

I hear some people are "into" that sort of thing, but it just doesn't float my boat.

Okay, that was said in humor, but really I need to be able to connect on a deeper level with a long term mate. I have friends who are from all political beliefs, and that's how it should be, but for a long term one on one I want someone whose heart is more like mine.

Don't most adults look for someone they can relate to, and who shares their interest in life when choosing a long term mate? Wouldn't that naturally lead us in a direction toward others of a more progressive mind? I'm not talking about just getting naked together, that's a whole different thing, but really being on the same page on most of your life issues.

[RiverStone]

23. Agreed. Well said.

Yea, can't recall the naked thing ever being politically driven.

But the heart thing, finding a heart like mine (as you said), now that has staying power and endurance over time.

[in_cog_ni_to]

20. Hell no. I wouldn't even date one.

Being a repuke is a deal breaker. No way in hell could I ever live with a one. They represent everything I hate.

[Phillycat]

21. So many of the Republican beliefs are anti-woman

that I can't imagine my partner could be respectful or a feminist if he was a Republican.

Luckily, I don't have to worry about that.

[arewenotdemo]

37. What if it was Lincoln Chafee?

[cynatnite]

22. I almost said no...

those brand of republicans like Gingrich, Frist and Bush...hell no. But there are old school republicans who believe in small government, being fiscally responsible and other issues that are no where near what we see today.

So, I would agree yes, it's possible.

[Jacklyn75]

24. Yes, I can and did...

When I met my husband he was a so called Reagan Republican, however before I married him - he went BLUE and has been ever since! haha! We had more than a few heated conversations and he couldn't win an argument with me, so he gave in and saw the light! Our daughter still picks on him for voting for Reagan the first time. He's more Dem than I am now!

[LanternWaste]

27. For myself

For myself, I think I'd be forced to consider myself intolerant (at best) if I stated any one thing was a deal breaker in the course of a relationship.

Many of my fellow parishioners will only go out with Christians. I consider them simpletons (at best) in that respect. And since God, my faith and my church are the single, most defining aspects of who I am, I'd be a hypocrite to deny a relationship for one particular thing or philosophy.

Indeed, my most recent LTR was with a republican and we had a blast together. Only reason we stopped going out was that her job transferred her out of state, otherwise we'd still be going out and laughing at bone-heads on both the Left and the right.

Edited for: speeling... speling.... uh, getting the words right.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

28. I was, once, years ago.

He was an old-school Republican, not a fundie-authoritarian loon like most of the current crop, but he was a terrible snob of the George Will/William F. Buckley ilk who liked Margaret Thatcher. He also turned out to be a duplicitous fuckwad; he dumped me unceremoniously after commencing a "thing" with another woman. I have no idea what I was thinking...

[bobbolink]

29. Shared values is one of the most important aspects of a relationship.

No way could I "compromise" my values that severely.

"Not for love or money", as my dad used to say.

[WilliamPitt]

30. My grandmother was

For the better part of 70 years and until the day she died.

So.

[Megahurtz]

31. I gave that one a Hearty HELL NO! n/t

[Leftist78]

32. so far...

My relationships have been mostly with the apolitical set including an ill-advised 3 year marriage to a woman whose eyes would glaze over at the mention of any topic larger than what went on at work that day. oh well, live and learn. My current girlfriend lines up pretty well with me on things it's a nice way to live.

[slackmaster]

33. My last GF was a Republican fundamentalist Christian welfare mom

She has a chronic problem with making bad decisions, but it was fun while it lasted.

:crazy:

[Jack Rabbit]

34. My mother was a registered Republican

Of course, there's a sotry behind that.

[Alamom]

35. No. n/t

[nancyr]

36. I did.

I fell in love with a Republican...and it reached the point where we could not discuss anything remotely important because we violently disagreed on everything. He has since died(no, I didn't kill him)...and I would never even SEE a Republican at this point in my life. The 10 years we spent together aged me a good 20. I miss him terribly...but I don't miss the political hostilities. The next man in my life will have to be a liberal. No substitutes.

[tpsbmam]

38. I need another category.......

Yes, I'd marry a Republican like Lincoln Chafee. Would I marry a Bush supporter? Hell no!

[Little Star]

39. One of my four

grown and married daughters turned. I have all I can do to shut my mouth when she expresses her politics! I do it because I love her and my two beautiful grandchildren. My other girls also have a hard time with her politics that come from her spouses side. I could never imagine being married to someone with such different values than myself.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

40. I have several guy friends who are republicans...

And there is one who I would probably hook up with if anything ever happened to my husband. Love knows no bounds.
Duckie

[Raine]

41. NO...it's a RESPECT thing for me

I can't love or be with someone I have no respect for and I basically have no respect for rethugs...so there you have it.

[everythingsxen]

42. Just think about the make-up sex

:evilgrin:

[HughMoran]

43. Not really

I can't really imagine such a situation - too much friction.

[judaspriestess]

44. Hell NO

I used to really like someone who was a repuke and a cop. We got along great but long term no way.