Young Turks: Study Explains When Most Relationships End

[CherylK]

Run time: 05:53 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYTdNFdqEXQ   Posted on YouTube: September 19, 2009 By YouTube Member: Views on YouTube: 0   Posted on DU: September 21, 2009 By DU Member: CherylK Views on DU: 1088

 
http://www.happenmagazine.com/magazine/article0.aspx?articleid=9054

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[rainy]

1. they are full of s#&*. A four year old cannot go out in nature and fin for itself.

The four year reasoning of those two is ridiculous. Romantic love is not all there is to relationships. That is what brings two together but it is not what holds them together. What about siblings? Grandchildren, blood, family?

Humans were meant to mate for life.

[ihavenobias]

2. Way to back up your position.

I assume you (didn't) read the linked story? It's not the "reasoning of these two", it's the conclusion reached by anthropologist Helen Fisher after she studied a ton of data from almost a hundred countries.

[izquierdista]

5. And yes, a 4 year old can fend for itself

The biological definition of "fend for itself" means old enough to fit in with the social structure of the group. By age 4, most humans are not totally dependent on the mother and can tell an adult what their needs are.

[Demit]

4. Romantic love is a fairly recent rationale for getting married. For centuries it was PROPERTY.

And protecting the legitimacy of bloodlines—again, for protecting property.

[debbierlus]

6. Best marry someone whom you really, really like as a person

And, friend.

Romantic love will invariably ebb and flow.

[RC]

7. All a child needs to do is be old enough to help his mother.

Four year olds can do that.
"Humans were meant to mate for life." That may be the ideal, but it is not so. That is a religious tenet anyway.
Humans are by nature serial monogamists. The length of time of staying together also depends on how many kids are produced. Why do you think there are so many divorces after 20 years?

[Warpy]

8. The alternative to living in a monogamous nuclear family

is not fending for oneself in the wild and never has been.

You need to reconsider. This really is a silly false choice.

[edc]

9. Actually there is no biological evidence

to support that position. Our closest biological relatives, the chimpanzees, live in groups dominated by male hierarchies. The father doesn't really leave the mother so much as he moves on to other females in the group if he is dominant enough. Chimps mature by the age of 3 or 4, at which time they tend to leave their mothers and become status members of the group. The major difference between us and them is that we have opposable thumbs, bigger brains, culture and our offspring take longer to mature. What we have most in common is that we like to fuck all the time with as many different partners as possible until reigned in by our culture..

[damntexdem]

3. After one of the principals says s/he won't vote for the compromise negotiated over several months?

When one of them yells "you lie" when the other has the floor to speak?

When one of them says that rejecting needed reform will be the other's Waterloo?

I was just wondering when the relationship would finally hit the rocks for good!