Circumcised male DUers: Do you feel like you've been "mutilated?"

[Redstone]

I certainly don't. Nor do my brothers or sons.

Funny how it seems like it's always women (whose business this isn't) who use that "mutilation" word regarding circumcision. I've never heard a guy say it.

Redstone

[WI_DEM]

1. Nope

[HughMoran]

2. ruh?

ruby doo!

[MrCoffee]

3. nope

but i'm probably just repressing the trauma or compartmentalizing the shock which is manifesting itself in other self-destructive tendencies.

or something.

[SaveOurDemocracy]

27. LOL Mr. Coffee

Have a :donut::hi:

[eyesroll]

4. I'm staying out of this fight, but a man at my undergrad school once wrote an

ode to his (missing) foreskin that probably used language similar to yours.

He was, apparently, quite serious.

[MissB]

5. .

You know, there really *are* certain things I don't need to know about fellow DUers.

This would be one of them. :rofl:

[madokie]

6. correct me if I'm wrong here but I still remember when I was, ahem, cough

it wasn't much fun then I'll tell you that

[AndyA]

7. I think of it in the same way I do navels.

Some are innies, some are outies.

[Phredicles]

8. I have no memory of having the part that's been removed,

so this seems completely normal.

Now, with regard to female circumcision, that's a vicious, hideous business, and a term like "mutilation" is well justified. I'm guessing that's where this terminology comes from.

[MrCoffee]

10. it comes from a flamewar in the Lounge, of all places.

[Tyo]

44. It was blazing until the mods shut it down

and it was fascinating although I had to back off cuz the heat was too much for me.

I am uncut so I am not able to address the question posed in this thread.

[Redstone]

25. You may very well be right. "Female circumcision" is genuinely hideous, and barbaric.

Redstone

[HiFructosePronSyrup]

9. I don't.

But I can respect another guy's opinion if he feels the other way.

[KingFlorez]

11. No

[RedEarth]

12. Sure don't

I am wondering if I should break out the popcorn on this thread...Just in case, I think I will.

:popcorn:

[Uncle Joe]

13. I believe our circumcisions do not remove the penis,

except in the case of John Bobbit. The female circumcision as I understand it remove the clitoris, this is the primary organ along with the brain giving them sexual pleasure.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

14. i know a lot of men and they are generally comfortable discussing everything with me

but i have also never heard this.

[ScreamingMeemie]

15. I'm sorry to say that I put my son through hell as an infant.

Botched circumsion. Horrific experiences of pediatrician attempting to pull back and break (I cringe) the adhesion. I would never ever put a baby boy of mine through that again. My rationalization (although well meaning) was wrong and now he looks neither like his father nor his friends. If it wasn't my business they shouldn't have asked me. And my husband calls it mutilation (in light of our son) all the time now.

[Midlodemocrat]

17. Oh, Mrs. G. I'm so sorry.

My dad was circumsized at 21 in Korea. He had had repeated kidney and urinary tract infections from babyhood and when one of the surgeons recommended it over there due to the *sometimes* erratic flow of antibiotics, he willingly had it done.

He always said it saved him from a lifetime of sickness.

[ScreamingMeemie]

28. Thanks Midlo...

If I could only go back. For those who would say it didn't traumatize my son and that he was too young to suffer repercussions...well they didn't have to change his diaper, they didn't have to hold him while he screamed at any visit to a doctor until he was four. I could go on but I don't want to embarass an 8 year old.

[MrCoffee]

33. That is truly a horrific story

and personally, i'm sorry for the pain it's caused you and your son. but, being opposed to circumcision for that reason is to be opposed to all surgeries, as they all carry the risk of surgeon error.

please don't think i'm trying to be nasty, i'm really not.

[cool user name]

16. Nope! I love my bald head and he loves me!

[SaveOurDemocracy]

18. As the mother of 2 teen boys ...

I find it an interesting question. Yes, both circumcised. It's certainly become controversial in recent years ... so, I'm interested in the male POV.

[sendero]

19. Frankly....

... I'd prefer not to have a foreskin. (I don't) This is the main reason I had both my sons circumcised.

There are lots of things about penises that folks who don't have one really don't understand :)

[lynne]

20. Circumcision becomes a woman's business -

- when she must make the decision to circumcise her son or not.

[Lex]

34. Honestly--most moms I know

have let their husbands have the final say in that dept. regarding their baby boys.

That's just the way they handled the decision, though.

[Rosemary2205]

45. Not all moms have benefit of a husband.

just a friendly reminder.

[blues90]

21. I can't say now

I had no choice really , I can tell you this is NOT something I would choose to do if it were up to me .

It seemed to be the normal thing to do when I was born in 1949 . Who knows , perhaps there is a certain amount of trauma associated with this experience even if we don't recall the pain .

[Dorian Gray]

22. Do women believe it's mutilation?

I don't have children yet, but I've decided that I will allow my husband to make the decision about circumcision, as he's the one who has lived with it and knows what it means.

[Lex]

29. I've never heard any women talk about it as a major concern.

:shrug:

[SaveOurDemocracy]

43. It was the same with me...

grew up with all sisters ... didn't even think about it until the Doctor asked in the delivery room. I was totally clueless and my hubby made the call.

[evlbstrd]

23. No.

It was done when I was an infant and it's all I've ever known.

[Jon8503]

24. Naa, just worried about all the soy I have eaten now. N/T.

[Lex]

30. LOL!

You're going to go gay and your weenie's going to fall off!

[wakeme2008]

26. Those evil Air Forces Doctors took part of me away

:rofl:

[Redstone]

42. Me, too! (Didn't hurt near as bad as getting the flight fillings from a Navy dentist, though.

Redstone

[NNN0LHI]

31. I tried talking the doctor out of it but he wouldn't listen to me

I was a day or two old when the deed was done.

Don

[LoZoccolo]

32. Somewhat.

I don't think my parents should have made that choice for me, though I rarely get bitter about it and think some of the anti-circumcision propaganda is exaggerated.

I think parents should let it be; if the kid wants to do it when he grows up he can do it. You could say mine is a "pro-choice" position on circumcision. There's really no reason to make that decision for someone.

And I think it's fucked-up when a mother thinks it's her business; that's overbearing and abusive in my opinion for a parent to impose on their child's sexuality and I'd wonder about them. It would be one thing when people do it for religious reasons but there they are obeying what they see as a higher authority, not saying that it's their decision to be making.

[Left Is Write]

35. It's not my business when it comes to adult men unrelated to me...

but it's definitely my business when it's my infant son.

[CatWoman]

36. where did this come from?

:shrug:

[Lex]

37. All the other problems in the world have been solved

I guess.

[helderheid]

38. I'm a mom who birthed her son in Holland

it's not the norm there so he matches his papa, uncircumsized. My 2nd child was born in the States but was a girl so a non-issue.

[951-Riverside]

39. I do.

I think its bullshit that my penis was mutilated over some stupid religious reason WITHOUT my permission. :mad:

[last1standing]

40. Umm...I'm a guy and yes, I feel somewhat mutilated.

I wish it had not been done, but now I have no choice in the matter. If you like being circumcized, great, but I think its something that should be decided as an adult and not a decision to be made for you at birth.

On the other hand its not the biggest problem facing the world today by any stretch so I don't understand the vitriol displayed by both sides of the argument. Do what you think you need to do and let the world keep turning, I say.

[CatWoman]

41. I have three brothers

the oldest, who is 50, was not circumcized.

After he was born, it pretty much became standard procedure.

[Broken_Hero]

46. Locking

Continuation of a locked thread.

Thanks,
petersond
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