Adoption & Truth

[me b zola]

Run time: 04:28 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WDX9LBTPs2o   Posted on YouTube: June 11, 2009 By YouTube Member: AACEducation Views on YouTube: 5761   Posted on DU: December 17, 2010 By DU Member: me b zola Views on DU: 320

 
This video speaks much more eloquently then I ever could about the challenges of being an adopted person. I love my deceased parents dearly, but I have always had a searing need to know my roots, to find my birth mother.

Closed adoptions are cruel, and I am just barely, at 47 years old, finding my medical history. Can you imagine not having a medical history? So many things that non adopted people take for granted and can not even begin to understand.

I have found my biological father and his family. He is a prick, and my brother and sister from him still to this day do not know that I exist. At least, though, I know where most of my looks come from, and my autoimmune diseases too.

Much love to other adoptees out there. Our day will come.

[me b zola]

1. kick

because I'm self-absorbed and I love my OP

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3. ; I loved your op too.

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2. another 49 year old adoptee here

who agrees 100%. It really aggravates me when it seems like whenever there is any kind of congressional testimony from adoptees they always seem to hear from teenagers or very young adults that "don't want to know."

I found out just this year that I have an autoimmune liver disease. It sure would be nice to have a medical history. And nice just to know.

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4. There is a whole lot of propaganda to keep us from looking

...and it has mostly worked on me. Of course I was raised Catholic, so guilt does work well on me. But if you push past the institutions that have a bias toward women giving their children to adoption, you will find voices calling for our rights to know. I was shocked to find that many birth mothers are speaking out against the secrecy. They want and need to know as much as we do.

I was given a name at birth (that was taken away with my adoption) and a short biography of my birth families. My original last name is extremely uncommon, that is how I found my birth father. He, as I stated earlier, is a prick and refuses to tell me my birth mother's name. I have been very fortunate, though, to have developed a relationship with his sister, my auntie, who has told me a bit of my history. It is a bit tricky, though, as she is a tea partier. So I walk a thin line in allowing her to know who I am without offending her.

I wish you the best, and although I really don't have any magical solutions, I would be willing to help you in any way that I can. We all deserve to know. Click the link at the bottom of my page, you'll be an emotional wreck for a little while, but in the end you will know that you are not alone.

[me b zola]

5. kicking for other adoptees

We deserve to know the truth.

[me b zola]

6. yeah, another kick for adoptees

:hug:

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7. My mom gave her first baby away in 1947..and about 40 years later I got a letter from that" baby"

via my aunt who had been contacted by her. She so wanted to become a part of my family..but we were not really a nice family...pretty dysfunctional, my mom bordered on being abusive...I never replied to her letter. I thought that maybe her idea of a big, happy family was better than the truth. Was I wrong? I could probably still contact her.