My Grandmother passed away this morning...

[slor]

she was quite sick (cancer) so it was not unexpected. I am moving to California soon, but of course, that must now be pushed back a little. We were not always close, she had a strong resentment towards white people, from her days as a maid, and just her overall experience in an intolerant town. I did not experience the extreme level of racism she had, and my Mom raised me to be accepting of others, so I did not embrace the hate. But when I had white girlfriends over, my Grandmother would sometimes let her anger fly. I am happy to say that she changed her ways, as least outwardly, towards my white female friends, including, most importantly, to the woman that became my wife. I am also happy I was able to spend some time with her last week, and to let her know that I loved her. I have been so busy preparing the house, and packing (my wife is already in Cali for her new job) and I have been going it alone, so I am fortunate, even for those few hours with her.

[Viva_La_Revolution]

1. I'm so glad you had a chance to tell you loved her...

condolences to you and your family. :hug:

[mike_c]

2. sincere condolences-- I'm glad you had that time at the end....

eom

[xultar]

3. Sorry for your loss. The last moments will be amongst your most

cherrished. I wish you and your family strength during this sad time.
Take care.

[babylonsister]

4. Heartfelt condolences, slor. I'm sure your

love was felt by your grandmother. :hug:

And damn that dreaded cancer! Who hasn't been affected by it one way or another?

[ramapodem]

5. I am sorry

:grouphug: even when a loss is expected its still tough.

[flamingyouth]

6. I am very sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[Nutmegger]

7. You have my sympathy slor...

:hug:

[liveoaktx]

8. Condolences to you....

[Rainscents]

9. I'm sorry to hear your lost.

:hug:

[brook]

10. My condolences,slor.

Glad you had that time with your Grandmother. I'm sure she was comforted by your love. Love really does transcend everything else.

Peace to you.

[LaurenG]

11. I am really sorry Slor

I am glad you got to be with her for a while.:hug:

[Wilms]

12. You and your wife helped to heal her.

That's very important for the three of you...and the rest of us.

Peace

[dave29]

13. sorry for your loss, slor

you are very lucky to have had that time. With my grandfather, when he passed, he had been suffering with Dementia for many years. When I last saw him I saw terror in his eyes... and it was one of the most profoundly sad moments of my life. He did not want to let go of my hand.

I saw his body lying in state, which brought me deep joy, much to my surprise - because you can tell the person you loved is no longer in that body.

He had many prejudices himself, specifically against the Japanese, whom he disliked until the end because they had the audacity to shoot at his airplane in WWII.

This same man loved collecting leaves, and had the most wonderful smile I've ever known.

Such is life!

[laruemtt]

14. i am so sorry for your loss, slor.

:hug:

[EFerrari]

15. I'm happy you three worked that out, slor.

:hug:

[Booster]

16. I'm sorry for your loss, slor. My own mother is 86 now and in the

past year we have been having serious problems because of my stepfather. I have a feeling I will not be allowed the luxury of mending fences before she passes away. I am sorry for that and feel there is nothing I can do - I've tried. At any rate, we in CA will welcome you with open arms - we need all the people from DU that we can get.

[misternormal]

17. My sincerest sympathies on your and your family's loss...

Be comforted in the fact that she is now in a place where there is no difference in color, race or creed, and that she has, like others before her, finally learned the truth about everything.

[npincus]

18. so sorry for you and your family.

[blm]

19. The last hours you spent may help keep a peace in your heart for the

rest of your days.

[tsuki]

20. Having recently lost my aunt (who always served as a surrogate

grandmother to me,) I am so happy that you got to spend time with her. My condolences on your loss.

[tinfoilinfor2005]

21. Those were different days, slor.

My white grandmother used to say, "I feel so sorry for 'those' people. They can't help it if they were born with a different skin color." These days it would be viewed as a racist condescending statement, but back then it was her clumsy way of trying to be understanding of people who weren't like her. But there is no color in heaven so they might be friends now. Sorry for your loss.

[wellstone dem]

22. My sympathy

My grandmother and I were very close. Peace to her and to you.

[TallahasseeGrannie]

23. Rest in peace, Grandmother

I know you will miss her.

[Erika]

24. Our thoughts are with you

Losing a family member is tough.

[malaise]

25. Deepest sympathy Slor n/t

[MoonRiver]

26. My condolences to you.

My parents are quite elderly and I expect to be going through this in the next few years. :cry:

[Libby2]

27. I'm sorry.

May she rest in peace.
May you find some comfort.

[Catherine Vincent]

28. Sorry to hear about your grandmother.

That's funny, I always though you were a female. Silly me.

[slor]

39. OK...

now I am intrigued, and please do not think I am offended. Why did you believe me to be female?

[OhioChick]

29. My Condolences to You and Yours.........

:grouphug:

[poverlay]

30. Grandmothers are magical beings. Everyone needs a Grams, Bumps,

Nanie, etc....

[WinkyDink]

31. God bless you and your Grandmother.

Take care.

[Raffi Ella]

32. so sorry for your loss slor

My deepest sympathies and prayers are with you today.

[FreedomAngel82]

33. Aw I'm sorry for your loss

:hug: I'm glad your grandmother changed though. Sometimes it is hard especially when you're stubborn.

[Rocknrule]

34. I'm sorry to hear that

My grandfather also passed away recently, apparently of natural causes. It's always hard to lose someone this close, I know.

[newyawker99]

35. I send my condolences to you and your family.

May your grandmother rest in peace.

:hug:

[Delphinus]

36. My sympathies are with you, slor.

And what a gift, to be able to spend some time with her before she died. It also sounds like you were able to let her see a different view of life.

:hug:

[hopein08]

37. My deepest sympathy...

Lord, make us instruments of your peace. Where there is hatred, let us sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is discord, union; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where there is sadness, joy. Grant that we may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love. For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen.

St. Francis

[slor]

38. Thanks to all of you for your kind words...

and please know that they mean a great deal to me.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

40. My thoughts, prayers, deepest sympathies and condolences

Are extended to you and your family on the loss of your grandmother:hug: May she rest in peace

[MissB]

41. I am sorry for your loss

and glad you were able to spend time with her before she died.

:hug:

[area51]

42. Condolences

I'm so sorry for the loss of your grandmother, slor.

[alcibiades_mystery]

43. For some reason, I'm reminded of Chris Rock's bit

on the older black guys being the most bigoted because of what they were put through: "Cracker ass cracker fucking motherfucking cracker."

My condolences for your loss.